Singles and Singlehood Represent God’s Marriage To The Church Not Just Married People / Myths About the Unmarried / Singles and Singles Ministries / False Assumptions Preachers Make About Singles (article)
Jesus Christ said that people will not marry in Heaven.
If you are married now on earth, you will not be married in the afterlife, not to your human partner.
Jesus Christ is married to his church, which is currently comprised of people both unmarried and married.
Jesus Christ is not married to married people only.
As I just told someone in a comment on this blog:
Unmarried people are also a part of the “Bride of Christ,” so singleness too reflects God’s relationship with “the church.” Don’t let the married people co-opt the marriage allegory thing to keep marginalizing you.
From Problems (Myths) Affecting Singles’ Ministry
by Bishop David Ibeleme, link to his article (note I am not in complete agreement with this author’s views of “The Gift of Singleness”):
- 1. The Church has been viewed as a married institution – “The bride of Christ”. Hence single people are “abnormal”.
– The concept of the church as the bride of Christ is not the same as a human wife.
– The bride of Christ is actually the New Jerusalem which is represented by the church.
– The church is really not the bride of Christ – Rev. 22.
Also from his page:
- Problems (Myths) Affecting Singles’ Ministry
by Bishop David Ibeleme
(MYTH) 2. Marriage is God’s will for everyone.
– How about Jesus and the Apostle Paul? [Both were unmarried]
… – The Bible actually recommends that people stay single in instances of persecution against the Church – 1 Cor. 7:26ff.
3.Marriage is seen as the ultimate fulfillment in the life.
– It’s like until you are married you’re not yet fulfilled.
– Contentment not marriage is Gods major gift to us as believers – 1Tim. 6:8-10.
-Contentment is a product of knowing the heart of God.
– It also manifests as satisfaction – Phil. 4:11
4.Singles are a threat to the average marriage.
– This is because singles are perceived as always wanting to get married.
– You cannot freely relate to married people or even anyone else without being suspected to have marriage in mind.
6. Many Pastors don’t have the skills or the freedom to work with single people.
– Sometimes not easy to communicate objectively with singles.
– Difficult to dissociate singleness with the idea of marriage.
– Many ministers feel it is simply a time to prepare for marriage.
7. There are different kinds of singles
– Singleness is mis-understood because there are several types.
-All single people are not the same.
[There are] Widow(ers), Separated (but married), Divorced, Those who have Never Been Married.
8. Church has put “Theology” before the needs of single people.
– We are seemingly more concerned about arguing about divorce than we are about ministering to divorced people.
-We must never allow our religious views or doctrines to prevent us from ministering to folks who are divorced.
9. Other general misconceptions about singles.
– Church leaders e.g. Bishops and Deacons ought to be married – 1Tim. 3.
– Being a Single-Parent exposes you to moral ridicule.
-Ministry emphasis by the church on Single-Parenting can be viewed as supporting it.