Testosterone-Deficient Gamma Male Whines About the ‘Friend Zone’ (post from The Other McCain) – AKA, Ugly, Fat, Weird, Awkward, or Poor Nice Guys Who Unrealistically Expect to Attract Rich, Pretty, Thin, Socially Normal Women

Testosterone-Deficient Gamma Male Whines About the ‘Friend Zone’ (post from The Other McCain)

I have blogged on this before: Men who complain they cannot get girlfriends and yet, they say, they are so darn “nice.”

I’ve also noticed, like the author of The Other McCain blog, that quite often, many men are unrealistic about women, or the kind of women they can hope to attract:

A fat, ugly, stupid, impoverished man, who is a “one” or “two” on a scale of desirability of 1 to 10 (with one being loser and ten being a winner), will keep seeking out women to date who are above a “5.”

Such men will go after 9′s and 10′s, even.

Such entitled ugly, stupid, and poor men do not seem to realize they are doomed to live life alone unless they lower their expectations.

If you are a 46 year old, 500 pound, bald, toothless man, guess what? A woman who is 24 years old, with big boobs, a tiny waist, and of super model good looks, is NOT going to sleep with you, date you, or marry you.

Accept the reality and start seeking out women on YOUR LEVEL: other 46 year olds who are chunky and missing teeth. Then and only then you might start hitting it off with the ladies.

Here’s the post:
(Link): Testosterone-Deficient Gamma Male Whines About the ‘Friend Zone’ (post from The Other McCain)

Excerpts -McCain starts off quoting Tognotti:

    Hello. My name is Christopher Tognotti, and I’m no good with women.

    This is a slight generalization, perhaps, but that’s how it feels.

    Whether I’ve been bright-eyed or gloomy, fat or slender, young(er) or old(er), the ladies have never seemed to love me quite as much as I love them. My days as a fit gym employee involved no more fulfilled loves than my days now as a portly writer.

    Let me lay it on the line: At nearly 28 years old, I’ve never been in a proper relationship. Even further — I’ve never actually been on a date with anyone I felt a real flare of passion for.

McCain’s comments:

    OK, here’s your first big clue: Tognotti’s complaint is not that he gets zero action, but rather that he can’t get any action from girls he actually finds attractive.

    His problem, therefore, is that he imagines himself entitled to be with good-looking women, rather than being forced to make do with the ordinary-looking women who are actually interested in him.

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Having Sex in Restaurant Bathrooms is Now A Thing

Having Sex in Restaurant Bathrooms is Now A Thing

I don’t even like using public bathrooms for their intended purpose. I couldn’t imagine using one for sex.

One guy interviewed said he’s caught people having sex while laying down on the restaurant bathroom’s floor. I don’t even like walking on those floors to get to the sink to wash my hands, there is no way I can fathom laying on the floor for any reason, never mind the whole having sex thing.

(Link): Stall Tactics: Getting It On in Restaurant Restrooms Is More Common Than You Think

    April 2014

    When Constantine Stavropoulos first opened Tryst in Adams Morgan, he couldn’t figure out why the wall-mounted sink in the men’s restrooms kept breaking.

    “I was really going crazy, like what is going on here?” he recalls. Then he came across a website—he doesn’t remember which—that listed Tryst’s restrooms as a hotspot for, well, trysts.

    “I had one of those ah-ha moments,” Stavropoulos says. “That explains everything.” So he installed legs to reinforce the sink. And the lesson stuck with him as he opened other restaurants: Don’t use wall-mounted sinks.

    Sex in restrooms is, after all, a fact of restaurant life. And while D.C. may have a reputation as a buttoned-up town, restaurant and bar owners know better. “They’re buttoned-up, except when they’re in the bathroom having sex,” says Derek Brown, who owns several bars, including The Passenger and Mockingbird Hill. “I think there’s a lot of it.” He speculates that D.C. has a lot of people with a lot of stress, and, you know, what better way to relieve it?

    Whether it’s a dive bar or an upscale restaurant, no establishment seems to be exempt from the sexcapades of patrons (and staff). For the first time this year, Washington City Paper added a new category to our Best of D.C. readers’ poll: Best Restaurant to Bang in the Bathroom. The No. 1 write-in response? “Gross.” But that was followed by Nellie’s Sports Bar, The Coupe (also owned by Stavropoulos), and The Palm.

    … Most restaurant and bar staff will, however, try to prevent things from getting to that point by reminding couples headed into a restroom together that only one person is allowed in at a time. “That’s generally a preventative enough measure,” says The Passenger’s Brown. “When people do this, there’s the thrill of getting caught, but they don’t want to get caught. That’s not the fun part.”

    … If they can’t keep people out in the first place, there’s the uncomfortable business of interrupting mid-act. For restaurateur and barman Todd Thrasher, the story that sticks with him most happened when he was a 26-year-old bartender working at the now-closed Café Atlántico in Penn Quarter. The restaurant used to have crazy Saturday night dance parties. One night, as he was knee-deep in making mojitos and caipirinhas, a woman told him two girls had locked themselves in the multi-stall restroom. Thrasher knocked first but didn’t hear anything, so he pushed the door open to find the women almost completely naked on the floor. “One girl was on her back. The other girl was doing what she had to do to the girl with her feet against the door,” he says. “I’m like, ‘Ladies, you really can’t be doing this here. There’s a stall right there!’”

    Thrasher says they ultimately put on their clothes on and left—“with their boyfriends.”


(Link): Man Had Sex With Sandwich Shop Window

(Link): Sex Makes People Do Stupid Things – New Jersey brokers accused of using client home for sex fests

(Link): Weirdo Dude Arrested for Having Sex with Raft and Pumpkin

Neither Fully Widow Nor Fully Wife – Married People Will Be Single Again

Neither Fully Widow Nor Fully Wife – Married People Will Be Single Again

I’ve blogged on this before: married people left single again in a sense because their spouse developed dementia.

The church – run by married couples – makes an idol out of marriage, treats singles like second class citizens, or doesn’t take notice of singles, and it never seems to enter their minds that one day their spouse will be dead, either of old age, or possibly prematurely in their 30s, 40s, 50s from an auto accident, cancer or some other incident or health problem.

Your spouse could divorce you when you’re both 38 years old – maybe he says he’s fallen out of love, or he wants to run off with another woman.

If a woman’s husband is physically or emotionally abusive, she may have to divorce him.

Being married now is not a guarantee you’ll be married tomorrow or five years from now.

This is one reason it is to the benefit of married people to keep and maintain friendships with other people outside their immediate family (like hey, single adults).

Here’s another article about married people being, in effect, in a manner of speaking, left single again because their spouse has dementia.

(Link): Neither Fully Widow Nor Fully Wife

    Alzheimer’s puts caregivers in painful in-betweens.
    Jamie A. Hughes, guest writer

    … But for my grandmother, the outcome isn’t so promising, as her husband will continue to lose abilities with each passing year. She is one of 15 million people in the United States caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia.

    According to a recent report by the Alzheimer’s Association, more than 5.2 million Americans are affected by this disease, and the number is expected to climb to 13.8 million by 2050.

    … Women bear the brunt of this illness in more ways than one. Not only are we more likely to be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, but we also shoulder the burden of being primary caregivers. (Between 60 to 70 percent of people nursing a loved one with this condition are female.)

    …2 Corinthians 9:11 says that Christians are “enriched in every way to be generous in every way” (NKJV), but I lost sight of that in the confusion of shifting family dynamics.

    My grandfather struggled to pray at family gatherings, so my uncle assumed the task. Another person absorbed his duties around the house. Others became the handyman, bookkeeper, and financial planner.

    Though I did whatever I could to help my grandfather, I rarely spared a thought for my grandmother. I didn’t fully understand how this disease has eaten away at her life and sense of self.

    I came to see that she, too, was mourning—both for herself and the man she’s loved for 58 years, the one she’s losing to a pitiless disease that scours memories from the gray grooves of his brain.

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Married Preacher, Father of Eight Kids, Used Nanny as Sex Object – update on Phillips story

Married Preacher, Father of Eight Kids, Used Nanny as Sex Object – update on Phillips story
WARNING. Post ahead contains some sexy scenarios, some adult material, if you will.
I have written of this story before – twice. Here’s yet another update on the Phillips saga.

Most Christians don’t support folks like me, who have stayed virgins into our 40s or older – I’ve never been married, but had wanted to be – but instead, Christians preach repeatedly on the importance of marriage and having children. They claim to defend and revere “family values.”

Christians pay attention to marriage, married couples, and children and parenting all the time, but do little for or about older singles.

I’m treated like persona non grata, or like a leper, depending on which denomination we’re considering, for being a childless, never married, 40 something virginal woman.

But these guys who work as preachers who espouse the “nuclear family” ideal, who are married, some are fathers, get caught in affairs all the time. They are such flaming hypocrites it makes me want to form a fist and punch a hole in the wall.

Instead of Christians harboring the unfair stereotype that never married men past age 30 are child molestors, given the staggering amount of news items I keep seeing of MARRIED CHRISTIAN MEN (see this link for examples) who are using prostitutes, having affairs, molesting kids, and acting inappropriate towards young women, I think the stereotype needs to be dropped.

It’s much more accurate for Christians to suspect married men of sexual sin than un-married ones.

We have an update on another married preacher, a marriage- and- family idolater, Doug Phillips, who apparently cheated on his wife, which you can read at (Link): Spiritual Sounding Board
- under the “Lourdes Torres, Alleged Victim in the Doug Phillips (Vision Forum) Sex Abuse Scandals Files Lawsuit” post which was published April 15, 2013

And here:
(Link): Lawsuit claims S.A. religious leader preyed on his kids’ nanny

And here:
(Link): Sex Scandal Rocks The Duggars’ Christian Patriarchy Movement

    The far-right Christian Patriarchy—brought to American audiences by the Duggar family—is on the verge of collapse after a series of alleged sex scandals involving the movement’s leaders.

And here:

(Link): Pastor accused of ‘using nanny [Lourdes Torres] as sex object’, from WND

This has nothing to do with anything, but in some of the photos, particularly the “red dress” photo, Torres looks like British R&B singer Amy Winehouse.
Compare (Link): Torres’ Photo with (Link): Amy Winehouse photos and tell me if they don’t look like they could be sisters. Anyway…..

Excerpts from WND article:

    April 2014

    Lawsuit claims religious leader promised to marry young woman after wife dies


    (Warning: This story contains explicit descriptions of alleged sexual conduct described in a lawsuit and may be offensive to some readers.)

    The former leader of a popular Christian ministry – who resigned from his position after confessing to an “inappropriate” relationship – is now the subject of a lawsuit that claims he “methodically groomed” and made unwanted sexual contact with a young woman after serving as an authority figure in her life for more than a decade.

    Doug Phillips, a husband and father of eight children, had been a popular and controversial figure in the homeschooling movement and a leading advocate of “biblical patriarchy” before his resignation from Vision Forum Ministries and Boerne Christian Assembly, a Baptist church outside San Antonio, Texas, at which he had served as an elder and preached hundreds of sermons.

    … According to the teachings of the patriarchy movement, also known as the stay-at-home daughters or quiverfull movement, young women remain at home under the protection of their fathers.

    They’re generally expected not to work outside their home or go to college, and they’re taught to abide by strict gender roles in which men have authority over women.

    ‘A personal sex object’

    In the complaint filed in Kendall County District Court in Texas Tuesday morning, Phillips is accused of using a woman named Lourdes Torres, now 29, as “a personal sex object” over a period of five years.

    … Torres said she met Phillips and his wife, Beall, at a homeschooling conference in November 1999 when Torres was 15 years old.

    Torres spent many hours in the Phillips home, cared for their children and helped run the family farm. She was invited on trips with the family to Hawaii, Virginia, Mexico, Florida and other states.

    Adulterer and Nuclear Family Idolater Doug Phillips Product: "Family Strategies" DVD Series

    (click the image to enlrage it) Adulterer and Nuclear Family Idolater Doug Phillips Product: “Family Strategies” DVD Series – The subtitle reads, “How to Build A Healthy Family Culture in Your Home” -I see. how does that fit a 50 something year old man hitting on a teen aged girl repeatedly?

    By 2007, according to the complaint, Phillips began “to pay special attention” to Torres, complementing her beauty and devotion to his family, giving her money, touching her, asking her personal questions about her thoughts and life plans and telling her he would take care of her.

    By October of that year, the lawsuit states, Phillips invited Torres’ family to live with him as they were moving into a new home: “Phillips entered [Torres'] bedroom and without her consent began touching her breasts, stomach, back, neck, and waist.” Torres alleges she began to cry and ask Phillips to stop as he rubbed his genitals on her and “masturbated and ejaculated on her.” She claims the behavior continued, and Phillips told her he loved her and intended to marry her and “blatantly disregarded her requests” that he stop.

    “Douglas Phillips, on the evenings he visited Ms. Torres, persuaded her that he was not doing anything wrong, that he intended to marry Ms. Torres, and that his wife would die shortly and enable him to marry Ms. Torres,” the complaint states. “He further repeatedly told Ms. Torres that he loved her, that he would take care of her, and that what they were doing was not wrong. He also stated that if it was wrong, it was completely her fault.”

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Nursing Home Hires Male Strippers for 85 Year Old Women

Nursing Home Hires Male Strippers for 85 Year Old Women

(Link): Lawsuit: New York nursing home resident subjected to unwanted performance by male stripper

    Fensterman also chided Ray [John Ray, the attorney for Bernice Youngblood and her family] for claiming that Youngblood was suffering from dementia, while at the same time noting the woman signed a power of attorney document claiming she was competent to sign it.

    “Ms. Youngblood suffers from partial dementia,” Ray said. “She has moments of partial lucidity.”

(Link): Nursing Home Stripper Scandal: “Entertainment Night” Results in Lawsuit

(Link): Lawsuit: Male stripper did show at NY nursing home

    WEST BABYLON, N.Y. (AP) — An 85-year-old nursing home patient was the victim of “disgraceful sexual perversion” when a male stripper gyrated in front of her against her will at the suburban New York facility, an attorney for the woman’s family said Tuesday.

    John Ray, the attorney for Bernice Youngblood and her family, displayed a picture of a man in white briefs dancing in front of the woman at East Neck Nursing and Rehabilitation Center in September 2012.

(Link): Man Sues Over Mom’s Nursing Home Stripper

    An 85-year-old woman with dementia had a male stripper gyrate in front of her against her will at her suburban New York nursing home, according to a lawsuit filed by her family but the facility’s lawyer said Tuesday the performance had been requested by its residents.

    John Ray, the attorney for Bernice Youngblood and her family, said the woman’s son found a photograph of a man in white briefs dancing in front of his mother when he visited her in January 2013 at East Neck Nursing and Rehabilitation Center.

    The photo, which Ray distributed to reporters, shows Youngblood putting money into the dancer’s waistband. Ray said Youngblood had been urged to participate and did so against her will.

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Chemistry of love: Using pheromones to find your match

Chemistry of love: Using pheromones to find your match

This sounds gross and weird.

(Link): Chemistry of love: Using pheromones to find your match

    By Nastaran Tavakoli-Far
    BBC World Service

    Could pheromone dating help people find their perfect match?

    It is evening at Stories, a bar in east London, and here men and women are huddled around a table full of plastic bags stuffed with t-shirts.

    They are taking out the shirts, pressing them to their noses – and sniffing them.

    Welcome to an event organised by the dating firm Pheromone Parties.

    With the online dating market now worth over £2bn a year, it is among the firms turning to chemistry to create the perfect match between potential couples.

    You can’t sustain a relationship with someone who smells really bad – you can’t!”

    They are using pheromones – a scent we all give off and which some believe plays a big role in attraction – and are encouraging us to smell our way to true love.

    The idea is that would-be daters first sleep in the same t-shirt for three nights, and then on their arrival they put these shirts into numbered plastic bags.

    If someone then likes the smell of a shirt, they can have their photo taken holding the numbered bag.

    These are then projected onto a wall, and the shirt’s owner is then free to find the person holding up their number.

Related posts:

(Link): Weird Dating Sites, Toilet Dating, Dating Sites and Privacy

(Link): How Most Americans Meet Their Spouses – WSJ

(Link): San Jose woman loses $500,000 in online Christian Mingle dating scam

(Link): Which Online Dating Service is Right For Me? (article)

A Female’s Virginity Belongs To Her – Not Her Father or Husband – Re: Christian Purity Balls

A Female’s Virginity Belongs To Her – Not Her Father or Husband – Re: Purity Balls

This story has been making the rounds the past week.

(Link): ‘You are married to the Lord and your daddy is your boyfriend’: Purity balls, in which girls ‘gift their virginity’ to their fathers until marriage, sweeping America, from The Daily Mail

While I do believe the Bible forbids pre-martial sex and supports virginity until marriage; and that virginity until marriage has been under attack from Christians the past few years (in addition from secular culture); and that a person’s choice to remain celibate should be respected by all (not mocked); that Christian parents or parents with traditional values have a right to instill Christian or traditional morals in their children, I do not support things such as purity balls.

One of my first problems with these “purity balls” is that they focus on female sexuality.

In these balls, the young ladies are forced to dress in white wedding type dresses, dance with their fathers, their fathers give them purity rings, and the young ladies pledge their virginity to their fathers.

As far as I am aware, there is no male equivalent, where young males are told to give their virginity to their mother and later, should they marry, their wife.

The Bible is clear that pre-martial sex is forbidden for all, for both genders, not just the ladies.

It is sexist and unbiblical for Christian parents to emphasize virginity only for female children.

I do not feel purity balls are appropriate for several reasons, but if one is going to hold one for females, one needs to keep things evened out by forcing males to participate in them as well, by having the males pledge their virginity to their mothers.

Growing up, I was very much turned off at the idea of marrying a non-virgin male. My preference is still to marry a virgin male.

I do feel that people who have pre-marital sex cheat their future spouse out of something that is rightfully theirs (ie, their virginity).

I know a lot of liberal Christians, emergents, and so forth hate that reasoning, but I apply it equally to males. I am grossed out at the idea of going on a honeymoon knowing the guy I have married has already placed his penis in some other woman’s orifices.

As I get older, I realize I may have no choice, because fornication is rampant these days – adult, male virgins are not exactly a dime a dozen. I’ve made peace with that.

At any rate, male virginity is not valued or upheld nearly as much as female virginity is, especially in religious circles.

I suspect one reason for this is that religious parents do not want to deal with unplanned pregnancies. Who gets pregnant from sex, males or females? Exactly.

I suppose Christian parents find it easier to clamp down on their daughter’s sexuality so as not to have to deal with birth control, abortion, adoption, and medical bills, so they up the pressure on the female children not to put out. One does not have to worry about a son becoming pregnant.

A woman’s virginity belongs to her and her alone.

At this point, I don’t even want to say one’s virginity belongs to God, though I suppose a biblical case can be made that a person’s body, sexuality and so on belongs to God (and there are biblical passages which indicate this), but God does not force Himself on people, their bodies, and their choices.

I have seen numerous testimonies by Christian women who admit to having had slept around many times over their life, and they suffered no ill consequences from that behavior.

God may call pre-marital sex a sin, but He does not enforce any negative consequences – in this lifetime- upon those who engage in such behavior, so far as I have been able to ascertain.

I actually see the opposite: I often see testimonies by Christian women on television programs who said they were big sluts, they admit they knew the Bible is against pre-marital sex, yet had sex anyway, they say they came down with some kind of awful disease as a result, but when they turned to God again, that God completely healed them of their sexually transmitted disease.

Still others said the only bad outcome of whoring around is that they came to feel empty or guilty due to said behavior, later stopped, and later met a great Christian guy who they married.

So, in spite of all the pre-marital sleeping around, they later got married, and now live happy, conventional, married, middle- class- American life styles.

Whether a female chooses to engage in premarital sex is her choice and hers alone.

I am not opposed to parents teaching their children to save sex for marriage and bringing up potential health problems involved of having sex, but in the end scheme of things, one’s virginity is one’s own, and one can do with it as one pleases.

(Note, however, the Bible does in fact teach that pre-marital sex is a sin. You can certainly have pre-marital sex if you so choose, but God does not condone that behavior.)

Forcing girls to attend faux marriage-like ceremonies where they have to devote their virginity to their fathers is distasteful, borders on incestuous, and places unrealistic, unfair pressure on these young ladies.

Give the young lady the proper moral guidance and health information she needs, and step out of her way; stop it with the purity balls.

I find these purity balls to be just as bad as the porn-i-fied culture we live in.

It’s the reverse extreme: usually in our society, people are pressured to have sex, have a lot of sex with lots of people and to start young. They are told their sexual choice to remain celibate is ridicule-worthy, shame worthy.

The virgin’s or celibate’s sexual choice to refrain from sex is often not respected. It is belittled. Virgins are shamed and bullied into acting like whores.

The purity ball is the reverse, but just as bad – pressuring young women into a sexual choice they may not want to make for themselves.

It’s telling them that their body, their virginity is not theirs, but belongs to someone else, either a father or a future husband.

I do believe one should save one’s virginity for a future spouse – so in a sense, I’d say yes, your virginity is owed to your future spouse – but at the end of the day, one’s virginity is still really and finally one’s own.

Your body is yours, not your father’s, not your future husband’s.

What I am getting at is that one’s choices should be respected. If you make all your kid’s choices for her, she will never be able to function as an adult. At some point, she needs to make choices for herself about herself, and that includes what to do when it comes to sex and her body.

Another reason these purity balls are so damaging: they make the job of all Christians (or semi- Christian, semi- agnostics with traditional values) who defend the Bible’s teaching on sex, (such as myself), ten times more difficult.

I already have an uphill battle defending celibacy and virginity as it stands, without these lunatic, crackpot fringe Christian groups holding these bizarre father and daughter virginity dances.

Staying a virgin until marriage does not guarantee great, regular sex, as many Christians like to maintain. I have numerous examples on my blog; just use the search box and type in “sexless marriage” for example after example of people who stayed virgins until marriage, but then their sex lives were terrible or dried up totally.

By the way, I am not fully on board with the “you are married to God” talk one sees pop up among some Christians. It sexualizes God and Jesus. I am an adult single – God is not my husband, and I am not “dating” Jesus.

See these links for more:

Do the people who throw these purity balls ever stop to consider that their daughters may never marry?

I was a Christian since I was a child, I was raised with the expectation that I would marry some day. I am still single in my 40s. No “Prince Charming” ever entered my life.

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Elderly Widower Dude is a Slut Says Adult Daughter – Why Churches Need to Teach Celibacy Applies to Even Married People Not Just Under Age 25 Singles

Elderly Widower Dude is a Slut Says Adult Daughter – Why Churches Need to Teach Celibacy Applies to Even Married People Not Just Under Age 25 Singles

So this adult daughter writes to an advice columnist explaining that her elderly father lost his wife (her mother) a few years ago, and ever since, he has been a big slut. (Farther below, I have pasted in her letter to Dear Amy so you can read it for yourself.)

I’d like to point out that “slut shaming” happens to men too, but I usually only hear secular feminists complain that it happens to women.

The woman’s senior-aged father is sleeping around with numerous women, he has several girlfriends at a time, but keeps each girlfriend (GF) in the dark about all the other GFs.

The daughter is afraid someone, her dad, or one of the dad’s GFs, is going to get an S.T.I. (aka S.T.D.).

This is yet another reason Christians need to get over the mentality that teachings about sexual purity and celibacy are for young singles only.

Not only do you have never-married (or not- married- yet) adult singles over the age of 30 who are trying to remain sexually pure, there are plenty of whom are still virgins, but you get these married couples whose spouse dies at some point in their lives, and they go out and start having sex with a lot of people after the death.

Celibacy is not just for young singles, it’s for ~everyone~. !HELLO, Christian culture, HELLO preachers of America!

You have married couples where one partner loses his (or her) sex drive due to stress, physical health (illness), or one or both partners find the sex boring after several weeks or months. As a result, some marriage counselors are telling such partners to go have an extra-marital fling (an affair).

I wrote about that situation here:

It’s not enough for churches to keep acting as though messages of sexual purity are for teens and college students only.

Another reason they need to step up: a lot of 20- somethings and 30- somethings today, ones who drift away from church or the faith now, reject a lot of the church’s teachings on sexuality – that is, the churches and preachers who even bother to teach that pre-marital sex is a sin at all, because many do not.

(See: (Link): Christian Preacher Admits He Won’t Preach About Sexuality / Sexual Sin For Fear It May Offend Sexual Sinners)

The problem is, a lot of these ex-Christians or uber- liberal Christian types feel that their conservative churches wrongly taught about sex. These types feel that the Bible does not speak out against sex outside of marriage, even though yes, it in fact does. So, they disregard about any and all limitations on sex at all.

Churches need to do a better job, and try a different approach of, speaking about sexual sin, because a lot of the 20-somethings are later rejecting or disregarding what they are hearing about sex in church when they later leave church.

The fact remains that even married adults need to hear sermons about sexual purity, because some of them are failing miserably at it.

If your husband takes a two week business trip, and you find yourself alone, are you going to sleep with your UPS delivery man, or next door neighbor, while the husband is gone?

If you are a married man whose wife is in the military, and she gets shipped overseas for a six month tour of duty, are you going to remain faithful to her, or whore it up with other women while she is away?

What if you’re 50 years old and your 50 year old spouse is physically disabled or gets early-onset dementia, are you going to be true to him or her, or start sleeping around?

Churches need to address those types of situations and stop assuming that sexual temptation and sin is something that besets ONLY 17 year old kids.

Here’s the letter:

Ask Amy: Randy widower worries his daughter

    Dear Amy:

    I’m really concerned my widower father is turning into something of a slut.

    My mother passed away seven years ago, and then my father had the very unfortunate luck of having a girlfriend who succumbed to cancer a few years later.

    I understand that he’s lonely, and needs affection that only a female companion would give, but he’s currently courting three women, none of whom know about each other.

    I know it is none of my business, but I am actually frightened that these women he met online who so easily jump into bed with him will leave him with an STD.

    I’ve heard that the spread of STDs is actually more prevalent among the older generation these days. What would you suggest I do to convince him that these trysts may be more than he bargained for, without overstepping boundaries?

    He’s quite headstrong and rarely listens to me; what should I do?

    — Concerned daughter

You see, preachers need to be preaching about sex in such a way that even married people understand that sex outside of marriage is SIN.

Because evidently, there are a lot of married men who feel okay and fine cheating on their wives while the wife is alive, or like the man in the letter above, they feel just fine engaging in fornication, and with multiple partners, once the wife dies.

Here was Amy’s reply:

    Dear Concerned:

    I shared your question with a spokesperson for the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, who responded:
    “While CDC continues to find that STDs disproportionately affect younger people in the U.S., it is important to understand that many older Americans face unique prevention challenges (e.g., discomfort in discussing sexual behaviors with physicians and partners and discomfort discussing condom use). It is also important for physicians to assess older patients’ risk.”

    Older men may not have gotten the memo about wearing a condom. In their randy youth, condoms were used for birth control; now they are vital disease control devices. Your father could become infected and/or infect his partners.

    Onto his sluttiness. There is not much you can (or should) do about his choice to sleep around.

    The women he is seeing may also be mutually consenting (slutty) elders, and while this prospect isn’t quite what you want for your dear dad — it is what it is and you may have to accept it and only remind him to speak to his doctor about his risks.

    Sexual promiscuity can be a sign of depression, however. If you feel he is out of control, you must do your best to urge him toward a mental health evaluation.

Related posts:

(Link): No Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity – Christians Attack and Criticize Virginity Sexual Purity Celibacy / Virginity Sexual Purity Not An Idol

(Link): Married People Who Find Themselves Single Again – Spouses With Dementia / Married People Who Are Lonely

(Link): Widower to Advice Columnist Talks about Being Stereotyped by Married Couples or Ignored by Other Marrieds Since His Wife has Died

(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex

(Link): Horny Celibacy – Another Anti Virginity, Anti Sexual Purity Essay – Also discussed: Being Equally Yoked, Divorce, Remarriage

(Link): Grieving widow doesn’t need to start dating in order to heal (letter from advice column)

(Link): Widows and Childless and Childfree Have Better Well Being Than Married Couples and Parents says new study

(Link): “Family-ing” Single Adults by D. Franck – How Churches Can Minister to Single Adults
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Pole Dancing Robots At Tech Fair in Germany (Video)

Germany: Poledancing robots sleaze up CeBIT (Video)

(Link): Germany: Poledancing robots sleaze up CeBIT

(Link): Germany’s CeBIT Has Robot Strippers, Judgment Day Draws Near

    In a move that would make Dr. Evil proud, Germany’s Tobit Software has created pole-dancing robots as their own personal “booth babes” at the CeBIT computer expo at the Hanover fairground in Lower Saxony, Germany. You can watch them creepily swivel their metal hips and probably give our future robot masters a good reason to start their uprising.

(Link): Technology gets sexy: Robot strippers take center stage

(Link): Pole-dancing robots wow at high-tech fair

The pole dancing robot video reminds me of (Link): Rock It by Herbie Hancock.

Related posts (kind of):

(Link): Weirdo Dude Arrested for Having Sex with Raft and Pumpkin

(Link): Man Had Sex With Sandwich Shop Window

(Link): Aussie Woman Marries Bridge in France

(Link): Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

(Link): Halloween Weirdness – get groped by a guy wearing nothing but underwear in a Haunted House

(Link): Chinese Singles Buy Movie Tickets So Couples Can’t Sit Together on Valentine’s Day

(Link): Weird Mormon Anti Masturbation Video – It’s War

(Link): Weird Dating / Marriage Advice by Joel Osteen

(Link): How to Poo on a Date wins odd book title prize

(Link): Weird Marriages: Woman Marries Fairground Ride

(Link): “He’s Got Muscles” – Pat Robertson Weirdness (Discussing Tebow’s Sexiness)

Married Southern Baptist and Calvinist Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

Married Preacher and Father of Boy Exposes His Naked Penis to Teen Girl in Store

News links farther below: married Baptist preacher and father of seven year old boy – who had the boy with him at the time – exposed his penis to a 15 year old girl.

One of these news stories mentions that the guy believes in Calvinism. I guess he was predestined from before the foundation of the world to flash his penis at teenaged girls?

(The purpose of posts such as this one) Countering popular Christian stereotypes about dating, marriage, parenthood, and sex:

    1. Marriage does not make a person more godly or mature
    Conversely: notice this was not a single man, an unmarried man, hitting on this teen girl, it was a MARRIED man.

    2. Parenting does not make a person more godly or mature

    3. Marriage does not make people immune from committing sexual sin or behaving in a vulgar manner

    4. Assuming this preacher in the news story below is married, married Christian sex is not “mind blowing,” because if it was, one would not find this guy exposing his penis to a teen girl to get his socks off

    5. The “Be Equally Yoked” doctrine should be discarded in- so- far as marriage and dating are concerned.

    That self- professing Christian men are just as perverted and unethical as some Non-Christian men means single Christian women might as well date Non-Christian men also.

I’d like to add a sixth point:

    6. Gender complementarianism (sometimes referred to as “Biblical Manhood / Womanhood”) is a joke: women are asked and demanded, by gender complementarian Christians, to “submit” to men, even perverts like this one, in the story below.

    There’s something very faulty with a doctrine that asks almost unquestioning allegiance and unquestioning obedience from one entire group of people (females) to another, and at that, based on something like gender.


    7. Males need to be hit harder with purity teachings.

    Instead of churches and Christian literature and blogs telling women to “dress modestly,” this is an example of how and why MALES need to hear they should keep their genitals covered up.

    If you are going to teach “modesty” and “purity” beliefs, you need to do so equally, to both genders: men need to hear that they need to mind how they dress and how much they reveal of their bodies.

    This preacher obviously feels it’s perfectly fine to whip his penis out in front of a girl, so obviously, some Christian males do not understand that “modesty” applies to males as well as to females.

Notice that although we have yet another example of a Christian man who is a father and husband (and one who works as a preacher to boot) who was arrested for being sexually inappropriate…

That most Christians will probably still continue to harbor stereotypes against adult singles and to depict all single adults (or childless / child free adults) as being sexual sinners, perverts, and harlots, even though we adult singles not the ones whipping our genitals out in front of teen aged kids.

By the way, how “godly” and “perfect” was this Baptist preacher pervert that God sent him a spouse? I mean, often, Christians will say if you are still single past the age of 30 or 35, it’s because you are a horrible sinner or deeply flawed in some way, and God will not send you, will not reward you with, a spouse, until you fix yourself, or God cleans you up.

Please explain to me how someone such as myself – I’m a normal person, decent morals, not a pervert – is still single at my age, but God permits a total pervert like this one below, who displays his penis to girls in stores, is married?

There is something amiss with the Christian propaganda that one has to “earn” a spouse by being good when I see so many reports of married Christians who are found guilty of sexually inappropriate behavior. And I see this thinking pop up on Christian blogs or sometimes in books about dating and marriage.


Before I get to the links themselves:
I have yet to figure out why so many males feel that women or girls want to look at a penis. Are these males motivated by the mistaken idea that women/girls think they are sexy to look at?

As I blogged about months ago, most females find the penis repulsive-looking, grotesque to ridiculous, and as far as looks go, size does not matter.

Most females are grossed out by what a penis looks like, not turned on by them. So it’s beyond me why males expose themselves or send photos of their genitals to women on dating sites.

Do most women enjoy a good looking man (as in a man with six pack abs, good looking face, and broad shoulders)? Yes and HELL YES. But we are not turned on by male genitalia.

We appreciate other body parts on a good-looking man but a penis is not one of them. It’s the very rare woman who gets turned on by seeing a penis. Most of us recoil in disgust at the sight.

So I just wonder about men like this who whip their penises out – either he was trying to shock or scare the girl, or he assumes she would find it sexy?

(Link): Pastor Arrested for Exposing Himself to Child in Store

    RUSSELLVILLE, Ky. (WBKO) — A pastor has been arrested for exposing himself to a child at an outlet store in Russellville.

    Kevin Lohse, the pastor of Woodlawn Baptist Church, was arrested Thursday.

(Link): Local pastor busted for exposing himself to young girl

    by Chris Cooper Managing Editor
    Feb 2014

    According to a police report, Kevin Lohse, pastor at Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, confessed to investigators that he inappropriately exposed himself to a young girl in Burke’s Outlet on Feb. 13, with his seven year old son in tow.

    The Russellville Police Department had received a report of indecent exposure at the store after a mother reported that her juvenile daughter was subjected to Lohse’s inappropriate behavior while shopping. The female stated that Lohse had a small child with him and that he possibly left the scene in a van.

    …. According to police, the video showed footage of Lohse with his seven year old son at Burke’s on the day of the incident. He can clearly been seen manipulating the zipper of his pants to expose his genitals, and presenting himself to the juvenile female who was shopping in the junior’s section of Burke’s.

    Soon after, a warrant was issued for Lohse’s arrest. He was taken into custody and booked at the Logan County Detention Center.

(Link): Facebook helps police nab Baptist preacher

    Police in Kentucky say social media helped identify a man accused of indecent exposure as a Southern Baptist pastor who was shopping with his 7-year-old son.
    By Bob Allen

    A Southern Baptist pastor in Kentucky was charged with indecent exposure in an arrest that police credit to social media.

    Kevin Lohse, pastor of Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, Ky., was arrested Feb. 26 after police identified him as the man seen on surveillance video exposing himself to a girl shopping in the junior section of a local department store.

    The Russellville Police Department posted a still image of the suspect on Facebook Feb. 17. One week and 646 shares later, Lohse turned himself in and confirmed he was the man in the security footage, according to a police report quoted by WBKO television in Bowling Green, Ky. Police called it “a prime example of community policing.”

    Lohse, a graduate of Liberty University, accepted a call as senior pastor at Southern Baptist-affiliated Woodlawn Baptist Church in June 2013. Before that he was on staff at Pathway Baptist Church Calvert City, Ky., an independent Baptist congregation that identifies with Founders Ministries, a group formed in 1982 to promote Calvinism in Southern Baptist life.

    … At the time of the incident, police said Lohse’s 7-year-old son was with him in the store. The mother who reported the indecent exposure said the suspect had a small boy with him as he left the scene, possibly in a van.

(Link): Local pastor busted for exposing himself to young girl

    February 27. 2014 2:06PM
    Chris Cooper Managing Editor

    An arrest was made Wednesday, Feb. 26th in connection with an indecent exposure case that played out in a local department store on Feb. 13

    According to a police report, Kevin Lohse, pastor at Woodlawn Baptist Church in Russellville, confessed to investigators that he inappropriately exposed himself to a young girl in Burke’s Outlet on Feb. 13, with his seven year old son in tow.

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Pastor ‘bans women from wearing underwear at his church’

Pastor ‘bans women from wearing underwear at his church’

(Link): Kenyan Church Pastor Bans Female Parishioners From Wearing Underwear

    NAIROBI, Kenya (CBSDC/AP) – A local pastor has ordered all women who attend service at Lord’s Propeller Redemption Church to refrain from wearing undergarments while attending so that they can more easily receive the spirit of Jesus Christ.

    The Kenyan Daily Post is reporting that a pastor identified only as “Reverend Njohi” claimed bras and underwear are not godly. Additionally, the paper says Njohi wants women who attend service at the church to be “free,” and that there would be consequences for those who do not comply.

    NAIROBI, Kenya (CBSDC/AP) – A local pastor has ordered all women who attend service at Lord’s Propeller Redemption Church to refrain from wearing undergarments while attending so that they can more easily receive the spirit of Jesus Christ.

    The Kenyan Daily Post is reporting that a pastor identified only as “Reverend Njohi” claimed bras and underwear are not godly. Additionally, the paper says Njohi wants women who attend service at the church to be “free,” and that there would be consequences for those who do not comply.

(Link): Kenya Pastor Orders Woman to Attend Church Without Underwear ‘So God Enters Them Easier’

    The women were reported to have adhered to the new rule and attended the Church’s following service without any undergarments. They were even advised to check their daughters were not wearing anything under their outer clothes.

    The church is located in Dandora, an eastern suburb of Nairobi.

(Link): Pastor Orders Female Members To Remove Underwear So God Can Enter Their Bodies

    Mar 3, 2014

    Kenyan pastor Rev. Njohi has raised not only a few eyebrows but red flags with his unorthodox suggestion of having his female congregants remove their bras and underwear before coming to church, so that Christ can freely enter their bodies with his spirit, according to The Kenyan Daily Post.

(Link): Pastor ‘bans women from wearing underwear at his church’

    A pastor has reportedly told women attending his church not to wear underwear so they can feel closer to God.

    The strange request was apparently made by Reverend Njohi at his ministry in Nairobi, Kenya.

    The female congregants were forbidden from wearing bras and underwear during his service at the Lord’s Propeller Redemption Church, according to the Kenyan Post.

    Njohi reportedly said worshippers needed to feel free in their ‘mind and body’ when attending, but strangely did not say men needed to leave their pants at home as well.

    The pastor added there would be grave consequences if his female members did not adhere to the new rule, which was reportedly adhered to as most women are said to have attended the next service with no underwear.

Related posts, this blog:

(Link): Church allows nude worship because ‘Jesus was crucified naked’

(Link): Preachers Who Use Strippers, Hula Girls, Topless Hunky Men, and Strip Poles During Church Services and Give Sex Diplomas to Teens – Yes, Really

Is Jesus Too Sexy? Too Sexy for His Hat, Too Sexy for His Shirt? And What About Salome in Movies? / Re: Actor Diogo Morgado and Depictions of Jesus in Movies – Including Son of God

Is Jesus Too Sexy? Too Sexy for His Hat, Too Sexy for His Shirt? And What About Salome in Movies?

Some Christians think that the actor, Diogo Morgado, who plays Jesus in the movie “Son of God” is too smokin’ hot and that this will distract audiences from the movie itself.

Some of them apparently caught on to the fact that females find the man attractive after a female journalist interviewed the actor in the past couple of weeks and kept gushing about what a sexy sex pot he is. One wonders, had this female journalist not harped on the actor’s looks, would Christian and Fighting for the Faith pod cast host Chris Rosebrough have noticed, or would preacher and Christian blogger Wade Burleson have noticed?

Usually (as I’ve blogged about a MILLION times before) males, especially Christian males, live in fairy tale land where they believe only men are “visually oriented” and only men like sex and want sex. Rarely is female libido and the female gaze acknowledged or even assumed to exist.

(Link): Audio: Fighting for the Faith: Vidal Sassoon Jesus is an International Sex Symbol? (Feb 24, 2014)

(Link): The Ugly Side of the Son of God by Wade Burleson


    by Wade Burleson

    Isaiah the prophet says Jesus the Messiah, the Son of God was physically unattractive. There is no mistake in what the inspired prophet meant when he described the physical looks of the Son of God. Listen to the prophet’s words:

    “…like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.” (Isaiah 53:2).

    The new Hollywood motion picture entitled Son of God is definitely not faithful to the Scriptures in the physical presentation of the Son of God. Jesus on the screen looks like a cross between Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp. Watching “Son of God” in a theater might make young ladies wish to “Kiss the Son” (Psalm 12:2) physically, rather than to embrace Him in faith. In our literal society, where the visual visceral always seems to trump eternal realities, one might walk away from the move Son of God being more enraptured with the good looks of Jesus than the good news of Jesus’ Kingdom.

How often, I wonder, do male Christian pundits worry that the actresses who played Salome in various screen adaptations of the life of Jesus were too sexy and come hither?



The Salome character, in her thick eye liner, harem costume, and sexy dance routine, has been in two or three of the TV or movie productions about Jesus Christ, including the 1970s mini-series “Jesus of Nazareth,” (directed by Zeffirelli) and 1961′s King of Kings, and I don’t ever recall a Christian male writing concerns about the Salome character being too attractive. Why is that?

(Link): IMDB: Son of God

(Link): #HotJesus: Must He be sexy?

(Link): Diogo Morgado Inspires Hot Jesus Hashtag; Actor Playing ‘Son Of God’, May Be Too Sexy

    Have depictions of Jesus gotten too sexy over the years?

    The actor playing Jesus in the new ‘Son of God’ movie has inspired the #HotJesus hashtag that is taking Twitter by storm and causing some to wonder: Why does Jesus have to be sexy?

    In a witty op-ed, CNN anchor Carol Costello raised the issue of why a divine but still incarnate historical figure must be portrayed as handsome, buff or “physically perfect.”

    We actually don’t know what Jesus looked like. We do know he was a carpenter, so perhaps Jesus was buff. But, I don’t think when the Biblical Nathaniel asked, “Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” and Phillip answered, “Come and see,” they were talking about Jesus’ beautiful face or chiseled abs.

(Link): CNN’s Carol Costello Has a Problem with ‘Sexy’ Jesus

(Link): CNN’s Carol Costello Skeezed Out By Sexy Jesus In ‘Son Of God’ (Video)

    “’Son of God’ is generating a lot of heat because Jesus is, um, so sexy!” Costello exclaimed. “He looks like Brad Pitt… The question for me became must Jesus be sexy too?”

(Link): Jesus: I’m too sexy for my cross

(Link): Diogo Morgado Puts the Carnal in Incarnate, But Was Jesus Really A Babe?

    Hollywood gives the son of god chiseled cheekbones and buns of steel. But what if—based on anthropological study of first-century Galilean males—Jesus had the build of a teenage girl?

Below the Right Said Fred video below, see some more links about how Christians – yes Christians – sometimes sexualize Jesus Christ and friendship and infant girls.

Right Said Fred singing “Too Sexy”

Related posts this blog:

(Link): The Sexualization of God and Jesus

(Link): Ever Notice That Christians Don’t Care About or Value Singleness, Unless Jesus Christ’s Singleness and Celibacy is Doubted or Called Into Question by Scholars?

(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”

(Link): Article: My Savior My Spouse? – Is God or Jesus Your Husband Isaiah 54:5

(Link): Dating Jesus / Oh No I’m Single! (videos) – for single unmarried Christians

(Link): Superman, Man Candy -and- Christian Women Are Visual And Enjoy Looking At Built, Hot, Sexy Men

(Link): Christians Who Sexualize Female Infants and Who Have Wacko, Weird, Unbiblical Gender Role Views They Actually Believe are Biblical / Re Botkins

(Link): Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

(Link): Self Professing Christian Guy, Closeted Homosexual, Apparently Killed His Wife (or had her killed) – Also: Christian Group IHOP Sexualizes Jesus Christ and God

(Link): Researchers measure increasing sexualization of images in magazines

(Link): Topics: Friendship is Possible / Sexualization By Culture Of All Relationships

(Link): How the Sexual Revolution Ruined Friendship – Also: If Christians Truly Believed in Celibacy and Virginity, they would stop adhering to certain sexual and gender stereotypes that work against both

Drunk Florida Woman Calls 911 To Complain Cop Turned Down Her Advances Even After Telling Him She is “So Horny”

Drunk Florida Woman Calls 911 To Complain Cop Turned Down Her Advances Even After Telling Him She is “So Horny”

Geeze, have some self-respect, lady. :lol:

Anyway, this is one of those times I am glad I am self-disciplined at the celibacy thing. It prevents one from doing incredibly stupid things, like hitting on police officers and phoning 911 after they don’t comply. It does say she was drunk, but still.

By the way, I would like to use this story to illustrate a principle I’ve talked about many a time before, one that conservative Christians usually deny (depending on what type of Christian we are talking about): women have sex drives! Women want sex, women like sex.

Too often, in a lot of Christian material and sermons, it is assumed that women, especially married ones, have no interest in sex and prefer “emotional intimacy” and good conversation to having sex. I think stories like this shoot that theory out of the water.

I’m not sure, but I think this woman is married, or was. Several of the articles mention that she has a step son. If she is married, you know what that means, it means (Link): THIS.

(Link): Woman Accused Of Calling 911 When Cop Won’t Have Sex

(Link): Florida woman calls 911 hoping to have sex with cop

(Link): Florida woman calls 911 after officer declines to have sex with her

    By Adrienne Cutway, Orlando Sentinel
    11:22 a.m. EST, February 25, 2014

    A Florida woman was arrested after she called 911 to complain that the officer who had been at her home earlier denied her advances and refused to have sex with her, NBC-2 is reporting.

    An officer originally came to Maria Montenez-Colon’s Punta Gorda home Friday night after she called saying she wanted her Corvette back, a car she had signed over to her step son after her husband died.

    The officer tried to explain that Montenez-Colon, who was reportedly intoxicated, should call the non-emergency line in the future but she was more interested in trying to touch the officer’s chest and arms, telling him she hasn’t had sex in years and “I am so horny,” the TV station reports.

(Link): Florida woman who hasn’t ‘been penetrated in years’ arrested for hitting on police officer


    In News by Brian AbramsFeb 25, 2014

    “I haven’t been penetrated in years,” Montenez-Colon allegedly told the officer. ”I am so horny.”

    Then the 58-year-old woman made her move. “You can fuck me,” she said. Mugshot is below.

(Link): ‘Horny’ and drunk Florida woman arrested for calling 911, begging cop for sex: report

    Maria Montenez-Colon, of Punta Gorda, Fla., was arrested Friday night for misuse of 911 after she allegedly asked a responding officer for sex because she had not been ‘penetrated in years.’

    TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 25, 2014, 7:06 PM

    A Florida woman who described herself as “horny” allegedly summoned a cop to her home and tried to have sex with him — pleading “I haven’t been penetrated in years!”

    Maria Montenez-Colon, 58, was arrested Friday night in the misuse of 911.
    The officer drove to her home in Punta Gorda after she reportedly told a dispatcher that she wanted her late husband’s Corvette back after giving it to her son, authorities said.

    But it appears she really wanted to satisfy her lust for lawmen.

    The cop says Montenez-Colon was drunk when he arrived and immediately started making sexually suggestive comments such as “You are so sexy” and “Are you married?”

    But she saved the most lascivious for when he asked how he could help her.

    “You can f–k me,” she said, according to an arrest report obtained by The Smoking Gun.

    She allegedly grabbed the cop’s arm and tried to rub her hands across his chest so he told her that her behavior was inappropriate.

    “I’m bad, I know,” she replied, the report states.

    Before leaving, the officer gave Montenez-Colon his business card and advised her to call the police department through a non-emergency line for non-emergencies.

    Despite this advice, Montenez-Colon dialed 911 a second time to say the last officer “p-ssed her off” and asked to see another.

Related posts this blog:

(Link): Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)

(Link): Uganda President Says Hetero Female Virginity Causes Lesbianism

(Link): Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

(Link): Do men really have higher sex drives than women? (article/study)

(Link): Women Are Visual And Like Hot Looking Men (Part 1) Joseph in Genesis Was A Stud Muffin

(Link): Top five women’s sexual fantasies in 2013

(Link): Letter to Advice Columnist: Husband Upset That Wife Masturbates

(Link): Groundbreaking News: Women Like Sex (part 1, 2) (articles)

(Link): Boy Bands, Rock Singers, and Other High School Crushes – Yes, Women Are Visually Stimulated and Visually Oriented

(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”

(Link): Some Christian Women Use Pornography – No Duh. I’ve been saying this all along.

(Link): Superman, Man Candy -and- Christian Women Are Visual And Enjoy Looking At Built, Hot, Sexy Men

Forced Child Marriages in Canadian Jewish Cult

Forced Child Marriages in Canadian Jewish Cult

h/t to The Friendly Atheist blog, which is where I first heard of this.

Not sure if I should weep or laugh that nutty views about family and children and procreation and such are not limited to Neo Reformed, Baptist, Evangelical, and Fundamentalist forms of Christianity but span to other religious faith traditions.

God only knows what type of demented, sexist crap this group taught about females – most religious groups blame and shame women, blame them for causing male sexual sin WHILE exploiting the females sexually (religious guys tend to be big hypocrites in this area, in other words).

(Link): ‘Jewish Taliban’ Lev Tahor Sect who Kept Girls in Basement Charged with Sexual Abuse


    According to the documents, girls as young as 13 were imprisoned in basements and girls aged 14-15 were married to old men in the group. One woman said she was struck with a belt and a coat hanger and a pregnant 17-year-old girl said she was beaten by her brother, sexually abused by her father and married by force to a 30-year-old man when she was 15.

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Church allows nude worship because ‘Jesus was crucified naked’

Church allows nude worship because ‘Jesus was crucified naked’

I’m pretty sure Jesus’ nudity was part of the shame and humiliation he felt while on the cross and was not something intended to be emulated by His followers, anymore than God meant for Christians to go around wearing a crown of thorns on their heads.

Pertinent verses and passages:

Genesis 3:

    He [Adam] answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

    11 And he [God] said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”

    21 The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them.

And, from the Old Testament, God said he did not want to see the bits and pieces of male priests as they walked up the stairs in the temple, hence:
Exodus 28: 42, 43

    42 “Make linen undergarments as a covering for the body, reaching from the waist to the thigh.
    43 Aaron and his sons must wear them whenever they enter the tent of meeting or approach the altar to minister in the Holy Place, so that they will not incur guilt and die.

(Link): SEE IT: Virginia congregation worships in the nude

    Parishioners of the White Tail Chapel in Southampton don various levels of dress during sermons conducted by Pastor Allen Parker in an attempt to bare their souls to Christ.

(Link): Church congregation in Va. worships nude

Church Where Clothing Is Optional

Church Where Clothing Is Optional

(Link): Nude Church In Virginia, White Tail Chapel, Invites You To Bare More Than Your Naked Soul (NSFW)

(Link): Church allows nude worship because ‘Jesus was crucified naked’

    [Photo caption under wedding photo on the page]:

    Marriage: The White Tail Chapel even hosts naked weddings. One couple to opt for the nude service were Robert and Katie Church

    Congregation at White Tail Chapel, Virginia attend church while in the nude

    Pastor Allen Parker says the idea is to ‘equalise’ everybody in front of God

    Church leader claims Jesus was naked at Bible’s most important moments

    Chapel even hosts naked weddings, with families encouraged to strip off

    A church in the US state of Virginia has taken the bizarre decision to allow its congregation to attend services in the nude.

    Pastor Allen Parker, the leader of White Tail Chapel in the town of Southampton, said he came to the decision to allow naked worship after concluding the clothing requirements of other churches were overly ‘pretentious’, and decided his own flock should be free to forgo such materialism if they desire.

    He believes he is in good company too, claiming many of the most important moments in the Bible happened while the protagonists were nude, including Jesus’ crucifixion and resurrection.

I don’t find this sort of deviancy surprising in churches, given the following:

Registered nurse, 65, accused of attempted murder ‘for injecting FECES into husband’s IV after his heart surgery’ -married people not more godly loving or mature than unmarried people

Registered nurse, 65, accused of attempted murder ‘for injecting FECES into husband’s IV after his heart surgery’ -married people not more godly loving or mature than unmarried people

(Links to story about the nurse are below this edit/ explanation)

Edit, Feb 6, 2014. ~ Explanation ~

    (For newcomers of this blog:

    I periodically blog about news stories where married people and/or parents do bad things, including Christian couples / parents.

    Why? Because in many sermons, books, blogs, and in Christian culture itself, are these stereotypes and attitudes that single and childless Christians are not as godly, mature, ethical or sexually pure as married people or parents.

    Many churches even today actually teach that a Christian woman’s only or highest calling in life is to be a wife and mother, which the Bible does not teach, and which makes women who do not want to marry or do not want to have kids – or who cannot do either thing (ie, in cases of infertility, etc) – feel alienated or left out.

    If you are married and/or a parent yourself, you probably do not pick up on these hurtful and insulting stereotypes, but we never married / divorced / and childless or child-free adults sure do. We bump into them on occasion.

    I do not think that all Christian (or Non Christian) married people or parents are horrible or abusive.

    I only cite such examples of ones who are to prove that marriage / parenting do not, contrary to the usual Southern Baptist, Neo Reformed, fundamentalist, and evangelical propaganda, necessarily make a person more holy, better, godly, loving, or mature.)

(Link): Chandler woman accused of trying to kill husband with injection of fecal matter

(Link): Rosemary Vogel ‘attempted to murder husband with poo’

(Link): Woman tries to ‘poison husband’ with feces IV drip

(Link): Registered nurse, 65, accused of attempted murder ‘for injecting FECES into husband’s IV after his heart surgery’

    Rosemary Vogel charged with first-degree attempted murder for allegedly trying to kill her 66-year-old husband

    Nurses at Chandler Regional Medical Center in Arizona caught Vogel manipulating IV line and then trying to dispose of its contents

    Medical tests of ‘brown substance’ found in IV line and on syringe needle confirmed it was fecal matter
    An Arizona woman has been charged with attempted murder after police say she injected fecal matter into her hospitalized husband’s IV line.

    Rosemary Vogel, of Sun Lakes, was arrested Thursday after a nurse caught the 65-year-old handling her husband’s IV line, which was found to contain a brown substance, police said.

    A hospital lab test identified the matter in the IV line as feces, and a trace amount of the same brown substance also was found in the needle of an otherwise empty syringe found in Vogel’s purse, according to police.

    When it was searched in the hospital, Vogel’s pocketbook contained a total of three syringes, including two with a clear liquid, police said.

    Records showed that Mrs Vogel is a registered nurse who formerly worked at the hospital, Chandler Regional Medical Center.

    Investigators plan to conduct forensic tests on all the materials involved over the next week or two, police Sgt. Joe Favazzo said.

    However, the hospital had to test the brown substance in the IV line immediately for treatment purposes.

    ‘The lab came back with fecal matter,’ he said.

    The incident occurred after the 66-year-old man had undergone a heart procedure. He’s expected to survive that, as well as the alleged attempt on his life.

    According to a police report, Mrs Vogel was sitting with her husband in a Chandler Regional Medical Center recovery room at around 1.30pm Thursday following a procedure on his heart.

    A pair of nurses walked into the room and noticed the wife in the act of handling her husband’s IV line, which caused an alarm to go off.

    Herself a registered nurse, Rosemary Vogel told her former colleagues that the IV line needed to be flushed.

    That is when another hospital staffer discovered a brown substance in the medical equipment and removed the line from the patient’s arm, noting that the IV smelled like feces, the station WFSB reported.

Related posts on this blog:

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): More Anti Singleness Bias From Southern Baptist Al Mohler – Despite the Bible Says It Is Better Not To Marry

Some Single Guy Talks About Cheating With Married Women In Essay

Some Single Guy Talks About Cheating With Married Women

(Link): Addicted to the Thrill of Sleeping with Married Women

    Why would a young, attractive, single man prefer to sleep with married women? Akhil Sharma didn’t ask himself that question for a long time— until the thrill and comfort were overtaken by something darker

I have not read the entire essay. It’s very long.

I find it interesting, because it dismantles a few stereotypes and myths that evangelical Christians like to hold and spread about sex, singles, women, marriage, and relationships.

I know if you are a long time reader of this blog, I am going to sound like a broken record, but when I write posts, I usually (though not always) assume someone brand new is visiting.

So, here is a recap:

Certain strains of Christianity (Baptist, Fundamentalist, Reformed, Evangelical), adhere to the following idiotic, untrue, stupid beliefs:

    1a. being married makes a person immune from sexual temptation or sin
    1b. married sex is always regular, hot, frequent, sexy and awesome

    2. married women are cold fish, are frigid, asexual Ice Queens, who care more about “emotional closeness” than having hot, passionate sex

    3. single (Christian) women are untrustworthy harlots who will seduce men, especially married men

This one essay shows that MARRIED women are indeed quite interested in sex, and that they possess sex drives.

It shows that married people dabble in sexual sin.

It shows that married women hit on unmarried men – the usual trope is that single women are married- man- stealing hussies.

Here are some excerpts:

    I am not sure what caused me to start sleeping with married women, especially ones who were much older than I was. The easy explanation is that I was abandoned by my mother, and so I wanted to have a relationship with someone who would comfort me the way a mother can a child. The truth, as with everything involving love and sex and loss, is more confusing to me.

He describes how an older, married woman, who was in her early 40s (“Hema”), and he a teen, lured him into sex, during a time when his brother, Anup, had been severely injured.

    The combination of sex and secrecy was incredibly potent. Standing before the library doors in winter, the wind whipping me, I would have an erection and a dry mouth.

    The secrets made me feel like I lived in a separate world from everybody else. Also, it was exciting that I could hurt Hema. I could ruin her marriage. I could cause her to lose her job. Power made me feel masculine.

    I was glad to have this power over Hema, and yet I also loved her. If I did not see her for a day or two, I became heartsick.

    …While the anger and pain of feeling second to Hema’s husband mapped exactly my relationship with Anup, anger has its pleasures. The knowledge that I was f–king this man’s wife allowed me to take the vengeance that I could not take on my poor brother.

    … For me, the appeal of sleeping with married women has always been about being miserable in a particular way. I can feel special and I can also feel unimportant. I can feel wounded and simultaneously that I am taking revenge.

    … I was accepted into Princeton when I was in the eleventh grade, and within a few months of entering college, I started sleeping with Nancy, a professor in her midforties. (Now I feel embarrassed at the pride I used to take at having older women as lovers. Looking back, I realize that these women were damaged in some basic way. Both Hema and Nancy, for example, told me they’d been sexually molested as children.)

    … Unlike Hema, Nancy was not concerned about keeping our sleeping together a secret. Her husband worked at the time in another state, and he had begun to have sex with men while away from his family.

    … When I was 19, I began seeing Susan, a woman in her early thirties; because we worked for the same company, we had to conceal our affair. Susan also wanted to continue seeing other men. I felt as jealous over this, as ashamed, as if she were married.

    … The last married woman I went out with was the wife of a friend. Brenda was beautiful, funny, smart. She was living abroad when we started our affair, and it did not last long.

Related posts:

(Link): Married Woman Carries on Extra Marital Affair for Fifteen Years – (Married Couples – Not Singles – More Prone to Sexual Sin)

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): New Study Released: Cheaters: More American Married Women Admit to Adultery (links)

(Link): Jesus Christ was not afraid to meet alone with known Prostitutes / Steven Furtick and Elevation Church Perpetuating Anti Singles Bias – ie, Single Women are Supposedly Sexual Temptresses, All Males Can’t Control Their Sex Drives – (but this view conflicts with evangelical propaganda that married sex is great and frequent)

This Unsuspecting Model Unknowingly Became the Face of Sex With ‘Old, Obese Men’

This Unsuspecting Model Unknowingly Became the Face of Sex With ‘Old, Obese Men’

(Link): This Unsuspecting Model Unknowingly Became the Face of Sex With ‘Old, Obese Men’

    When stock modeling goes horribly wrong.

    By Laura Stampler
    Nov. 06, 2013

    It’s hard out there for a stock photo model.

    Innocuous photos of ladies cavorting with salads or literally banging their heads against walls provide prime Internet fodder. But this week, one particular stock model gained social media fame after her photo appeared next to the following Guardian headline:

    “I Fantasize About Group Sex With Old, Obese Men”

    Approaching it with a good sense of humor, the Guardian tracked down the model, Samantha Ovens, to clarify no, “I do NOT like sex with old, obese men.”

    Ovens, 38, posed for the photo in a “Colds and Illness” shoot, not a fantasy gone wrong session.

    “I opened it up when I was with some friends,” Ovens told the Guardian. “In fact, I was with my partner’s mum as well. I screeched with laughter and said: ‘Oh. You have to see this.’ There’s me looking very anxious, and I bloody well would be, wouldn’t I?”

    She’s content with her female partner and isn’t in the market for portly geriatrics.

Why I Post Anonymously ( Part 2 – the John Hugh Morgan Fiasco )

Why I Post Anonymously (Part 2 – the John Hugh Morgan Fiasco)

The Year Long Soap Opera of Being Pressured and Harassed Into Giving My Real Name

I wold advise you to read this whole post to get the full picture, but there is a kind of TL;DR thing at the bottom.

Here is part 1:
(Link): Why I Post Anonymously (Part 1)

I originally had much of the following content in ‘Part 1,’ but it was getting out of hand, making that post too long, and going off on a tangent, so here is that material in its own post.

What I will do is give some history and background first.

About a year or two ago, I got a new blog visitor, a guy who posts under the name John Hugh Morgan (aka johnhughmorgan3 ~ Twitter handle = @JohnMor13413450. He has a blog on Word Press, (Link): Christian Virtue in the 21st Century).

January 4, 2014 update:

Morgan has now set his “Christian Virtue in the 21st Century Blog” to private.

One must have his permission to view his blog.

However, you can still view and read the blog via Google Cache. For example:
A copy of this “Maidens” post that I make a reference to in this post can be viewed
(Link): here – cached version of “Maiden” post

I don’t know if Morgan did this today or yesterday, but one thing is certain: he continues to visit this blog and reads it. :lol:

The dude scolds me about not posting under my real name, in that he apparently feels people should post under their real names to be considered “credible” (and transparent and the like), but then goes and sets his whole blog to private.

What is it this guy is trying to hide? I thought the whole purpose of blogging under one’s real name (according to him) was to be open and viewed as trustworthy?

I may be blogging under a “pen name” here, but my blog is open and visible to anyone who drops by.

It’s quite the double standard to lecture someone for not blogging under their real name, implying they are untrustworthy, deceptive or shady, but then pretty much acts shady and dishonest, or suspicious and odd, while blogging under their real name. :lol:

—-Update Jan. 21, 2014.—-

Morgan has since set his blog back to public:
(Link): Christian Virtue in the 21st Century

Morgan seems to mirror the stuff I discuss on my blog, after I blog about it first.

I do believe I was blogging about feminist “slut shaming” rhetoric and its effect on views of virginity and celibacy, and how such views have seeped into Christian culture, before he was, but he feels fine borrowing that topic to use at his own blog, with no hat tip to this blog.

How someone can criticize me for not blogging under my real name but feel just spiffy fine about using ideas I blog on first is beyond me.

I have no idea how long his blog will remain publicly visible. Probably until he sees I can see it again, in which case it might go back to hidden mode for a few days again. :lol:

–end of Jan 21 update—

In his “Maidens” post (view post), Morgan states:

    In order to affirm something, you must be willing to defend it.

    At one time in history, knights defended maidens at all costs. It was known as chivalry.

    So every chance we get, let’s show the world what it is missing.

    Show men with dignity and self control that they are worth more than a distrustful glance, an anonymous email, or adolescent games.

    There really is no gray area here. You either build a guy up to what he can be or you tear him down to what he used to be. It’s your choice.

Several points:

1. Vis a vis the “chivalry” type comments, of knights defending women.

Women should defend themselves. Women expecting or hoping for other people to defend them, especially men, is a form of codependency.

When I was cyber stalked previously, I had no man to defend me. I had to defend myself.

Brow-beating or shaming a woman for caring about her personal safety as expressed by her using a pen name when writing sensitive, personal information, as I do on this blog, is bullying.

It is not ‘chivalry.’ It is quite the opposite of “chivalry.”

2. Regarding the “anonymous e mail” comment.

I’m not sure if that is a veiled reference to me or not; if it is:
Morgan contacted me here. He sent me e-mails. I did not contact him first. I did not e-mail him. He initiated contact with me.

3. Re: ‘adolescent games’ phrase.

That would be him, there again, who is being adolescent.

A mature man stops at a woman’s first or second “no” when asking her for something and does not try to shame her or harass her out of her “no.”

But it goes beyond “adolescent games” to keep harassing a woman online who has made it more than clear on one occasion she does not want you bothering her for her real name.

Again, this guy does not understand or appreciate how scary it is for women on line, or how dangerous it can be, when we get death threats or rape threats from men we do not know, and it’s made ten times more frightening if the man in question knows where we live and what our real name is.

4. Re: ‘Building a guy up’.
Sorry, no. A man’s behavior or emotional state is not a woman’s responsibility.

By the same token, a man’s sexual actions and sexual thought life is not a woman’s responsibility, either, so it is in error (as many Christian men do) to tell women to “dress modestly.”

That view is identical to what some branches of Islam teach, by the way, and which is why some practitioners of Islam force women to dress in head to toe outfits called burkas.

Muslims hold females responsible for male behavior and for male sexual sin.

If you find yourself parroting Islamic views, or agreeing with them, and yet claim to be a Christian, you need to re-examine your “Christian” beliefs.

5. Regarding Morgan’s comment:
“In order to affirm something, you must be willing to defend it.”

Er, yeah, which is what I was doing on this blog for two or more years, but got beaten up for it merely for not providing all the world with my real name.

A person can defend a belief under a “pen name.” Using one’s real name is not necessary.

And as if I want a bunch of horny, mal-adjusted sexual sickos e-mailing me about sex. No thank you.

And trust me, if you are a woman and you post under your real name (and with a photo) you WILL get sleaze-oids responding to you with sick, perverted comments and requests, especially if you mention anything about your personal sex life or history, as I do on this blog.

Morgan does not have to live with a fear of, or possibility of rape, because he is a man and not a woman (assuming he is in fact telling the truth about himself and posting his true name).

Morgan keeps wanting to portray the situation of posting about sexually related stuff under one’s real name as only slightly risky and no big deal… but again, he is not a female. He doesn’t understand and doesn’t want to.


I shifted views on pre-marital sex since I first began this blog a few years ago.

I no longer defend the concept of staying a virgin until marriage per se, only that I see a lot of Christians who profess to believe in it do not really practice it or believe it, and some of them, like hypocrites, even attack the very teaching.

I’m now more speaking out against the Christian hypocrisy and idiocy of sexual teachings I see, more so than defending celibacy or virginity.

end Jan 4, 2014 update

Morgan would occasionally leave comments under some of my posts. Not a problem. He was polite, did not make any trouble at that point.

But at some point early on, Morgan began pressuring me A LOT to give him my real name, to friend him on Facebook, etc.

I politely explained that, no, I did not wish to give him my real name or friend him on social media.

Morgan backed off after a little while, so I thought the matter was dropped.

Boy, was I wrong! Morgan began pressuring me again after some time (days or weeks, I can’t recall) once more for my real name and other personal identification. I again declined.

It seems to me we danced this dance several times within the space of weeks or months, and I had to keep telling him NO.

At one point back then, he apologized. Things calmed down for a while, I considered the matter over and done.

Morgan claimed early on that his pressuring me over me giving him my real name was due to some sort of mental health issue he suffers from, if I remember rightly.

I think at one point Morgan did not drop by my blog for a few weeks, so I figured he was gone for good, but no, he started leaving the occasional post again.

I was on edge thinking, “Oh no, it’s that guy who hounds me over wanting my real name. Geeze, I hope he does not bring THAT up again.”

But, he did not hound me at that time for my name or anything. So I thought it was a done deal.

Wrong again. He began hassling me again to reveal my real name.

It’s quite common on the internet for people to use screen names. I don’t think he understands that or appreciates it.

Anyway, I called Morgan out on it once more, and I think he told me back then he was sorry, that he ‘forgot’ that he had previously asked me for my real name.

A few months went by without incident. He was just a visitor who would drop in, leave a few posts, and go.

Sometime around August, September, or October 2013, I decided to make a Twitter account for this blog.

A few weeks after I was using that Twitter account to tweet links to some of my blog posts about singleness, Morgan started sending me tweets.

Morgan was again hounding me to give him my real name, but this time, he was doing so on Twitter.

Lord almighty, what is the obsession with getting my real name?

I am no less ‘credible’ for using a pseudonym.

My posts are no less true because I am not posting under my real name of “Mary Smith, located at 123 Elm Street, Any City, USA.”

(Here is where I pick up with the comments that were originally in Part 1 of “Why I Post Anonymously” with a little bit of editing so that it flows better.)

A (now former) regular reader of this blog ( johnhughmorgan3 ~ Twitter handle = @JohnMor13413450 ) suggested recently on Twitter that my not posting under my real name damages my credibility. I don’t see how.

    Edit.January 2, 2014 update:

    This individual, ( johnhughmorgan3 ), has since, as of late Jan. 1, 2014, or early Jan. 2, 2014, deleted all tweets he made to me on my Twitter account from his Twitter account (the ones where he was again bugging me to give him my real name, etc). :lol:

    Those Tweets are no longer appearing in my Twitter “contact” area, which notifies you of replies or comments you receive.

    However, my replies to him remain on Twitter. I was not talking to myself.

    I sent him about 4 or 5 tweets, in reply to his tweets to me, where I made it clear AGAIN that I would not be giving him my real name, after he once more bugged me about about stating my real name.

    Then I logged out after posting a few links to news stories about singles.

    When I logged back in to Twitter a day or so later, I checked my “contact” area on Twitter.

    Even after I had logged off, in the time since then, he had sent me several tweets, again harping on me about me remaining anonymous.

    In one tweet, Morgan claimed he knew of people who would want to post at my blog here, if only I would state my real name. I ignored that tweet and the others. I did not reply to those.

    As far as the first batch of tweets are concerned, the ones I did reply to-

    Here is one Tweet I sent him, after he began badgering me to reveal my real name AGAIN:

    (Link): My Tweet Reply

    That Tweet to him reads:

    Why would my being anon damage my “credibility?” I useMyBlog2 rant so I guess it doesn’tBug me if ppl dn’t find me credible

But some time last night or today (January 2, 2014), the dude has deleted any tweets he sent me.

Why? He claims to be a Christian guy.

What is he trying to hide? I thought Christians were supposed to be honest, upfront, and transparent, etc.

It looks like a person posting under his real name (or what he claims to be his real name) does not necessarily make him any more upstanding, “credible,” and honest than a person who uses a screen name to blog.

I had a hunch last night that he would delete all his Tweets to me. I had him pegged for that kind of person. I find it odd, though.

So there you have it.

- Dude harasses me for my real name for over a year (though he took a break from this behavior mid year for a few months),

- then sends me an e-mail or two late Nov. 2013 saying he’s fine with me staying anonymous, then

-stalks me over on Twitter in December 2013, once again hassling me and pressuring me for my real name, getting upset when I once more decline to reveal my true identity;

- then has a melt down / tantrum (Jan 1 or 2, 2014) and deletes all his tracks (ie, previous Tweets to me) and demanding I make more changes to my blog.

And this is why I blog anonymously, folks.

Goodness only knows what this sort of person would do if he had my real name.

(The last stalker I had DID have my real name, and the weirdo would harass me at my job, in addition to my private life.)

— Edit 2, January 2, 2014 —

I just visited the dude’s blog page recently (hosted on johnhughmorgan3.wordpress.com), and the blog has the post stamped as Dec 31, 2013:

(Link): Maidens Waiting For Marriage
(* A copy of this “Maidens” post can be viewed (Link): here)

You know WHY he made that post and why he chose that day to post it?
Look at the timing: it is stamped December 31, 2013.

Morgan made that post when he did because of his recent negative interactions with me from November and December 2013, where he was once more hounding me to give him my personal information and was doing so on my blog and on Twitter. He also sent me some e-mails in Nov. 2013.

This guy, Morgan, who pestered me for about over a year (via my blog, e- mail, and Twitter) for me to give my real name goes on and on in that post ((Link): Maidens Waiting For Marriage) about how much he admires women for posting under their real names “publicly.”

I have no idea why women writing about their experiences under “pen names” rather than their real names “publicly” magically do not count for anything.

Morgan also goes on and on (in his “Maidens” post) about how he totally understands about female concerns for online safety – NO, NO, HE REALLY DOES NOT; read this entire post for an explanation of why (as well as (Link): Part 1).

Also observe my comments above how this Morgan guy deleted previous tweets he sent me, tweets where-in he was once more shaming me and hounding me for not giving my real name to him.

Why would he do that unless he feels he has something to hide?

Morgan was, I can only assume, deleting those tweets, probably so he can claim I’m making the whole thing up, or how he really is Mr. Trustworthy, or can appear to be so to other ladies online.

Men simply do NOT face the same kind of, and amount of, danger online, or in real life, that women do (see links farther below for more on that).

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Virgins and Celibates are Sexual – Not Asexual and Androgynous – You don’t have to have sex to possess sexuality – Duck Dynasty TV Show Star Phil Robertson Says Men Should Marry Girls ‘when they are 15 or 16’

Phil Robertson seen in new video saying men should marry girls ‘when they are 15 or 16’

(Hat tip to blog visitor Jane Zen who sort of suggested I do a post about this story.)

Before I give you the links to the news stories about Robertson’s creepy views that adult men should marry 15 year old girls, here are some of my thoughts.

This is incredibly stupid advice on Robertson’s part.

I am a woman. I had no idea who the hell I was in my teen years, and did not know who I was, until I got to my late 30s, because, like many females, especially ones raised in Christian families, I was conditioned (first and foremost by my very traditional, Christian mother) to look outwards, to look outside of myself, to meet the needs of other people.

I was discouraged from putting myself and my feelings and my needs and my life first; I was discouraged by Christian teachings or attitudes that appeared in books, in sermons by preachers, etc, and my Christian mother, not to figure out what I wanted out of life, and not to figure out what made ME happy.

I was taught to define myself by OTHER PEOPLE, what THEY wanted, what THEIR likes and dislikes were.

I grew up being more attentive to people around me (to see how I could make other people happy, to figure out how I could meet their needs) than I did learning about myself and going after what I wanted in life.

So I had no idea who the hell I even was until I began rejecting these codependent, Christian, traditional gender role views in my late 30s. I was not my own person until I got to my late 30s.

I think one of several reasons I have stayed single this long is because I knew, at least in the back of my mind, as far back as my 20s, that marrying would have been a huge mistake for me – I was not ready yet to marry (though I was engaged in my early 30s, but I broke that off).

Many other females are conditioned to be the same way I was. If they marry at 15, they would be nothing but a robotic “Stepford Wife.” They would not be a full partner to a man in a marriage.

Such females would be more like a naive, little daughter who needs a husband who is a “daddy figure” to protect and provide for them. There might be some men who find that sort of female appealing, but the ones who do tend to be SELFISH, CONTROLLING, and ABUSIVE.

Of course, the left wing, liberal sites are picking Robertson apart for his joke (or serious view?) that girls should marry adult men when they are 15 years old.

However, left wingers are hypocrites on this point.

Liberals are hypocrites on this topic since so many of them are fine with homosexual activists, or hetero sexual hedonists, engaging in the following:
> Preaching about homosexuality to children,

    even ones in kindergarten (who are five years old), and telling them homosexuality is natural and normal
    (and I’ve read about them teaching public school kids, via their printed curriculum, to experiment in homosexual behavior themselves – not just telling the kids what homosexuality is, but telling them to go out and try it for themselves);

> teaching kids as young as five how to put a condom on a cucumber;
> teaching children about sexual positions, etc.

At the same time, liberals are against anyone teaching these same public school children about the options of celibacy, remaining a virgin until marriage, or about the health risks associated with homosexual behavior.

Liberals think it is okay and peachy fine to teach small kids and teens that behaviors some regard as immoral are “normal,” or to teach the “facts” of sex without any sort of moral guidance, or without telling the kids that NOT having sex is a totally valid option as well.

Liberals think it’s okay to omit from lectures about sex to children and teens that celibacy is an option (they mock this, actually, when it’s brought up under abstinence teaching).

Liberals and other types think it’s fine to teach their form of sexual education, which tends to be garbage – some of it, IMO, is perverted – to five year old children, to 12 year olds in junior high, or 15 year olds in high school. But they balk at some dude saying it’s advisable for a grown man to marry a teen?

I don’t see how their views on sexual issues are any better than Robertson’s quip that men should marry underage girls.

Liberals support and promote sexual deviancy, promiscuity, and hedonism to little children as young as five years of age all the way up to college age students, and they reject teaching celibacy as an option to kids, so I think they don’t have the moral high ground here at all.

— One Does Not Have to Have Sex or Engage in Other Sexual Behaviors to Possess Sexuality —

If liberals and libertarians were as open minded, non judgmental, and free about sex as they claim they are, they would be telling kids that yes, celibacy is indeed an suitable option for life, because celibacy is another form of sexuality.

Liberals are open to any and all forms of sex except for celibacy and virginity.

One does not have to have sexual intercourse to be sexual or to posses sexuality. Many Christians and Non Christians mistakenly believe that engaging in sexual activity is what makes a person sexual; it is not.

Think of it like this: suppose you have a 35 year old, hetero woman who has had sex a 100 times with 20 different men over her life time, but in the past six months, she has not had sex with a man at all, because she’s been too busy with life, or hasn’t met any men she is interested in having sex with.

Just for not having sexual intercourse, or any other sort of sexual activity for six months, does this mean she has ceased being a sexual being? No. Having sex is not what makes her sexual. Your sexuality remains intact whether you are boinking other people or not.

See, your liberals (and sadly, some Christians, Republicans, and social conservatives) have been snookered into thinking that sexuality is limited only to the following scenarios:
full on sexual intercourse (penis in vagina, penis in anus), oral sex; two people getting naked and groping each other; or one person sticking their fingers or penis into someone else’s body parts/mouth, or that sexuality only involves other, physical acts (such as masturbation).

You do not have to be doing any of that stuff to be sexual or possess sexuality.

Most all humans, with the possible exception of asexuals, are born with a sexual nature, whether they are boinking other people or not. That is, remaining celibate (abstaining from sex) is a form of sexuality. But liberals hate teaching about that particular form of sexuality. Liberals want to tell kids all about how to give each other blow jobs or how to pop a pill to avoid pregnancy, but they are loathe to explain that remaining a virgin is perfectly fine.

I am in my early 40s and am still a VIRGIN at this point in my life. Yet, I still have sexuality. Men flirt with me now on dating sites, have flirted with me in my 20s and 30s, and they view me as being “sexy.” (I look damn good in heels and skirts, if I do say so myself). One does not have to have a penis in one’s vagina at one point, and one does not have to suck on a man’s penis, to be sexy, to be deemed sexy, or to have sexuality.

I, as a 40 something virgin, am not asexual, I do not lack libido, and I am not a frumpy, androgynous-looking being.

I will say it again:
You do not have to actually be having sex to be sexual or to possess sexuality. You already have it, you are just choosing not to express it by getting naked with another person and groping their body or sucking on their genitals or exchanging bodily fluids.

(This is also tied closely to another secular and Christian myth: that one has to marry to be considered mature or a grown up. Wrong.

One can be past the age of 30, never have married, and be just as mature as any married person. In the same way, one does not have to be having sex to be a full grown up or to be sexual.

By the way, as I have explained time and again on this blog, some married people are selfish and immature, they get arrested, go to jail for crimes, and some married people write in to advice columnists complaining that their marriage has been sex-less for many years.)

On to the links about the latest Robertson controversy, with more commentary by me below these links:

This is from a left wing site:
(Link): ‘Duck Dynasty’ Star Phil Robertson Advises Men To Marry 15-Year-Old Girls

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