The Term “Family Values” And Its Use By Christians – Vis A Vis story: Grandma Gives Teen Granddaughter a Vibrator

The Term “Family Values” And Its Use By Christians – Vis A Vis story: Grandma Gives Teen Granddaughter a Vibrator

Since I was a kid, my fellow right wingers – and Christians – have been using the phrase “family values.”

They normally use this phrase when they are speaking out against the left wing, on anything ranging from abortion, promiscuity, to homosexuality.

Now that I’m older, I have to wonder if “family values” is code speak, or Christianese, for either “G-rated” (aka “wholesome”), or “only the 1950s nuclear family expression of humanity relations is acceptable (i.e., married man and woman with children).”

If Christians really mean to say ‘biblical values,’ when uttering ‘family values,’ why don’t they just come out and say ‘biblical values?’ (As in, views or behaviors that are esteemed in the biblical text.)

Referring to biblical based values as being “family values” only further idolizes the traditional family. And the Bible does not idolize the nuclear family.

Anyway, another thing I find funny or wrong about all the “family values” talk by Christians and social conservatives (and recall, I am in fact a social conservative myself, but one who recognizes their at times bizarre views), is that they seem to feel that a family unit of mom, dad, and kids is defacto, automatically, “Christian,” “godly,” or “pure.”

(A point which I touched on here, in a previous post: (Link): Christian TV Shows That DeFacto Promote Married Couples with Children as Being Good Christian People)

Well, what do you do when grandma gives the fifteen year old daughter a vibrator, tells the girl not to tell her parents about it, and says, when caught by the parents, that she just wanted the teen to “enjoy her body?”

Here is a letter to secular advice columnist Dear Amy:

    DEAR AMY:
    My relationship with my mother-in-law has always been difficult. She is very liberal, and I am conservative. My family attends church weekly and prays together daily. She is irreligious.

    I recently discovered that she gave my 15-year-old daughter a vibrator and told her not to tell me. When I confronted my mother-in-law about it, she defended her actions. She said that she wanted her granddaughter to enjoy her body and knew that I would object to this item — and she was right.

    I’m furious and want to end all contact with this woman. My husband is embarrassed about the matter and says that I should just let it go. Should I?

    Furious

Christians kind of have themselves in a bind with all this family-idolatry they’re into.

Kids brought up with a Mom and Dad and granny and grandpa are supposed to have more stable, wholesome upbringings than ones who don’t.

So what do they do when this sort of lunacy pops up, of a grandmother who gives a teen granddaughter a vibrator?

Is this sort of gift giving an example of “family values?” I mean, it was done to a family member by another one, so it must be acceptable, pure, and wholesome, and godly, right? LOL.

I also find this amusing because most Christians assume females have no sexual desire. Clearly, they do – if Granny thinks to give another female family member a sex toy.

Edit. Feb 6, 2014.
Someone wrote Amy and said,

    DEAR AMY:
    I think you didn’t go far enough in your reply to “Furious” about the grandmother who gave her 15-year-old granddaughter a vibrator and asked her to keep it a secret.

    If this was a grandfather (instead of a grandmother), your answer would have been different. This is obvious “grooming” behavior of a sexual predator. — Been There

    DEAR BEEN THERE:
    I’ve heard from many readers reminding me that female family members can also be sexual predators. My advice was to limit any private interaction because this grandmother was not trustworthy.

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