Rise of the feminist wedding (article)
- Brides are increasingly shunning traditions surrounding weddings
-Choosing not to have engagement rings or wear white on the day
-Almost a quarter plan to keep their maiden name after marriage
-19% agree aspects of traditional weddings are ‘anti-feminist’
-But 76% still want to be walked down the aisle by their father
Traditions such as the wearing of an engagement ring are also increasingly being rejected by brides who feel it is anti-feminist – with such an obvious token to be worn on the finger marking the woman in question as ‘taken’.
The tradition of wearing a veil is being similarly rejected, as some women believe it plays into the idea that a woman is ‘revealed’ to her husband as the virgin bride (though actually the use of a veil is steeped in history and has very different significance across multiple cultures).
However, while there is undoubtedly a stirring among young brides to be, parents can take comfort in the fact that while some women are beginning to push back against the patriarchy, the majority are still keen to uphold certain traditions, with 76 per cent of brides saying they really would like their father to walk them down the aisle.
…Elki Parmar of Wedding Days.co.uk, who conducted the survey, said: ‘Some of the brides we have spoken to are doing things that they feel make their wedding more ‘feminist’.
‘That could be reflected by deciding not be given away, the idea being that one of the connotations of this tradition is that the woman is property to be given away.
…‘Other brides are choosing not to wear white on their wedding day as a woman’s white wedding dress traditionally carries connotations of virginal innocence whereas what the groom wears on his wedding day is not perceived to be symbolic, creating somewhat of an imbalance from some feminist perspectives.’
Elki said: ‘Many of the women we spoke to thought that changing their last name after marriage to their husband’s conformed to a patriarchal ideology and didn’t want to feel they were giving up their own identity for their husbands
‘While some were planning to not change their names at all, others were going to incorporate their husband’s name into their own.