How Christian Teaching on Gender Roles and Sex Can Mess People Up in Adulthood (from Wine and Marble blog, post by a former Christian guy)
At least I assume the guy is a former Christian. Maybe he only left fundamentalism but is still Christian? Anyway, he discusses how Christian teaching on gender, sex, women, purity, etc, created problems for him as a teen and adult.
(Link): A Confession (a guest post)
Excerpt:
- Christian fundamentalism and Christian patriarchy hurt men too. I’m sobered and thankful for this guest post by my friend Tim. -h (by Hannah, owner of Wine and Marble blog)
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[by male guest writer]:
When my hormones kicked in a few years later, I’d go back to the library for other reasons. I was homeschooled and had no internet, so I’d sneak copies of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition into the very back and covertly page through them, using a big atlas for cover. Once, my mom caught me at. She was silent all the way home, but it wasn’t five minutes after I got back to my room that my dad came knocking on my door.
“Men …” he said, standing awkwardly on the other side of my room, “are visual.” He paused, considered. “So be careful.”
In youth group, we’d periodically be divided up into boys and girls and get a talk from the youth pastor. Men are weak, I was told.
If a woman shows any skin at all, we can’t help but think sinful thoughts, and so we should avert our eyes, flee temptation.
The girls, I learned, were getting talks about purity and modesty. Our sin as men, they were told, was their responsibility. They just didn’t know, the pastor would say, what kind of effect they had on us.
So I went out into the world terrified. The first time I was ever in a room alone with a girl — at the tender age of eighteen — I couldn’t speak for fear of having lustful thoughts about her.
My years of religious upbringing had taught me that all women were potential objects of lust; for me, that made all women actual objects to fear.
Please read the rest of that post (Link): here
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Related posts this blog:
(Link): How Christians Keep Christians Single (part 3) – Restrictive Gender Roles Taught as Biblical
(Link): Atlantic: “The case for abandoning the myth that ‘women aren’t visual.’”
(Link): Superman, Man Candy -and- Christian Women Are Visual And Enjoy Looking At Built, Hot, Sexy Men
(Link): Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men (article)
(Link): Women Are Visually Oriented Too – Reminder 1
(Link): Women Are Visual And Like Hot Looking Men (Part 1) Joseph in Genesis Was A Stud Muffin
(Link): The Annoying, Weird, Sexist Preoccupation by Christian Males with Female Looks and Sexuality
(Link): Article: Scientists: Why penis size does matter [to women]
(Link): Married Women Engage in Sexual Sin – and most men in denial particularly Christian conservatives
(Link): More ‘Men Are Visual’ Baloney, Discussed at Another Blog
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