Link Round Up: Christian gender double standards on sexual purity, More Craptastic Relationship, Sex, Marriage Advice by Christians for Singles, Lousy and Abusive Mothers, Roman Catholics on Priest Celibacy, Male Fertility – Other Topics

Link Round Up: More Craptastic Relationship, Sex, Marriage Advice by Christians for Singles

There have been several web pages published over the last few weeks, and I don’t have the interest in blogging separately about each one, so here are several of them lumped in to one blog post.

LINK ROUND UP

Stupid advice, cliched:
(Link): James Bond: An Icon in Infidelity

Heart is in right place, but some stupid advice:
(Link): 5 Bible Verses to Comfort Struggling Singles

(Link): Vatican Official Says Priest Celibacy Is Open to Discussion, Possible Modification

(Link): Catholic University Sparks Controversy for Student-Led Workshop on Sex Acts

(Link): CHILDREN ‘CELEBRATE’ MOTHER’S DEATH IN UNUSUAL OBITUARY BRANDING HER AS CRUEL, ABUSIVE

(Link): Mom’s sexy ‘selfies’ ban: Is there a different standard for girls?

(Link): Study: Choose Dads With Smaller ‘Nads – When it comes to family jewels, bigger is not always better

(Link): David Attenborough: Don’t Have Large Families

If I find any more links in my bookmarks, I’ll add those later.

About the links, in more detail:

This was originally posted at “Every Man’s Ministries” but republished at “The Christian Post” and is chock full of naive, unrealistic sex and dating advice to single Christian males:

(Link): James Bond: An Icon in Infidelity

Here are some excerpts, that will make you cringe – by the way, I’m still a virgin in my early 40s, so apparantly God does not have a “beautiful plan for my sex life,” what in the hell is this guy talking about:

    James Bond: An Icon in Infidelity

    How Do You Avoid the License to Thrill?

    Flee.

    Run.

    Do like Joseph and make like the wind and blow out of there.

    God’s Beautiful Plan For Your Sex Life

    You know what women really want? Do you?

    A righteous man. I call him “God’s man.” Women will throw themselves at you if you demonstrate self-control, respect and Godly love for your body and hers. And, once you have found “the one” to be your wife, you will see the beautiful plan God has for your sex life. It’s more amazing than anything you can imagine — a union between man, woman and God.

    It takes maturity to handle this responsibility. Infidelity (contrary to the Hollywood version) is a sign of immaturity and a man who does not have the character to meet the demands a committed relationship. The head scratcher in all of this is how women roll with it, are codependent with it, play into, get hurt by it, endorse it, and let themselves suffer it at every level.

His advice about “running away” from temptation while citing the story of Joseph to boot? This horrible advice is actually detrimental to singles who desire marriage and keeps them single indefinitely: see the book “Singled Out” by Bonnie Field for an explanation of that, though I have discussed that problem in posts on this blog before.

(In a nut shell:

What you do is teach the genders to have self control in each other’s company, not to “flee” from the opposite gender at the first sign of sexual turn on or attraction.

This type of teaching, which amounts to “fear the opposite sex or possibility of fornication,” sets the unmarried up to be afraid of the opposite gender, Christian men will start to view Christian women as pieces of meat or as mere body parts with sexual organs (as temptresses, not as full blown humans in their own right), singles don’t learn to develop boundaries, since they have no practice at it, etc, and it leads to many other problems which keeps Christian singles single forever.)

A few points on this page were okay, but a lot of it was cliched or was actually would make singles feel worse, not better:

(Link): 5 Bible Verses to Comfort Struggling Singles

For example, the author of that page quotes Mark 3:33-35 to remind singles, “Oh hey, see, Jesus thinks you are valuable!,” which is all fine and dandy, but, Christian singles need and want friendship and community with other Christians (which even the Bible acknowledges), but most churches FAIL to provide this for singles because they are too busy VIOLATING that passage from Mark.

This quote on the page:

    Despite the Bible’s emphasis on the importance of marriage and the family, “the relationship that matters most of all is our relationship with Jesus Christ as his disciple,” Roberts concluded.

How is mentioning that comforting to Christians singles (remember, this article claims to provide “verses that are comforting to singles)? It is PREACHING TO THE CHOIR to say that to singles.

Tell it instead to the married Christians who harp on marriage, marriage, marriage and kids, kids, kids all the time, such as 99% of Christian preachers and Focus on the Freaking Family.

This next page about celibacy: celibacy is for all unmarried people, Roman Catholic priests or not:

(Link): Vatican Official Says Priest Celibacy Is Open to Discussion, Possible Modification

    BY KATHERINE WEBER , CHRISTIAN POST REPORTER

    September 12, 2013|10:47 am

    The Vatican’s Secretary of State, the second in command behind Pope Francis, said in recent comments that the Catholic Church’s tradition of requiring priests to remain celibate is a discipline, not a dogma, and therefore it has the possibility of being revised in the future. The Vatican official was quick to clarify, however, that the Church’s long-held practice of priest celibacy was still a strongly-held Church value.

    “Celibacy is not an institution but look, it is also true that you can discuss [it] because as you say this is not a dogma, a dogma of the church,” Archbishop Pietro Parolin, the Vatican’s Secretary of State, told the Venezuelan newspaper El Universal. Parolin added that changing Church tradition does take a lot of thought.

(Link): Catholic University Sparks Controversy for Student-Led Workshop on Sex Acts

So much for the Baptist, Fundamentalist, Evangelical, Conservative stereotype that motherhood is great and that it automatically makes a woman more godly, loving, and awesome:

(Link): CHILDREN ‘CELEBRATE’ MOTHER’S DEATH IN UNUSUAL OBITUARY BRANDING HER AS CRUEL, ABUSIVE

    In what seems to be the exact opposite of the touching obituary TheBlaze posted yesterday, a Reno newspaper has removed an obituary supposedly submitted by children glad their mother was dead.

    The obituary was published in the Reno Gazette-Journal for the death of Marianne Theresa-Johnson Reddick on Tuesday.

    It was submitted through the newspaper’s online program, according to KRNV-TV, and details how the mother allegedly “abused and neglected” her children. It’s not the picture painted in most obituaries, which portray the deceased as a loved one who would be missed.

    Here’s the full, unedited version of the obituary, which appeared on September 10:

    Marianne Theresa John¬son- Reddick born Jan 4, 1935 and died alone on Sept. 30, 2013. She is sur¬vived by her 6 of 8 children whom she spent her lifetime torturing in every way pos¬sible. While she neglected and abused her small chil¬dren, she refused to allow anyone else to care or show compassion towards them. When they became adults she stalked and tortured anyone they dared to love. Everyone she met, adult or child was tortured by her cruelty and exposure to violence, criminal activity, vulgarity, and hatred of the gentle or kind human spirit.

Christian (and at times, Non Christian) hypocrisy on the genders and sexual purity:

(Link): Mom’s sexy ‘selfies’ ban: Is there a different standard for girls?

    By Kelly Wallace, CNN
    updated 10:05 AM EDT, Wed September 11, 2013

    Would I have cared — or worried — or paid much attention to a group of 14- and 15-year-old boys posing in their bathing suit bottoms for all the world to see? Probably not. And that speaks to how we’re socialized to place the onus on girls to police sexuality while giving boys free rein. (Ironically, Hall’s original post included photos of her sons flexing in their bathing suits. She has since updated the post with more family-friendly photos of her boys and has declined to talk to CNN.)

    Stephanie Dulli, a mom of two young boys, who blogs at Stephanie Says, says Hall, like any mother of sons, has a responsibility to teach her boys that girls, even those sending sexy photos, deserve respect.

(Link): Study: Choose Dads With Smaller ‘Nads – When it comes to family jewels, bigger is not always better

    By Belinda Luscombe
    Sept 09, 2013

    Perhaps it’s time to stop obsessing over penis size, and start to think more about those underloved lads underneath. A new study has suggested that testicle size plays a role in whether or not a guy is an involved dad, but this is one time less is more: the smaller the family jewels, the better the family man.

    Prior research has already suggested that dudes with higher testosterone levels are less into raising kids, but this study, which was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences on Monday, is the first to find an independent correlation between testicle volume and parenting. As with other seed-bearing nuts, testicle size determines how much juice is produced, and it seems there’s a kind of law of diminishing returns at work. The greater the semen output in each ejaculation, the smaller the parenting output later on. That matters — a lot.

(Link): David Attenborough: Don’t Have Large Families

    The broadcaster says couples should be persuaded to have fewer children to reduce the strain on the earth’s resources.

    Human beings have stopped evolving and should be persuaded not to have large families, Sir David Attenborough has said.

    The TV naturalist, 87, said he was not optimistic about the future and “things are going to get worse”.

    He said he did not believe humans would become extinct, but told the Radio Times: “I think that we’ve stopped evolving.

    “Because if natural selection, as proposed by Darwin, is the main mechanism of evolution – there may be other things, but it does look as though that’s the case – then we’ve stopped natural selection.