Let’s hear it for insomnia! Here’s another 2:00 AM post.
Bizarro Video By Bizarro Bearded Guy Giving Mostly Bad Advice to Christian Singles
WTH is this?-
Video: (Link): Christian singles, beware of divorce and remarriage adultery
On the plus side, he did offer the standard advice that Christian singles need to look for more in a mate than lots of money or good looks, but that was one of the few sensible things he said in the video.
Granted, I’m not totally awake as I’m watching this video, but the guy in the video spends the first 2 minutes apparently saying if you’re a Christian but you marry a Non-Christian, you will go to Hell- from sheer fact of marrying an unbeliever.
This host guy in the video must be reading a different Bible from me, but then, I think this is the same kook that has the ‘evangelicaloutreach’ site that teaches the heresy known as “Conditional Security.”
He’s been on the web for years, sending out lots of e-mails and letters to preachers who teach OSAS (Once Saved Always Saved) telling them they are going to Hell, and anyone who believe in OSAS is going to Hell. It’s his hobby horse.
He says that having sex outside of marriage can “lead you on the road to Hell” or it will put you in Hell. I don’t see that teaching in the Bible. There is some line in the Bible about “adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God” etc, but I take it that it does not apply to those who accepted Christ.
If anything, and as I have written before on this blog, God seems to ignore or even bless Christians who have sex outside of marriage, not condemn them for it, which makes me wonder why God bothers to say he’s against fornication in the Bible.
Video Host Guy (aka Weird Beard Dude) says not to marry Christians who don’t believe correct doctrine – this includes Christians who believe in Eternal Security. Hmm. I have always believed in Eternal Security (or, more accurately OSAS, Once Saved Always Saved). (Video Host Guy believes in the false teaching of “Conditional Security.”)
This guy is a wacko, and has too many rules about whom to marry.
I also don’t take relationship advice from men with weird beards, and his beard is weird.
I am guessing the crack pot who made this video doesn’t realize that Christian single females out-number the males, leaving Christian single females with no choice but to marry atheists and other Non-Christians.
If you were to apply Weird Beard Dude’s advice for spouse selection, you would narrow down your pool of candidates even further than they already are. No thank you, I pass.
Video Host Guy tells his single Christian viewers to consider only “Bible believing” Christians who “obey Jesus as Lord” for spouses.
Many “Bible believing” Christian men have affairs on their wives, physically abuse their wives, divorce their wives, and are addicted to porn, or else emotionally abuse their wives. So how is a Christian woman any better off with a Christian spouse, exactly?
One common thread I am seeing in people who used to be Christians but who are now agnostic or atheist is that they find Non Christians more compassionate and easier to get along with than most evangelical, conservative, or Baptist Christians, and I agree. I’ve noticed it before, too.
I have not totally left the Christian faith, in so far as I believe Christ was raised from the dead, but the rest of it? No, I can’t really say I believe in it that much any more or put much stock in it.
Weird Beard Dude also instructs single Christians in his video to be very cautious when attending singles events, because (if I heard him right), Satan will intentionally send duds your way – people who seem like good single Christians, but who are really not.
He really narrows the possibilities of any Christian actually getting married. You have to believe exactly as he does, or stay single, he pretty much advises.
He says you shouldn’t get married to a divorced guy, because to do so would be to be committing adultery. With divorce rates among Christians around 50% or so now, the chances of finding a never-married, Bible believing Christian past the age of 35 is about nil these days.
This guy is an unrealistic crack-pot living in La La Land.
Christian Pundit 
ChristianPundit – I get what you’re saying. But I disagree with you on a few points.
“There is some line in the Bible about “adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God” etc, but I take it that it does not apply to those who accepted Christ..” There are several verses in the Bible regarding this. 1 Cor 6:9 is one. I take it that it does apply. If a person has accepted Christ, they will not do those things. If they claim to be a Christian, were baptized, joined a church, etc., then they really were not saved to begin with.
“God seems to ignore or even bless Christians who have sex outside of marriage, not condemn them for it, which makes me wonder why God bothers to say he’s against fornication in the Bible.” Fornication is condemned in the Bible multiple times, including the Ten Commandments.
“So how is a Christian woman any better off with a Christian spouse, exactly?” Well, the main reason is that a Christian wife is not spending eternity is hell. I would never want to be unequally yoked to a nonchristian.
I don’t believe in “once saved always saved” as most denominations (including SBC) understand it. I put that belief in the same box as picking up rattle snakes in a pulpit.
Hey, but since you wrote it so early in the morning, I cut you some slack:)
The Bible says that people who accept Christ will continue to sin, though.
Bible does not teach Chrs will achieve sinless perfection in this life time.
Apostle Paul said he did what was wrong even tho he knew it to be wrong.
A verse in 1 John tells believers if you say there is no sin in you, you are not being truthful, etc. Sanctification is an on-going process, not instant.
God may say he does not like fornication, but he does not condemn the (Christian) people who practice it, nor does He punish them for it– they are not struck with bolts from the sky, etc. Many who fornicate do not get STDs, nor do they remain single forever (contrary to common Christian scare tactics given to teens to steer them away from fornication).
Conversely, those who abstain from sex don’t get what the church teaches them they will get: a great spouse and/or (if they marry), great sex in marriage. Many Chrs who are celibate remain never-married, and the ones who do marry often get divorced.
Re: being “unequally yoked.” I so do not care. I don’t care about eternity, I care about now.
That stupid Yoked teaching is one of the reasons I’ve remained singled so long. I had a good chance to marry a great Non Chr guy, but passed it up believing God was going to send me a Chr guy. How naive I was.
I’ve seen many Non Christian men who are kinder, easier to get along with, and more sensitive than Chr. men. I’ve seen forums filled with Chr women who were married to Chr men who beat them, abused them – and the church did nothing to help, but told them to go back and “submit more” to the abuse.
As agnostics (ex Christians) on a forum were pointing out (and I totally relate), it’s easier to get along with Non Chrs., relationships (both platonic and romantic) are ten times easier with Non Christians because there are not a bunch of additional rules and religious baggage as there usually are with Christians. R-ships (Relationships) just flow naturally with Non Chrs.
One lady said when she stopped going to church for ten years, she made new (Non Chr) friends during that time, and they were the healthiest R-ships she ever had, there was little effort, not as hard to maintain, etc, as f-ships with Christians.
I don’t see any benefit or advantage in (dating/ marrying) Christian men at all, which I already outlined in the main post, and in older posts.
When I start dating again, I’m going to date Non Christians (I’ve already made this decision), and I will marry one, if I can find a great guy.
It’s also foolish to limit yourself to Chrs only, only because there are not as many Chr single men for Chr single women.
I totally reject “Conditional Security” because if you cannot be saved by works (and the Bible says you cannot), you cannot maintain your salvation by works, either.
Since I am turning agnostic, I suppose theological points don’t matter too much. The guy in the video is a CS (Conditional Security) advocate, and he builds his entire approach to life (whom to marry etc), basically on that one narrow doctrine.