Glad to Be Single – Husband Married to Woman Now Says He’s Homosexual And Wants Out
I’m not the type who is always thrilled to be single all the time (see this post for more), but, there are some occasions where I do okay with singleness, or I laugh and feel relieved to never having been married when I see things like this… (I have additional comments below this letter):
May 20, 2103 letter to nationally syndicated “Ask Amy” advice colum:
- DEAR AMY: I have been married for more than 15 years and have two great kids (14 and 9) with my wife. My life is seemingly perfect from the outside. No one would suspect there was a problem, but I’ve been living with the knowledge that I am gay for more than five years.
I didn’t figure out my sexuality until after I was married. I became very depressed. My life would be so much easier if I were straight. I do love my wife and my kids, but I’m not attracted to her and have not been for quite a while.
Now I’ve met someone in a similar predicament. We have become best friends and share a lot of the same interests and values. We have developed very strong feelings for each other, and I could imagine a life in which the two of us were together.
Should this other man and I continue to live a lie with our families and fake being happy, or should we tell our wives and kids the truth and have a potentially hurtful situation for everyone involved?
Sometimes I think it would be easier to just not say anything and sacrifice my own personal happiness for my family, but I’m not sure how long I’ll be able to do that. What are your thoughts? — Confused
I wonder. He says he just happened to meet a dude like him – oh really? I bet he went trolling online for sites for homosexual guys is how he “happened to meet” the other guy.
This gets back to a previous post of mine: older, never married guys are often suspected of being homosexual or as being child raping perverts by some Christians (sadly, though, some Christians are too trusting and too naive, and child molesters find churches easy places of prey because of this), but there is a stigma to being a male past age 25 / 35 / 40 and not being married.
This post goes to show that even if a guy is MARRIED and WITH KIDS no less, that he might be homosexual or has homosexual attractions. It’s wrong for churches to assume that all single males are homosexual and that married men (ones married to women) don’t act out in a homosexual manner or have SSA (same sex attraction).
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