Some Single Guy Talks About Cheating With Married Women In Essay

Some Single Guy Talks About Cheating With Married Women

(Link): Addicted to the Thrill of Sleeping with Married Women

    Why would a young, attractive, single man prefer to sleep with married women? Akhil Sharma didn’t ask himself that question for a long time— until the thrill and comfort were overtaken by something darker

I have not read the entire essay. It’s very long.

I find it interesting, because it dismantles a few stereotypes and myths that evangelical Christians like to hold and spread about sex, singles, women, marriage, and relationships.

I know if you are a long time reader of this blog, I am going to sound like a broken record, but when I write posts, I usually (though not always) assume someone brand new is visiting.

So, here is a recap:

Certain strains of Christianity (Baptist, Fundamentalist, Reformed, Evangelical), adhere to the following idiotic, untrue, stupid beliefs:

    1a. being married makes a person immune from sexual temptation or sin
    1b. married sex is always regular, hot, frequent, sexy and awesome

    2. married women are cold fish, are frigid, asexual Ice Queens, who care more about “emotional closeness” than having hot, passionate sex

    3. single (Christian) women are untrustworthy harlots who will seduce men, especially married men

This one essay shows that MARRIED women are indeed quite interested in sex, and that they possess sex drives.

It shows that married people dabble in sexual sin.

It shows that married women hit on unmarried men – the usual trope is that single women are married- man- stealing hussies.

Here are some excerpts:

    I am not sure what caused me to start sleeping with married women, especially ones who were much older than I was. The easy explanation is that I was abandoned by my mother, and so I wanted to have a relationship with someone who would comfort me the way a mother can a child. The truth, as with everything involving love and sex and loss, is more confusing to me.

He describes how an older, married woman, who was in her early 40s (“Hema”), and he a teen, lured him into sex, during a time when his brother, Anup, had been severely injured.

    The combination of sex and secrecy was incredibly potent. Standing before the library doors in winter, the wind whipping me, I would have an erection and a dry mouth.

    The secrets made me feel like I lived in a separate world from everybody else. Also, it was exciting that I could hurt Hema. I could ruin her marriage. I could cause her to lose her job. Power made me feel masculine.

    I was glad to have this power over Hema, and yet I also loved her. If I did not see her for a day or two, I became heartsick.

    …While the anger and pain of feeling second to Hema’s husband mapped exactly my relationship with Anup, anger has its pleasures. The knowledge that I was f–king this man’s wife allowed me to take the vengeance that I could not take on my poor brother.

    … For me, the appeal of sleeping with married women has always been about being miserable in a particular way. I can feel special and I can also feel unimportant. I can feel wounded and simultaneously that I am taking revenge.

    … I was accepted into Princeton when I was in the eleventh grade, and within a few months of entering college, I started sleeping with Nancy, a professor in her midforties. (Now I feel embarrassed at the pride I used to take at having older women as lovers. Looking back, I realize that these women were damaged in some basic way. Both Hema and Nancy, for example, told me they’d been sexually molested as children.)

    … Unlike Hema, Nancy was not concerned about keeping our sleeping together a secret. Her husband worked at the time in another state, and he had begun to have sex with men while away from his family.

    … When I was 19, I began seeing Susan, a woman in her early thirties; because we worked for the same company, we had to conceal our affair. Susan also wanted to continue seeing other men. I felt as jealous over this, as ashamed, as if she were married.

    … The last married woman I went out with was the wife of a friend. Brenda was beautiful, funny, smart. She was living abroad when we started our affair, and it did not last long.

Related posts:

(Link): Married Woman Carries on Extra Marital Affair for Fifteen Years – (Married Couples – Not Singles – More Prone to Sexual Sin)

(Link): Marriage Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)

(Link): New Study Released: Cheaters: More American Married Women Admit to Adultery (links)

(Link): Jesus Christ was not afraid to meet alone with known Prostitutes / Steven Furtick and Elevation Church Perpetuating Anti Singles Bias – ie, Single Women are Supposedly Sexual Temptresses, All Males Can’t Control Their Sex Drives – (but this view conflicts with evangelical propaganda that married sex is great and frequent)

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