Should We Be Sympathetic to a 42-Year-Old’s Fertility Struggles? (editorial)

Should We Be Sympathetic to a 42-Year-Old’s Fertility Struggles?

(Link): Should We Be Sympathetic to a 42-Year-Old’s Fertility Struggles?

    By CAROLYNCASTIGLIA | August 14th, 2013 at 3:35 pm

“These are the days of ugly emotions. Infertility hijacks your schedule, damages your relationship with your spouse and unleashes in you terrible jealousy of other women, women who conceive easily, without thought, without drugs, without dozens of days lost to medical intervention. Women whose biggest problems are swollen feet.”

Those seem like fighting words coming from a 42-year-old woman trying to get pregnant for the first time, I thought. Surely this woman must understand that at her age fertility problems are to be expected when trying to conceive for the first time. How could she be so angry? Didn’t she see this coming?

Moreover, like so many people do when confronted with this sort of thing, I thought, ”Are we really supposed to feel sorry for a 42-year-old woman who is doing IVF when she could just adopt?”

That was my honest, gut reaction to Amy Klein’s first Motherlode column about her fertility struggles. I pitched a response essay to my editors here at Babble, but then I paused. I know this is a hugley hot-button issue for people, and I didn’t want to write something knee-jerk and inflammatory that would make great link bait but earn me lots of contempt.

So I Googled Amy Klein, read some of her stuff, then sent her a handful of questions via email.

She graciously answered them.

Her answers reveal more about her background and helped me appreciate how Klein came to be a 42-year-old trying to conceive for the first time. If you’re a young woman, they should give you some perspective on how to handle your reproductive future, as well.

Our exchange is below. It has been edited slightly for copy purposes.

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