Entertainment Staple: ‘You’ve Gone HOW LONG Without Sex?’ – Meant to Produce Yuks (or sometimes, pity)
I don’t like most Rom Coms (romantic comedies), so I hardly ever watch them.
If one is shown on cable, though, I may tune in.
Last night, I watched “The Proposal.”
In the film, there’s a scene where Sandra Bullock’s character, Margaret, is talking to Ryan Reynolds’ character, Andrew. They’re staying at Andrew’s parents’ home and pretending to be engaged.
Margaret is laying in the bed, and Andrew is on the floor. In a conversation they’re having, Margaret admits to Andrew that it’s been over a year and a half since she’s had sex with a man.
Andrew looks a little surprised by this.
Seeing this scene in the movie reminded me of how often this is used as a staple in movies or television shows: a character admits to not having had sex in X number of weeks, months, or years, and the audience is either meant to feel sympathy, or pity, for the character – or else the audience is meant to find humor in the situation.
I don’t have anything profound to say about this situation, I’m only making note of how often it’s used in dialogue in movies and television shows.
It’s just another example to me of how people have wrong attitudes about sex – as though it’s unheard of for anyone to actually last longer than three days without having sex, or it’s thought of as weird or something to feel pity over.
I hope Hollywood and TV show writers stop using the “I haven’t had sex in three weeks, how awful / amazing / weird/ pitiful is that” shtick any longer.
I would like respect from Christian culture for being celibate, and I would like for older celibates to at least be acknowledged by American Chrisianity (hello, we exist!), but I find the whole pity / shock / revulsion / treating us as though we are side show freaks / disbelief (“OMG, no one is a virgin past the age of 25!”), and other such attitudes from both Christian and Non Christian culture, to be insulting and patronizing.