More Anti-Singleness Bias From Southern Baptist Al Mohler – Despite the Bible Says It Is Better Not To Marry
I guess Al Mohler must know better than the Apostle Paul, who wrote,
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do (1 Corinthians)
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Here is another Mohler hit piece on singleness (hyping marriage to the detriment of singleness, which God never does in the Bible):
(Link): Two Is Better Than One—Who Knew? – from October 4, 2013
Brief excerpt from Mohler’s page:
- Nevertheless, married women also survive longer than unmarried women with the same disease. Even husbands really help. Single patients are far more vulnerable.
All this is testimony to the power of marriage, and to the fact that marriage is one of the greatest gifts God has given his human creatures.
I believe Mohler has several other obnoxious articles against singleness at his blog, that is but one.
Some of Mohler’s contentions about married people living longer and being happier have been refuted by Bella DePaulo (and by others); please see these sites:
(Link): Living Single
(DePaulo’s blog on Psychology Today where she frequently refutes erroneous ideas about singles and singlehood)
(Link): All Things Single (and More)
(From another source):
By the way, where the Bible says “two is better than one,” that is not exclusive to a martial relationship only.
That phrase can refer to a brother and sister, a grandmother to her grandchild, a neighbor to another, a co-worker to another co-worker at a job, or two platonic friends.
Jesus Christ explicitly taught that placing marriage, “traditional family,” and pro-creating above the family of God is sin, and it is also misplaced, and it needlessly excludes singles (the never married adults, the divorced, the widows and widowers), and those without flesh and blood family-
Jesus Christ said:
- “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me” (Matthew 10)
“For I have come to turn
“‘a man against his father,
a daughter against her mother,
a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—
a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.” (Matthew 10: 34-36)
“If any man come to Me and hate not his father and mother, and wife and children, and brethren and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. (Luke 14:26)
He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:46-50)
I guess Mohler is totally unacquainted with the Bible.
He, like many other conservative Christians, needs to repent of making an idol out of marriage, of having children, of the 1950s nuclear family ideal, and for his blatant shaming and degradation of singleness.
He and other Southern Baptists also need to repent of the youth worship: the non-stop fixation on the teens and twenty-somethings.
I used to be a Christian teen and twenty-something and find myself quite possibly walking away from the Christian faith in my 40s, due in part to the youth worship that goes on in Southern Baptist churches (they do not care about middle aged or senior adults), and how singles (or singleness itself) are shamed, treated with scorn, or else ignored.
Mohler also incorrectly assumes (based on other comments he’s made I’ve seen in the past) that a lot of singles are intentionally remaining single: this is false.
Many of us had hoped to marry, but there (Link): were not enough single Christian men to marry, so we singles either stay single or marry Non-Christians.
As I have explained on older posts (but will not belabor here), all this harping on “rah rah, marriage is great!” (as well as gender complementarian) rhetoric is actually perpetuating protracted singleness among Christians of all ages, even among the ones who desire marriage.
Ironically, if churches supported singles and singlehood (and gender egalitarianism), more of us would be getting married.
If the Mohlers of the Christian world truly gave a damn about marriage, they would be helping singles, not disparaging singles or singlehood.
Helping singles and respecting singleness, as well as respecting celibacy in the unmarried who are past the age of 30, would help more singles get married, it would cut down on sexual sin (even among the married Christians), and it would also put a huge dent in the strides pro- homosexuality advocates have made in Christian culture, which troubles the hetero- marriage- worshippers so. These facts keep sailing right over their heads, however.
Responses to Mohler (or like-minded) by Christians, including singles:
Apparently Mohler believes job discrimination against the unmarried is ethical and “Christian” too; see this page:
From Single and Sane Blog:
(Link): The Single Pastor
Related posts, this blog:
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site
(Link): Salvation Army Bans Duggar / Quivering Cult’s ‘Retreat’ (Called ‘Get Them Married’) that Promoted Arranged Marriages for Teen Girls – Quivering Advocates Are Anti-Adult Singleness and Anti-Celibacy
(Link): How the Dating Scene Became Stacked Against Women – via CT, by Gina Dalfonzo
(Link): What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis (from TIME) (ie, Why Are Conservative Religious Women Not Marrying Even Though They Want to Be Married. Hint: It’s a Demographics Issue)
(Link): Focus on the Family Members Practice Infidelity or Homosexuality and Get Divorced and Remarry – links to exposes
Articles / editorials on other sites: