Marriage does not guarantee sexual purity: Married guy discovers his wife is having sex chats with online buddy

Marriage does not guarantee sexual purity: Married guy discovers his wife is having sex chats with online buddy

But… but… Christians tell you if you just wait until marriage to have sex, that the sex will be regular and spectacular!

I guess marital sex can’t be all that great if this wife is having sex chats with some dude on the internet.

And notice that this is a WOMAN who was dabbling with online sex talk: conservative Christians wrongly assume that women (especially married ones) have zero interest in sex.

And obviously, if this married woman was cheating online using cyber sex, it shows she was NOT perfect.

In other words, it is a fallacy for Christians to teach (and yes, some of them do in fact tell unmarried people) that one has to achieve perfection or purity or godliness or some other criteria before God will permit the person to have a spouse.

If God required that everyone has, or most people have, to meet certain standards before God sends them a spouse, NOBODY would be married, because NOBODY (other than Jesus Christ himself) would QUALIFY.

I see tons and tons of stupid, selfish, immature, ugly, fat, sleazy, or ungodly people – including Christians who are immature, ugly, whatever! – get married ALL THE TIME.

So obviously, God is not waiting for you to mature or develop character -or whatever quality- before he allows you to have a spouse.

And notice it’s a MARRIED woman who is cyber cheating with a guy. This also works against the Christian stereotype that single women are temptresses who seek out men to have flings with.

Letter by a husband to advice columnist:

    Dear Amy:
    I recently came across a chat window my wife left open on her computer. What I saw made me very upset.

    My wife was engaging in sexual chatting with a man she is friends with on a website. Looking at the chat days and times, I learned she was usually doing this chatting late at night after I go to bed but at least once she engaged in this while I was in the room (I know because she told him so).

    I confronted her about it, and she said it got out of hand, but she never apologized. I know she likes to flirt, but calling the guy “babe” and using “xoxoxox” and telling him to have sexy dreams is beyond flirting and seems like an emotional affair.

    They were also exchanging pictures. I am going to talk to my minister this week and ask his opinion, but I feel betrayed and wonder if she needs marriage counseling.

    It is not like our marriage is loveless. We are intimate at least once a week, we cuddle, we meet for lunch, we watch TV shows and snuggle, etc.

    My wife is prone to depression, and I wonder if there is a connection between that and her online behavior, but her stressors seem random to me.

    — Sad Husband

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(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages

(Link): Married Woman Signing off as “Looking Ahead” Admits to Being in Sexless Marriage for TEN YEARS

(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true

(Link): Married Preacher and Father of Five (Geronimo Aguilar) In Trouble Over Multiple Affairs and Sex with Kids