Pat Robertson Expects Men to Commit Sexual Sin (and it’s not the first time)
Pat Robertson, evangelical host of the television show “The 700 Club,” was answering a viewer question about adultery on today’s (May 15, 2013) program, in the segment of the show called “Bring It On.”
The woman said her husband had an affair, and she was trying to forgive him but couldn’t move past it.
Robertson’s answer to this viewer is similar to previous ones he’s given, where he rationalizes and excuses the male’s sinful actions, and he continues to imply that men just can’t help it, gosh dang it, because males are wired to see a hot woman and get worked up over it, and they cannot resist.
Contra to Pat Robertson the Bible says something about the Holy Spirit giving each believer a measure of self-control, and in other New Testament passages, Paul talks about sexual behavior as though it is something that can be controlled by each believer; the Bible does not speak of sex as something that is beyond a person’s control or ability to avoid.
In his response to the married lady’s letter today, Robertson said (I am typing this from memory – though the first comment is a word- for- word quote of his; the rest are accurate paraphrases of his comments):
- “Well he’s a man, okay.”
“Males have a tendency to wander a little bit and you have to make home as appealing as you can so he won’t want to cheat.”
“The magazines are filled with salacious pictures of women”
“Everywhere there are salacious temptatations to tempt a man.”
Robertson has taken a similar position in the past, when women write in to ask him why their husband is an alcoholic; a cheater; or what have you.
Robertson’s response is to blame the woman. In some situations, and despite not having a photo of the wife, and despite the letter writer not mentioning the appearance of the wife, Robertson assumes the wife is ugly and fat, and tells her men like pretty ladies, so the wife needs to lose weight and dress nice, that if only the wife would be skinny, pretty and non argumentative, she would not give her a husband a reason to be unfaithful, get drunk, or whatever.
I find it jaw dropping, very sexist, and incredible that Robertson keeps being so sexist.
A man is responsible for his own actions. It doesn’t matter if his wife is 800 pounds and toothless; that still would not give him a right to seek out a 25 year old 120 pound fashion model to start up a fling.
If you think about it, some of Robertson’s views are sexist against men.
I’d like to think at least some men on the planet are not so prone to, or easy to, caving in to sexual temptation, mistreating their wives or committing adultery, but he suggests men are helpless against their lusts or hormones, and a woman should just accept this as a fact of life.
By the way, this gets back to one theme I have been hammering away at on this blog for over a year:
One reason that there is so much sexual sin among Christians is that there is NO EXPECTATION THAT CHRISTIANS CAN OR WILL CONTROL SEXUAL BEHAVIOR.
It is continually ASSUMED and put forth by pastors, Christian authors on dating books, Christian blogs about dating, and by average lay persons, that sex is something that cannot be resisted or lived without.
Robertson’s quotes to his viewers that I have highlighted in this post is an example of what I mean. He is not the only one, however. I see other Christians, “every day Joe’s” around the web, who make similar comments: they feel they cannot live “X” number of days or months without sex.
Pastor Mark Driscoll of “Mars Hill” church frequently makes the same assumption in his speeches, blogs, or books about sex, dating, marriage: because he cannot picture himself living without sex for more than 3, 4 days in a row, he cannot conceive of any Christian being able to go long without sex.
And of course Driscoll is not the only one. If you look around the web long enough, on sites containing blogs by Christian pastors, or listen to their sermons on You Tube, or watch Christian talking heads on “TBN,” these assumptions come up over and over and over again.
As long as Christians keep buying into the secular premise that sex is a biological necessity that cannot be resisted, and preachers do not have an attitude of EXPECTATION that Christians can and will refrain from sex, we will keep seeing Christians, both married and single, committing sexual sin.
Update: Here’s the video (at least I think it’s the same thing I saw the other day):
Same video segment hosted here:
I have other posts about this, if you’d like to see examples; here are one or two:
Here’s a video of Robertson where he defended General Petraeus over having an extra-affair (“Pat Robertson Excuses David Petraeus: ‘He’s a Man'”):
- Pat Robertson says Petraeus simply couldn’t help himself: “The man’s off in a foreign land and he’s lonely and here’s a good-looking lady throwing herself at him. He’s a man.”
I’m trying to find a link to the video where he replies to it. It might be on this page somewhere:
(Link): Pat Robertson Bring It On
Or this page:
(Link): All Videos for ‘Bring It On’
Here’s a similar viewer question and reply, but this is NOT the specific episode I am talking about in this post:
If I can find the exact page or video, I will try to edit this post later to add a link to it.
You can visit this page to see or read a whole bunch of Pat Robertson replies to questions about sex, dating, marriage:
Robertson: Women Usually to Blame for Troubled Marriages:
Other sites hosting the same video:
- No stranger to controversy, Christian host Pat Robertson told a female viewer that she should get over her husband’s infidelity because ‘he’s a man.’ He also suggested she instead focus on making their home so wonderful her husband won’t want to stray.
- Are you married to a man who committed the ultimate act of betrayal and cheated on you? Are you finding it impossible to forgive him because he ruined your relationship and destroyed the sense of trust you thought you shared? Not sure how to move on? Well, Pat Robertson has some advice for you: Get over it because men can’t help but cheat and it’s probably your fault anyway.
- Televangelist Pat Robertson is under fire once again after telling the wife of a cheating husband to get over the infidelity and provide a better home so he doesn’t “wander.”
But it was the way Robertson ended his response that set off a firestorm.
“Males have a tendency to wander a little bit, and what you want to do it make the home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander,” he said.
The Christian Broadcasting Network released a statement, saying, …“Lastly, his point was that everyone is human and there is much temptation outside of the home, so she should do whatever she can to strengthen their home and relationship. His intent was not to condone infidelity or to cast blame. We regret any misunderstanding,” the statement concluded.
The Internet went on overdrive as negative comments poured in on Twitter and on YouTube videos of the segment. Robertson’s advice provoked outrage not only from women but his fellow Christian leaders.
“I think it’s outrageous. Historically, Christians take personal responsibilities for our actions and immoral choices and don’t blame those on other people,” said Gabe Lyons, author of “The Next Christians.”
Robertson, 83, gave a similar answer when he spoke about Gen. David Petraeus’ affair with Paula Broadwell last year.
..Earlier this year Robertson was criticized when he suggested a woman’s looks might be to blame for her marital problems. Robertson told a story about a woman who asked a reverend how to stop her husband’s drinking problem.
“She was awful looking. The preacher looked at her and said, ‘Madam, if I was married to you I’d start to drink too,’” Robertson said.
(Link): Pat Robertson says a husband’s infidelity is just a man being a man
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