Dude Pretends to Be Lady on Dating Site For Giggles But Unplugs After Two Hours After Being Totally Creeped Out By Pervy, Aggressive, And/or Demanding Males on Dating Site
Yeah, women have it worse online. Much worse. We get subjected to threats of rape, and we get sexually harassed, and I don’t mean along the lines of jesting or small put downs like male virgins do of “har har, you haven’t had no sex, har har,” but we get rape threats, or men we’ve never met before just sending us penis photos or sexually tinged, suggestive, or downright crude messages – on forums, on dating sites, on blogs.
So don’t sit there (if you are a male – like (Link): this) and tell me men have it just as bad and scary online as females do – BECAUSE YOU DON’T. You just don’t.
It is not safe or always wise for women to list photos of themselves, their real names, home address, or phone number, or any other identifying information on web sites.
Did you know that some Christian women (and sometimes males, it’s happened to at least one MAN I know of) who leave public reviews of their churches, or who blog about spiritual abuse at their former church, get sued by the preachers of said churches? Yep, they do. Go google it. That is another reason to be hesitant about writing under your real name.
One guy learned that women get treated worse online than men do the hard way. What started out as a joke ended up unsettling this guy.
- by REBECCA ROSE on JEZEBEL
A Reddit user named OKCThrowaway22221 shared a pretty spectacular tale of his adventures in online dating while pretending to be a woman, and we need to talk about it.
Featured on the Reddit forum TwoXChromosomes, which is “related to gender, and intended for women’s
perspectives,” OKCThrowaway22221’s story is reminiscent of others in recent memory who have opted to dabble in fake profiles, to see what they come up with.
This Reddit user, however, was convinced that us womenz is always lyin’ ’bout how shitty we haz it on teh internetz, and wanted to prove that ladies have a way easier time finding a match than teh poor menz.
You can read the rest (Link): here (on Jezebel)
Or here (Reddit)
In a nutshell: after being online only for two nanoseconds on the dating site, and for the next two hours, the guy was swamped with pervy, demanding, sexist, angry, gross messages from men.
He was so disturbed, icked out, creeped out, and shaken from the experience, he got off the dating site.
You can use the links above to go read his first hand account, to get the details.
Here is one excerpt by the male who posed as a woman:
- I ignored it [message from male suitor on dating site] and went back to send the message to person three now.
Before I could send it, I got a followup message from Mr.4 which was needlessly sexual in nature.
I continued to ignore him and finished. I then began to have some small-talk with some guys (remember this is like minute 20 of having the profile up) and all of the conversations kind of get weird.
One of the guys becomes super aggressive saying he is competitive and he will treat me right, the other is asking for my phone number telling me he is lying in bed and the conversation (without me steering it) is turning increasingly sexual in nature though I tell him I’m not comfortable with it.
Then I got the NoStringsAtttached messages, with multiple guys sending me messages asking me to watch them cam, or meeting up with them within the hour, or talk with them on the phone or cyber. I would say no and they usually didn’t take it too well.
At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating.
Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I could reply to even one asking why I wasn’t responding and what was wrong.
Guys would become hostile when I told them I wasn’t interested in NSA sex, or guys that had started normal and nice quickly turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature.
Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn’t want to.