I thought Christians “worshipped” virginity? Guess not: TLW (True Love Waits) Spokesman Says TLW Will NOT “Elevate Virginity” – LifeWay to Relaunch “True Love Waits” Campaign
And the Rachel Helds Evans-es (well known Christian blogger) of the online community keep saying or implying Christians have made an idol out of virginity and sexual purity teachings, LOLOLOLOLOL! 😆
(I like Rachel Held Evans, I really do, but on this celibacy/ purity/ virginity topic, I do believe she and some other Christian bloggers who discuss wanting to do away with sexual purity teachings are a bit in error.)
It’s quite the contrary. Christians are trying to downplay celibacy and virginity, if not out-right attacking either or both.
Where is all this Christian worshipping of virginity or esteeming of celibacy going on, by the way, because I am not seeing much of it (outside of fringe, kook, cultic, Quivering type families and churches)?
I keep seeing these feminist, emergent, or liberal Christian women say on the internet that churches have idolized virginity, and some conservative males have said so, too.
Tell me where these churches are that have turned virginity into an idol, so that I may attend! 😆
I think I would enjoy a church community that values or respects that fact I am a virgin in my forties, instead of dismissing it or treating me like I’m a weirdo over it, or behaving as though I am a failure for not marrying and not popping out a litter of rug rats.
Another indication of failure is that this spokesperson in this article about TLW is assuming all Christian teens will marry at some point.
He repeatedly mentions marriage and the role of sex in marriage, as though he assumes all teens that his TLW campaign talks to will marry some day.
Yeah, hi, hello, so did I when I was a teen, totally thought I’d be married by at least my mid 30s, and yet, I find myself single in my 40s. My spouse that I was promised by Christians, as long as I waited, prayed, and sexually abstained, never did show up.
Christians need to stop falling for the error that “only a few are gifted with singleness,” or, “only a few are called to celibacy.”
Nowhere does the Bible say or promise that all or most Christians will marry, or that singleness over a lifetime is a rare thing. Christians just assume lifelong singleness is rare.
The Bible does not teach that “singleness is a gift” or is “a calling”: it is taught to be a personal CHOICE. God does not force or choose singleness or marriage on, or for, anyone.
(By the way, wanting to be married, and choosing to be open to marriage, does not guarantee that you will be: I wanted to get married but am still single.)
You’ll notice in this page linked to below that LifeWay T.L.W. employees do not present singleness or celibacy as being possible, positive, or admirable over a lifetime, or for adulthood.
Staying single as a goal or merely as a possibility is not even broached by TLW / LifeWay (ha ha, I accidentally typed that as “Lie way” at first).
If any positive vibes are given for celibacy at all in this page, it is only in the context of someone’s teen years.
Can I let you in on a fact of life that never seems to cross the minds of Christians who give lectures and brochures about sex to 15 year old teenagers?
Okay, here it is:
People do not stay 15 years old forever. Shocking, I know.
But that 15 year old kid you give a celibacy lecture to today may find herself celibate and single at age 25, 30, 40, or 50. You have to give the same amount of concern and support to a celibate 30, 40, 50 year old as you do to a 15 year old.
And, here is the page:
- BY JESSICA MARTINEZ, CP REPORTER
- December 4, 2013
LifeWay Christian Resource will relaunch their “True Love Waits” program later this month in honor of its 20th anniversary along with a revamped curriculum for its international campaign designed to challenge young adults to make a commitment to sexual abstinence until marriage.
The new initiative was undertaken by Clayton King, an evangelist and founder of Crossroads Worldwide, who rewrote the entire program with the goal to introduce a modern focus on the same message that has been encouraged onto millions of youth for the last two decades.
King hopes to inspire them to steer away from society’s idea of sexuality while encouraging them to defy the stereotype of over-sexualized teenagers by living for God instead of their own temporary pleasures.
“The True Love Project seeks to communicate God’s design for relationships to a new generation of students and young adults who may be struggling or confused about love, dating and sex,” said King, to The Christian Post.
“In a culture that has largely abandoned a traditional view of marriage, our hope is to communicate truth in a clear and winsome way, encouraging young men and women to follow God’s plan for their relationships.
… With the new program set to launch in time for Christmas, he says his message is not an attempt to say anything new but rather to draw attention to the unchangeable word of God and emphasize that He is the creator of people’s bodies and sexuality.
King also says the current project is unique in comparison to other abstinent-focused campaigns including the original ‘True Love Waits’ because his intention is not to “elevate virginity as the ultimate goal.”
…”If Jesus is your Lord, then you will gladly do what He says, trusting that because He loves you and He knows what’s best for you,” said King to CP. “His standards of abstinence before marriage and fidelity within marriage are for your own joy and happiness. Submitting yourself to the Lordship of Christ in the area of your sexuality is also a witness to the world that you belong to Jesus.”
It is to laugh. It really is. That was the same exact tripe I heard as a teen.
Related posts this blog:
(Link): False Christian Teaching: “Only A Few Are Called to Singleness and Celibacy” or (also false): God’s gifting of singleness is rare – More Accurate: God calls only a few to marriage and God gifts only the rare with the gift of Marriage