Family Shortchanges Singles (letter to Dear Abby)
Dear Abby: A recent letter expressing concern regarding the manner in which a wedding invitation had been issued prompts me to write you about my objection to the way singles are often treated in that regard.
We have two sons, both past 35 and professional men, who are happily unmarried and have their own homes in cities many miles from ours.
Invitations for weddings, graduations and other occasions, as well as Christmas cards, often come to us with their names tacked on as if they were still children. Anyone who does not have their addresses could obtain them with a simple phone call. Instead, we seem to be expected to call them long-distance or write to them to relay the invitation or greeting. They, in turn, have made it a practice not to attend any function when invited in this manner.
Their grandmother excluded them from her magazine gift subscription list, saying, “That is only for the married ones. They can read yours.” (No mention was made of the miles between us.)
Are single adults being treated in this manner for the purpose of saving the cost of an additional acknowledgment and postage stamp, or is it merely thoughtlessness on the part of the sender? Or are singles not considered valid social entities by some?
Abby, please let your readers know that single adults are indeed adults and should be treated in an adult manner.
[from] Steamed in the Midwest
Dear Steamed: You just did. And I couldn`t have said it better. Thanks for writing.