Preacher Mark Driscoll Was Not A Virgin When He Got Married – He Admitted So In Book and Blog
It creeps me out and makes my skin crawl to think of anything involving Driscoll and sex, but.
Some months ago, some person (a lady I think) left me a catty post on this blog where she stated that Driscoll was a virgin when he got married to his wife Grace – the fact is, no, he was not. He admitted in one or more of his books that he and Grace had sex prior to marriage.
Yet, Driscoll rants often in blog pages and sermons about how all singles are fornicating. He projects too much. I’m still a virgin, and I’m over 40 years old.
So no, quite obviously, not all adult single Christians are having sex, contrary to what Driscoll often preachers.
Again, I am over 40 and a virgin. And no, God did not remove my sex drive or give me a gift of singlehood or gift of celibacy (the Bible does not even teach any such thing), as Driscoll assumes is the case for adult virgins.
(Link): Grace and Mark Driscoll Write a How-Not-To Book on Marriage by Amanda
- Driscoll explains that neither he nor his wife were virgins before meeting in high school.
The book is suspiciously quiet on the early part of the their relationship, with only a few sentences devoted to the admission, leaving a bit of room to speculate as to the lack of negative effects felt early on.
Though premarital sex is a sticking point for many Christians, there is no mention of any negative effects felt or their relationship suffering at the time. It’s almost like the premarital sex didn’t impact their relationship until they tried to rationalize problems later on.
Ironically, things take a turn for the worse once Mark finds Jesus. Or, rather, began attending a church of his own volition for the first time (emphases mine): (snip Driscoll comments)
… Unfortunately, Mark assumed that the doctrine of fornication as a sin would have no impact on their relationship:
- [Driscoll wrote],
- “I assumed that once we were married we would simply pick up where we left off sexually and make up for lost time. After all, we were committed Christians with a relationship done God’s way.
But God’s way was a total bummer. My previously free and fun girlfriend was suddenly my frigid and fearful wife. She did not undress in front of me, required the lights to be off on the rare occasions we were intimate, checked out during sex, and experienced a lot of physical discomfort because she was tense.” (p. 9)
From a page on Driscoll’s own blog, by Driscoll himself:
(Link): Dating, Relating, and Fornicating by Mark Driscoll
- God’s plan of chastity before marriage and fidelity in marriage is still the best plan.
I speak as the chief hypocrite. I was not a virgin when I met Grace at the age of seventeen.
We were sleeping together until God saved me in college and I got some decent Bible teaching about sex.
We stopped sleeping together until we were married between our junior and senior years of college. I wrongly thought we’d pick up where we’d left off, but I was wrong.
We had set in motion a pattern of guilt and selfishness that took years to break and hurt the first years of our marriage.
— end excerpts —
So that lady who left that catty comment on my blog months ago proclaiming that Driscoll was a virgin until he married: you were lying or woefully misinformed.
Related posts, this blog:
(Link): Preacher Mark Driscoll Basically Says No, Single Christian Males Cannot or Should Not Serve as Preachers / in Leadership Positions – Attempts to Justify Unbiblical, Anti Singleness Christian Bias
(Link): The Dear Driscoll Site – Re: Mark Driscoll – Christians: Stop Supporting Driscoll, any church Driscoll runs, and Stop Supporting Guys Like Him!
(Link): More Singles Commentary by Mark Driscoll (“Two Mistakes Singles Make”)
(Link): Mark Driscoll on Single Christian Women Who Desire Marriage – the positives and negatives of his piece
(Link): Preacher Mark Driscoll Bashes Single Christian Males Some More
(Link): Obnoxious and Sexist Preacher Mark Driscoll Wants Christian Singles to Stay Single Indefinitely – And Even Though Unwanted, Prolonged Singleness has Been a Huge Issue For Christian Singles for A Couple Decades Now – Driscoll: ‘Christians should not marry pro choicers’