Various articles about online dating – Online dating leads to marriage / why men fail at online dating – other articles
Various articles about online dating linked to below.
Online dating may be more “socially acceptable,” but there are still a lot of weirdos, losers, and criminals online.
This story – exactly, which is why dating sites are not the magical fix married people think they are:
(Link): There Is No Difference Between Online and ‘Real-Life’ Dating
- After some initial discomfort with the idea of “meeting online,” my Missed Connections friend no longer cares whether her relationship began in person or on a screen.
Her reluctance is understandable, though: Though 29 percent of adults know someone who found a long-term partner online, Pew found that 21 percent still believe “people who use online dating are desperate.” Thirteen percent of people who actually use dating websites also think the practice is “desperate.”
The desperation statistic is why Slate’s Amanda Hess used to argue that online-dating websites will soon be obsolete, though as On the Media’s P.J. Vogt points out, “Can’t something be seen as a little sad and still be pretty popular? Like, for instance, dating in real life?”
In a world with a new Bridget Jones novel, let us not forget that singletons self-describing as desperate is a celebrated tradition. If the opposite of desperation is nonchalance, then online dating and its clinical algorithms are probably more desperate than, say, a pair of beautiful strangers locking eyes across a crowded subway.
But it’s not necessarily more desperate than hiring a matchmaker, attending singles mixers, or replying to personal ads. (Personal ads are now considered romantic precisely because they’re obsolete. Once the medium is sufficiently old-fashioned, brazen love-begging becomes romantic again.) The occasional need to seek mates outside one’s daily routine and social circle has always existed.
By empowering everyone to find and stay in touch with lovers who, in another age, might have fallen out of reach, the Internet can turn anyone into an “online dater.”
- Six out of 10 Americans now believe dating sites are a good way to meet people, according to a new report from the Pew Research Center’s Internet and American Life Project.
That’s up from 44% who felt that way in 2005, the last time Pew conducted a similar survey.
And barely two out of every 10 people (21%) still feel that “people who use online dating sites are desperate.” Eight years ago, almost 30% thought so.
- by Damona Hoffman
- October 2013
- The most common complaint I hear from women is that they can’t seem to make it past the first date while the men who attend my dating coaching programs report having trouble getting to the first date at all. This tells us that the most men are doing something that essentially scares off women before they even had a chance to say “boo” yet they are less likely to do anything about it.
Here’s why men fail at online dating — and what they can do to turn their rejection around:
2. Male Minimalism Doesn’t Make an Impact —
“Hey Giiiirllll, you look good,” may work in the club, but in the land of online dating such mindless messages fall upon deaf ears, making their way right to the trash folder. In an ongoing experiment that we are conducting at Dear Mrs D, Inc., we found that the majority of messages from men came in either empty or with a boring subject line like “Hi.” Taking the time to create a more intriguing message helps men stand out immediately.
3. Men Lie Big in Dating Profiles —
A 2011 online dating survey revealed that men out-lie women in most categories including height, income and, somewhat surprisingly, age.
Nearly 1/3 of men fudged their birth year as compared with just 17 percent of women. An untruthful profile is non-negotiable for those seeking a long-term relationship.
4. Men Need Competition —
Since most online sites don’t show who your competition is and because the risk level of sending an email is lower than an approach at a bar, men tend to all make the same play for the foxiest female on the site.
While women tend to judge men on a variety of factors including humor, stability, and intellect without dwelling on the pictures, men get caught up in looks and measurements.
(Link): Pew: Internet Increasingly Leads to Love
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(Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work