Loving the child-free people in your church
(Link): Loving the child-free people in your church, by S. Burden
Ways to love the child-free people in your church:
… Let them know you see them.
Child-free people often feel invisible, especially in the Church.
In what can only be described as an odd theological leap, churches often glorify marriage and parenthood as the greatest Calling in life. Clearly, Jesus disagrees (as does Paul).
The big, beautiful body of Christ is supposed to be our first family, and it’s time we started acting like it.
Take time to sit with those without children and ask them to tell their stories; honor their journey (and their anger or sadness, if they are experiencing it); include them in your body life; bear their burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
Some of the kindest things ever said to me include these: “This is so hard, and I don’t know how things will turn out, but I am standing with you in this. You can count on me.” “How can I encourage you in this?” “This desire you have is a good desire from God. And I will faithfully pray for you in this.”
Related posts this blog:
(Link): Never Married Christians Over Age 35 who are childless Are More Ignored Than Divorced or Infertile People or Single Parents
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t
(Link): The Netherworld of Singleness for Some Singles – You Want Marriage But Don’t Want to Be Disrespected or Ignored for Being Single While You’re Single
(Link): To Get Any Attention or Support from a Church These Days you Have To Be A Stripper, Prostitute, or Orphan
(Link): Misapplication of Biblical Verses About Fertility (also mentions early marriage) – a paper by J. McKeown
(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings
(Link): 23 Responses to 23 Awful Statements Made to Childfree People by TAURIQ MOOSA
(Link): Conservatives and Christians Fretting About U.S. Population Decline – We Must “Out-breed” Opponents Christian Host Says
(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian
(Link): I’m Childless, Not Child-Incompetent (editorial by G. Dalfonzo) – The Christian Tendency to Worship Family, Motherhood, and Children
(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible
(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman
(Link): Widows and Childless and Childfree Have Better Well Being Than Married Couples and Parents says new study
(Link): Totally Obnoxious Parent: Childless Couple Who Donates to Childrens Charities Lambasted by Snotty Adult Sister for Not Showering Her Kids with Christmas Presents – Parents Who Discriminate Against the Childless or Childfree
(Link): Prejudiced Writer Stupidly Blames Slutty Halloween Costumes and Societal Ills on Childless the Childfree, and Unmarried Adults – but Married people and parents are not perfect either
(Link): Study: Couples Without Children Have Happier Marriages / Study: Having Kids Ruins Your Life
(Link): Want To But Can’t – The One Christian Demographic Being Continually Ignored by Christians [and Social Conservatives and Republicans] Re: Marriage
(Link): Hypocrisy in Christian Culture – Those who idolize parenting chide infertiles for trying to have kids
(Link): Infertility/ Kids/ The Male Biological Clock
(Link): The Decline in Male Fertility (article)
(Link): Fox News Channel Guest Encourages Female Host To Quit, Get Married, Have Babies – Look, I’m Right Wing, But Also A Never-Married Woman, and I Find This Obnoxious