Another Obnoxious ‘ Why You’re Not Married Yet ‘ Article

This is a follow up to the first obnoxious editorial:

(Link): Why You’re Still Not Married by Tracy McMillian

I read both pages (though it’s been a long time since I read part 1), and none of the reasons she cites apply to me. The woman who wrote this, McMillian, admits that she has been divorced three times – she may know something about getting married, but staying married? No, not at all. I think it better never to have married than to have married and divorced.

I think a lot of singles beat themselves up wondering why they could never marry, and that’s a shame, because I think for most of us who wanted marriage but it didn’t happen, that we don’t have any huge flaws or anything inherently wrong with us.

I cannot understand why so many people, Christian and secular (and yes, some Christians are guilty of this sort of thinking), assume that never-married people over 35 have something wrong with them; it’s a terribly offensive, hurtful, and untrue assumption.

There’s also a matter for Christian female singles that Christian females out number Christian males, so there are not enough single men to go around for single women, and that is something that Christian women have no control over.

Sometimes the right person just does not come along, and it’s as simple as that.

Here are excerpts from Why You’re Still Not Married by Tracy McMillian:

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  • [The reasons the author gave single women who are not yet married in part 1 include]:
  • 1) You’re a Bitch,
  • 2) You’re Shallow
  • 3) You’re a Slut,
  • 4) You’re a Liar,
  • 5) You’re Selfish, and
  • 6) You’re Not Good Enough
  • 7. You’re a Mess. You overdrink. You overeat. You overspend. You under-earn.
  • 8. You’re Crazy. Crazy is where you LOVE INTENSITY. You want life to bring the exclamation points!!!!!!! Normal people, and relationships? Big, noisy YAWN. You think of yourself more like Angelina Jolie when she was with Billy Bob.
  • 9. You’re a Dude. It’s not that you love the Cardinals, have short hair, or or make more money than most guys. It’s that, when it comes to relationships, you want to hunt them down and kill them. You call guys, you text guys, you ask guys out.
  • 10. You’re Godless. Remember how I said that marriage is a spiritual path? Well, we’re there. The point where I suggest something totally radical and punk-rock as a way of transforming whatever it is you have going on (or don’t have going on) in the area of relationships. And here it is: I want you to get a god.

You can read a response to McMillian’s obnoxious editorial here (by another author)  -and see more links at the bottom of this post, under “Related Posts”:

(Link): A Long Time Single Responds to a ‘Why You’re Not Married’ Article

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Related posts this blog:

(Link):  ‘Why Are You Single’ Lists That Do Not Pathologize Singles by Bella DePaulo

(Link): Unmarried / Single People Are Supposedly Bitter & Have Too Much Baggage – and that’s why you’re still single they say

(Link): The Study of Why Men Stay Single: What No One Is Telling You by B. DePaulo

(Link):  Christian Blogger About Divorce, Pastor Andrew Webb, Thinks All To Most Mid-Life Never – Married or Single – Again Adults Are Mal-Adjusted, Ugly Losers Who Have Too Much Baggage

(Link):   Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin

(Link): A Liberation Theology for Single People by Christena

(Link):  The Rise of Delayed Marriage and Female Friendship – article from The Atlantic

(Link): The Netherworld of Singleness for Some Singles – You Want Marriage But Don’t Want to Be Disrespected or Ignored for Being Single While You’re Single

(Link):  What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis (from TIME) (ie, Why Are Conservative Religious Women Not Marrying Even Though They Want to Be Married. Hint: It’s a Demographics Issue) (article is from 2015)

(Link): Slut? Selfish? Sad? No, just a single woman (editorial)

(Link): Myths About Never Married Adults Over Age 40

(Link): A Long Time Single Responds to a ‘Why You’re Not Married’ Article

(Link):  The best age to marry is when you meet the right person 

(Link):  Christians Advise Singles To Follow Certain Dating Advice But Then Shame, Criticize, or Punish Singles When That Advice Does Not Work

(Link):  Decent Secular Relationship Advice: How to Pick Your Life Partner

(Link):   Over 10 Million Men of Prime Working Age Are Unemployed in the US and Experts Think It’s Causing Declining Marriage Rates

(Link):  All The Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister  – Various Links to Reviews or Commentary About the Book and Its Issues

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(Link): True Love Waits . . . and Waits . . . and Waits – editorial about delayed marriage and related issues

(Link):  Woman Marries First Time at Age 50 – A 700 Club Episode

(Link):  Single and 40: Dealing with Disappointment by L. Bishop

(Link):  Woman Marries First Time at Age 50 – A 700 Club Episode

(Link):   It’s Not Your Imagination, Single Women: There Literally Aren’t Enough Men Out There – Re: Man Shortage – Follow Up Interview 

(Link):  The Cruel, Capricious God of Naive Christians, Concerning Singleness and Marriage – If Only You Had Waited Five More Minutes!

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