(Link): The Fruitful Callings of the Childless By Choice
Finally, a Christian site publishes at least one editorial recognizing the Child Free. They too often pressure women to make babies, which can be insulting and painful for women who are infertile, or who cannot get married, or who make a decision not to have a kid.
The Fruitful Callings of the Childless By Choice
- Skipping over a procreative opportunity isn’t a rejection of God’s purpose for me.
Emily Timbol, guest writer
…Long before my husband and I married, we talked about having kids and agreed we were in no rush. We both assumed that when the time was right, we’d know. Lately though, we’ve begun doubt that the right time will ever come. We’re considering not having kids.
…Let me reiterate that: We are not kid-haters. Being around friends with a houseful of kids doesn’t cause us misery. It fills us with the same type of awe we get from watching ultra-marathon runners or astrophysicists. It’s a glimpse into a foreign world we enjoy visiting.
Truthfully, the entire time we’ve been discussing this “radical” option, it never occurred to either of us that what we were talking about doing could be seen as sinful.
It wasn’t until I started researching the church’s traditional stance on sexuality that I saw the huge weight placed on procreation.
God’s words to “be fruitful and multiply” were not taken by most believers as a blessing for just Adam and Eve, but a commandment for all Christians for the rest of existence. Church tradition holds that the overall purpose for marriage is the creation of children.
But is this true?
Does a married couple need to have children to bring God glory?
Not according to all Christian theologians. James Brownson, professor at Western Theological Seminary says in his book, Bible, Gender, Sexuality:
The command to “be fruitful and multiply” is not given merely to the man and the woman. It is also given to the animals (Gen 1:22) and is thus not a directive given uniquely to human marriage. This in itself calls into question whether the essence of marriage is in view here…
He goes onto say:
- Genesis 2, which explores the one-flesh marital bond in detail, does not mention procreation at all. Here, if anywhere in Scripture, the essence of marriage is clearly in view — and procreation is never mentioned… similarly, the most extended meditation on sexual love in the entire Old Testament, the Song of Songs, makes no mention of issues related to procreation at all…”
If the essence of marriage isn’t procreation, then maybe we should re-examine the way we treat married Christians who choose not to be fruitful and multiply.
Related posts this blog:
(Link): Misapplication of Biblical Verses About Fertility (also mentions early marriage) – a paper by J. McKeown
(Link): Tell the Baby-Obsessed To Back Off (Letter)
(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian
(Link): Hypocrisy in Christian Culture – Those who idolize parenting chide infertiles for trying to have kids
(Link): Catholic Group Warns College Is Not For Women: ‘She Will Not Learn To Be a Wife And Mother’ (article)
(Link): Kid-Friendly Policies Don’t Help Singles – Work and Job Discrimination Against Singles Unmarried Childless Childfree
(Link): I’m Childless, Not Child-Incompetent (editorial by G. Dalfonzo) – The Christian Tendency to Worship Family, Motherhood, and Children
(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman
(Link): Never Married Christians Over Age 35 who are childless Are More Ignored Than Divorced or Infertile People or Single Parents
(Link): Motherhood Does Not Make Women More Godly or Mature (Mother Suffocates New Born and Shoves It In Toilet)
(Link): The Way We Never Were (book – Family Idol)
(Link): Conservatives and Christians Fretting About U.S. Population Decline – We Must “Out-breed” Opponents Christian Host Says
(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)
(Link): The Decline in Male Fertility (article)
(Link): Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage (and “family”) by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists
(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible
(Link): A Critique of the Family-Integrated Church Movement by Brian Borgman – Christians turning the family into an idol
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t
(Link): Refreshing: Christian Researcher Disputes that Youths Are Leaving Churches in Droves, Disagrees that Churches Should Be Family Focused
(Link): Fatherhood Not Quite the Producer of Manly, Mature, Godly Men Some Conservative Christians Make It Out To Be