Married Preacher Who Had Extra Marital Affair, Divorce Commits Suicide / Grieving Preacher Whose Wife Died Commits Suicide

Married Preacher Who Had Extra Marital Affair, Divorce Commits Suicide / Grieving Preacher Whose Wife Died Commits Suicide

Many Evangelical, Neo Reformed, Fundamentalist and conservative Christians of other stripes adhere to several fairy tale views, a few of which are:

1. That marriage (and parenthood) automatically (or over several years of marriage) makes a person completely sanctified, holy, pure, godly, self-less, and virtually immune from sexual sin;
2. that “real” Christians will never, ever suffer from depression or other mental health maladies or commit suicide

3. that Christians should not marry non-Christians (based on the “be not yoked” passage, but with some kind of assumption that a Christian man will make a superior spouse because he will not abuse or cheat on his spouse, etc)

Here we have below news stories of not just Christians, but married Christian men who worked as preachers who killed themselves. One of them, a preacher of a mega church, also had an extra marital affair. I believe both men were fathers.

Still, many Christians keep lecturing the rest of us that staying single (though some of us are not single by choice but by circumstance) is sinful, and that if only we would marry and become a parent, that being married and having a baby would make us holy, better, more responsible, and so on. I think continued examples like the following disprove this sort of thinking.

(Link): Church ‘Devastated’ Over Suicide of Pastor Ed Montgomery, Who Shot Himself While Grieving Wife’s Death, Says Apostle Ron Wilson

    BY LEONARDO BLAIR , CP REPORTER
    December 6, 2013|5:30 pm

    Apostle Ron Wilson, founder and lead pastor of the Full Gospel Christian Assemblies International church in Hazel Crest, Ill., says his church has been “devastated” by the news that one of their pastors died after he shot himself in the head while grieving over his wife, who died suddenly last December.

(Link): Grieving Pastor Commits Suicide: Mom and Son Watch

(Link): Pastor son of Obama’s spiritual advisor ‘commits suicide’ after admitting affair and having domestic violence order against him

    – Death of father-of-three Isaac Hunter, 36, announced by his church
    – Resigned last year from Florida megachurch he founded over affair
    – Wife granted restraining order after she told judge she ‘feared for her and their children’s lives’
    – His father, Joel Hunter, has been advisor to Obama since 2008 election

    Father-of-three Isaac Hunter, 36, had been battling problems since resigning from a Florida megachurch he founded after admitting to an affair with a staff member last year.

    A judge also granted his wife a domestic-violence petition after claiming his erratic behavior and alcohol abuse had left her ‘fearing for my life and the lives of our three children.’

    According to court documents, Hunter had written an undated suicide note saying: ‘I have become what I never wished to be, a burden on those I love the most’.

(Link): Son of Obama spiritual adviser dead of self-inflicted gunshot

Excerpt:

    Hunter, a co-founder of the non-denominational mega-congregation Summit Church in Orlando, quit as lead pastor in November 2012 after admitting he had an affair with a church secretary, and filed for divorce from his wife Rhonda this past October.

    His wife had previously filed a domestic-violence petition against him and accused him of having drug and alcohol problems, the Sentinel said.

    They had been married since 1999 and have three children.

(Link): Summit megachurch founder Isaac Hunter found dead in apparent suicide

    By Jeff Kunerth, Orlando Sentinel
    7:00 p.m. EST, December 10, 2013

    Isaac Hunter, the troubled son of Northland Church Pastor Joel Hunter, has committed suicide, according to an email sent to members of his former church on Tuesday.

    Isaac Hunter, 36, resigned on Nov. 26, 2012, from the megachurch he founded after he admitted to other Summit pastors that he had engaged in an affair with a staff member. His wife of 13 years, Rhonda Hunter, subsequently filed a domestic-violence petition against Hunter, describing him as unstable, erratic and suicidal.