Article: Getting to the Root of Female Masturbation / Also: Virgin Lady gets next to no sex in marriage
Interesting. Only about five days after I published my last post about female sexuality, with a link to an article specifically about the practice of masturbation by females, Christianity Today publishes this page:
Link: Getting to the Root of Female Masturbation – CT (Christianity Today)
About five days ago, I wrote this post on this blog:
Link: Groundbreaking News: Women Like Sex (part 1, 2) (articles)
Which had this link in it:
“For Women, Is Masturbation the Last Sex Taboo?”
This CT post about female masturbation is interesting on two levels:
One, because this is the second or third time that Christianity Today has published an article very similar to a blog post I’ve made to my blog here, and within days.
Secondly, because it is admitting that women even have sexual drives. This is not common. Christians (and secularists) only acknowledge male sexuality and libido, never female.
Regarding the CT editorial, “Getting to the Root of Female Masturbation” – who cares if women masturbate or not? The editorial, written by a Marlena Graves, seems against the practice, or maybe I am misunderstanding, and the author is only opposed to it in cases where it has become a crutch.
For Christians who are utterly opposed to masturbation in all cases, no matter the motive or circumstance, would these Christians rather have females (and males) practice this, or actually go out and literally have sex with another human being, i.e., commit actual fornication?
By the way, there is an interesting comment on the CT page – you know how Christians promise you sexual thrills unlimited if only you marry first, and save sex for marriage?… Well, that is a lie.
Many people wait for marriage to have sex, but their sex life is horrible, or they never get to have sex because their partner has no interest in sex.
Here is another example, by a “Mary Smith” in the comment section on CT – This is a comment by a woman who stayed a virgin until she got married, but her husband is rarely interested in sex, so they hardly ever have sex with each other:
- Mary Smith
April 22, 2013
I had to comment on this article. I am a 44 year old married woman, but my husband does not initiate sex very often. We went 4 months one time and I finally said something! It is so humiliating to feel unwanted.
This area has been a struggle for us since we got married. We were both virgins but he actually said to me on our honeymoon, I don’t know what is wrong, but I am just not interested.
For the first time in my life I wanted to kill myself.
I had done it God’s way and we both had saved ourselves and it just fell apart.
I went for the first six years with no orgasm.
It was tormenting. When we would have sex he would “operate”just fine. I finally heard the Lord say, you are going to have to figure it out for yourself or it’s not going to get fixed.
I was just like Peter, No Lord! I have never done anything like that. But I was so desperate I did figure it out. I really love my husband, but I still have to resort to pleasuring myself at times because he can go for a month and I can’t.
The older I get and I have lived my own life, and see testimonies by people such as “Mary Smith” above, I am more than okay with ignoring what other Christians say about most areas of morality, including sex.
And a lot of the Christians (such as preachers) who run around preaching virginity- until- marriage are the very same degenerates who hire prostitutes, had sex before marriage themselves, or are porn addicts. Yet they wag their fingers in my face, and the faces of other unmarried Christians, and tell us to abstain from sex. And some also prohibit masturbation in addition to that.
There is so much lunacy and stupidity taught by Christians about sex, marriage, and dating, I disregard it myself; I no longer follow the advice of Christians on any of these topics, not from famous preachers, not book authors… I still read it from time to time to critique it, but I don’t follow the advice myself.
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I have a dichotomy of conflicting emotions regarding marriage. Being single is lonely as hell, yet I dread marriage. I am someone who gains weight extremely easily so it would be very easy for my husband to lose interest in me sexually. To think of being in a marriage where your spouse doesn’t desire you is suicide.
My feelings change about marriage at times. I pretty much still want to get married, but sometimes I’m glad I’ve not.
Especially when I keep running into stories about married men (even Christian ones) who cheat on, murder, or abuse their wives. I have posted some of those stories to this blog.
Speaking of weight gain. I’ve noticed that a lot of Christians are hypocrites about a woman’s physical appearance vs a man’s. I’ve blogged on it in several posts, such as…
(Link): Gender Complementarian Product for Females: Don’t Base Your Value on Your Looks, but Wait, Yes, You Should
(Link): The Annoying, Weird, Sexist Preoccupation by Christian Males with Female Looks and Sexuality
(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”