Marrying young – from “Stuff Christian Culture Likes,” by Stephanie Drury
(also indirectly highlights how many Christians have turned marriage and having children into idols)
I think there’s been a time or two I’ve disagreed with some of Ms. Drury’s (or should I address her as ‘Mrs?’ I honestly don’t know, and mean no disrespect either way), but I do agree with her on some occasions, and I think she’s providing a service of sorts in exposing some of the lunacy that goes on in America in the name of Christ.
I believe she was raised by Christian parents, but I have no idea if she considers herself a Christian now or not.
I’m not exactly sure which blog of hers is current. Her blog has been hosted on various locations over the last few years.
Not only is the post by Drury I am linking to below enlightening (and echoes what I’ve said on my blog before, see this), but read the comments at the bottom of her blog page by her blog guests.
Some excerpts, from the page by Drury:
- Christian culture gets married young. The reason isn’t entirely clear, but the general consensus is that it drastically lowers the risk of fornication. You just can’t fornicate if you’re married, and that takes care of that.
Fornication is Christian culture’s natural enemy. Bible colleges (aka “bridal colleges” – what did I tell you?) require students to sign a convenant stating they won’t drink, swear, be gay or have premarital sex. But even Christian students at secular universities roil under biblical sex mandates. When you combine guilt with evangelical horndogs you get a lot of marriage proposals and short engagements.
Even apart from the sex issue, Christian culture highly recommends getting married. The overarching message is “once you find the person God has chosen for you then everything will fall together, your life will finally start, your ministry will really get off the ground, and your problems will be solved.” The notion that your problems could really just be getting started isn’t even in their frame of concept.
….The ideal marrying age in Christian culture is 22, when you’re fresh out of college and haven’t even been to Europe, lived away from home apart from a dorm, or paid one installment on your student loan. To people outside of Christian culture this is sheer madness. But the people in Christian culture are relieved that the fornication window is finally closed and they can now set busily about writing Facebook statuses that they’re married to their best friend.
Post Script. I see that my link to Ms. Drury’s blog got a ping back, which means I may get visitors from her blog. For any new visitors of my blog: you may want to see my “About” page (I updated it again today).
Also, please realize I am not against marriage. I’d still like to get married one day myself. My problem is not with marriage itself but with the fact that most Christians ignore or mistreat unmarried people who are past the age of 25 / 30. Marriage has been turned into an idol by conservative Christians, and that’s my sticking point, not marriage itself.
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