Married Woman Has Affair With Married Man While Her Own Husband Deals With Cancer Stricken Parents

Married Woman Has Affair With Married Man While Her Own Husband Deals With Cancer Stricken Parents

From our continuing series,
“Gee, while there are times I’d like to be married, stories like this make me go, ‘Thank Lawd I am still single'”

And, let this put yet another nail in the coffin on the incredibly noxious stereotype that only single women prey on married men; this letter is another example I’ve seen of a MARRIED person instigating an affair and with another MARRIED person.

Later on in this letter, the husband who wrote in said she started a SECOND affair with ANOTHER MARRIED MAN.

I am a never-married woman; I am single, yet culture, and Christians too, assumes I am a harlot who jumps into bed with married men, by sheer fact of being single. Number of men I’ve had sex with in my life, married or single remains ZERO.

I am more trustworthy around married men than married women.

Here’s the link and the letter:

(Link): My narcissistic wife is ruining my life She has affairs without remorse. If we divorce, she wants all my money plus our three kids

    Dear Cary,

    About three years ago my father was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. I drove three hours back and forth to my hometown every week or so to see him and spend a few days helping him and my mom. I was focused on helping my parents cope and everything else seemed somewhat pointless to me.

    I was depressed. While my attention was distracted by my father’s illness and subsequent death, my wife began an affair with a married man in town. I was grieving and oblivious.

    As their relationship progressed, the happy couple wanted to spend more time with each other (and in public) so they surreptitiously pushed their respective families together so that we all could be friends.

    I should have seen it a mile away but my mind was elsewhere. I had just met these people and suddenly my wife, kids and I were vacationing with them.

    The affair went on for a year before I became suspicious. I never suspected him but I knew something wasn’t right. I watched her cry at our 13th wedding anniversary dinner. It looked like she was crying over a breakup.

    She was.

    His wife had just found out but the three of them were not telling me. I went through the phone bills and quickly confirmed my suspicions. I confronted her, she admitted it and I was crushed.

    We went to counseling, yet she refused to admit that what she had done was in any way wrong. In fact, she said that until she got caught it was the best year of her life, having a happy home life and a secret lover.

    Nonetheless, I started trying to put the pieces back together for the sake of our three children. But I was still suspicious.

    She left her computer on at home one day and when I peeked at her email I found that she was planning a rendezvous with another married man (out of town) with whom she had had another affair several years earlier.

    We went back to therapy and the therapist advised that she “come clean” about all of her affairs.

    The number quickly shot to seven including one-night stands with my daughter’s gymnastics coach, an old college boyfriend and a threesome (two guys and her).

    Needless to say, I now can’t get the images of all of these guys out of my head and it has significantly impacted my ability to perform in bed.

    We also argue a lot now. When she argues she says the most horrific things.

    She recently told me that I am the worst lover she has ever had.

    She had all of three before we were married and in the first 10 years of her marriage she used to tell me that the main thing we had in common was great sex.

    I guess that changed when she started getting some strange.

    She still makes no apologies for her cheating.

    She has this bizarre sense of entitlement and feels that no one man could ever fulfill her completely so she should be able to get what she needs emotionally and physically from multiple people.

    She has said, “Wedding vows are a joke because pretty much everyone cheats anyway,” and I am “naive and a prude” and the only one of my friends who doesn’t cheat on his wife and that’s because I am “sexually repressed” whereas she is “fabulous” and “great in bed” and everywhere she goes she can instantly tell how many men want to sleep with her.

    She is quite beautiful, I will give her that. She’s also a narcissist.

    Recently I was on the road for business and couldn’t get in touch with her.

    I subsequently learned that while our kids were in school she had traveled out of town to have lunch with someone. I don’t know who, but I soon found out that this lunch was preceded by dozens of hour-long phone conversations to and from a private number.

    She will not come clean about it, only saying that she is allowed to have “friends” and that there was “no sex.” She claims that she’s done with the “cheating phase” of her life but should be allowed to have male friends.

    The more I type the more sickened I am that I am still in this relationship but I have three wonderful children and I want to continue to live with them and guide them into adulthood.

    I have no desire for them to end up living with some random guy that wants to be called “Dad” and has his own views of parenting.

    After a few too many glasses of wine a few weeks ago, she matter-of-factly stated that if we divorce she will sue to be the custodial parent (which she will get because she’s a stay-at-home mom), that I will have to “pay up big” and if I “try to hide any future income” that she is owed, she will get the best lawyers to find it and get me “thrown in jail” until I pay her every nickel.

    I apparently deserve all that because she gave birth to our three children.

    She has a college degree from a big-name university but hasn’t worked since our first child was born.

    Do I really live in a country in which I have to stay married to a woman who has remorselessly admitted to cheating rampantly (no-fault divorce!) or be resigned to seeing my children every other weekend and writing her checks for half my net worth upfront and up to a third of my gross income for the rest of my life?

    And don’t tell me that at least the alimony part will end when she remarries.

    What woman who says she can’t get what she needs from only one man would ever remarry?

    [signed] Screwed for the Rest of My Life

His wife sounds like a total bitch.

And for any men out there reading this thinking,
“OMG, does this mean I can never trust a woman??? I’m tired of being single and thought I would like to marry, but after seeing that, should I just stay single forever????”

The answer is No. If I ever get married (I’m a lady), I sure as hell would not cheat on my husband with another guy, and sure as hell not with ten or more guys, like this woman did.

Not all women are cheaters, gold diggers, or narcissists.

The woman described in that letter is a disgrace to my gender, and my mind boggles she can’t be grateful for the husband she already has, when there are women out there such as me who would like to be married but can’t find anyone.

But then, seeing horror stories like this also do make you feel relief you’re not in a relationship.

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