Self Professing Christian Married Guy of 21 Years and Father of Two Admits to Being a Pervy Unfaithful Rat Bastard Who Uses Cheating Sites to Hook Up With Greedy Vapid 20 Somethings
Recap on typical conservative Christian teachings regarding marriage, gender, dating, etc and so forth:
- 1. if you wait until you get married to have sex, God will send you a spouse -and-
2. that spouse will be a decent Christian person who won’t screw around on you
3. the marital sex will be great and frequent
4. it is implied that because the Bible contains the line “be not yoked to a Non Christian” that a Christian woman should marry ONLY a self professing Christian man, because a Christian guy will treat her better, won’t abuse her, won’t cheat on her, etc
5. It is assumed by Christians that married people have better sexual ethics than un-married people
6. It is assumed by Christians that people who are parents are more godly, mature, and responsible than the childless or childfree
Here’s another example, farther below, showing all that to be big, fat lies.
Also: men who seek after women more than ten years their junior are perverted, and big loser-creeps. See: (Link): Creepy, wrong, immature and pathetic: older men chasing after much younger women
The ego on some men, too – this pervy, loser douche bag just assumes that the 20 year old girl he approached at the store (who he mentions in his letter) would have said “yes” to his date request.
Reality time for middle aged and senior men out there:
Let me tell you something, most women are GROSSED OUT by older men, unless those older men are ultra rich and the woman in question is greedy, or the older dude is movie star Johnny Depp.
The only reason this letter writing idiot got 20 somethings to date in the first place is that he was hitting them up on a sugar daddy site, which he admitted to using (such women are looking for MONEY).
The vast majority of normal 20- something women do NOT want to date older men, they do NOT have “older men” fantasies, etc.
I am in my 40s and DO NOT want to date or marry any guy age 50 or up. Once I get to 50 myself, I would be fine with a 50 something.
But I have never, ever been keen on dating anyone ten years my senior. Five years makes me nervous, forget about ten.
I get approached by dudes of all ages on dating sites, but the ones with white hair who are in their 60s and older make me want to puke, and they were contacting me when I was in my mid 30s and on dating sites.
(And my god, I do NOT look over mid 30ish, even now.) What makes these guys with jowls, wrinkles, and white hair think any woman in her 30s, 40s (or even 50s) would want to date them?
I disagree with Amy’s advice. If this selfish moron is going to be a serial cheater, he should divorce his wife.
Letter to advice columnist Ask Amy Octber 2013
- DEAR AMY:
I have been happily married for 21 years. Communication is great, we rarely argue and we spend a lot of time together. We have two wonderful teen daughters.
Unfortunately, I have a major problem. I am completely consumed by lust. I was faithful the first 15 years of marriage but for the past six years I have had intimate affairs with 23 (and counting) girls in their 20s. I hook up with them on “sugar daddy” Web sites.
Thankfully this terrible action on my part has not caused any financial burden or STDs. I have considered seeing a sex therapist but I think my urges are too strong to fix. Recent example: I was shopping and came upon a hot 20-something. The second I saw her, my heart rate doubled and I had butterflies in my stomach. I started to approach her for a potential date but she walked away.
Believe it or not, I am a Christian and a churchgoer. I have extreme remorse over my behavior but can’t stop it. Sometimes I think it would be best if I simply filed for divorce so I don’t continue hurting people.
— Hopeless in the Suburbs
Divorcing your wife will not diminish the hurt you are causing — it doesn’t even touch the damage you are doing to yourself (and others).
You sign your letter “Hopeless,” which illustrates the personal hell of an addiction that is consuming you.
The description of your physical sensations and intention to approach a stranger in a store for sex puts you in the predator category.
This compulsion is personally and spiritually degrading.
It is also in direct conflict with your stated personal values.
There is help for you, but you need to be honest with your wife, admit your powerlessness over this and seek professional help and treatment.
The next time you are tempted to use the Internet to hunt for another sugar baby, I hope you will be brave enough to find help for yourself instead.
The Society for the Advancement for Sexual Health offers information and links to articles, professionals and 12-step groups on its Web site: SASH.net.