The Holy Spirit Sanctifies a Person Not A Spouse – Weekly Christian Marriage Advice Column Pokes Holes in Christian Stereotype that Marriage Automatically Sanctifies People
There’s this Christian marriage counselor guy at The Christian Post, Joe Beam, who, once a week, writes a column about marriage problems.
This week’s topic is “What to do with a bossy spouse.”
I find this terribly amusing.
So many evangelical Christians love to assume that marriage automatically makes a person more godly, mature, responsible, or loving.
If marriage automatically makes a person more godly or responsible and of better character, why does this Christian therapist have to write a weekly column advising Christians how to deal with the faults and mistakes of their marital partner?
If Christians were right about marriage making a person totally selfless and god-like, there would be no need for marital advisors, marriage advice columns, or even divorce. But Christians divorce at high rates, too.
If you think about it, these sorts of Christians are wrongly expecting a spouse to take over the role of the Holy Spirit – the role of sanctification.
That seems more than unrealistic to me, it seems pretty unbiblical.
Your spouse is not the Holy Spirit, third member of the Trinity. So I fail to see how a spouse can cause someone to mature more, or to become more godly or loving.
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