Can You Spot A Gold Digger? (article)
I have to preface the link below – which is about female gold diggers – by pointing out that I’ve not known or seen many female gold diggers, but I’ve known a lot of male gold diggers, including my ex fiance’.
Many of my female friends and family members have ended up dating or marrying men who are un-employed or under-employed.
Not only do the women in question pay all the bills (while the male sweetie pie spends all day haunting forums on the internet, chatting up friends), but while they are home all day, some of these guys either go out to bars, or, sit on their computer all day.
Meaning, the woman comes home from the job and no laundry has been done while she was gone during the day, and there is still a pile of dirty dishes in the sink.
All of this to say I get really tired of MEN online who bitch and gripe about female gold diggers. They depict all women as being money grubbers, all because their ex wife or ex GF used them for their wallet.
I am sorry if you are a male and that has happened to you, but please, there are a hella lot of MALE gold diggers out there too.
Times have changed. We are no longer living in 1954, where a woman had to depend on a man for a pay check.
These days, a lot of women have no choice but to work, and as I said, I’ve seen so many men sponge off women I know, and these male jerks and users will not even do household chores to help, such as cook meals, go grocery shopping, dust the furniture, etc.
Whoever wrote this page about female gold diggers needs to write one for women on “How to spot male gold diggers” because it’s a big problem.
(Link): Can You Spot A Gold Digger?
- by D Lewak
…“She just wanted someone to provide for her so she wouldn’t have to work,” he says on reflection. “She was good on paper — attractive, had her career — but she had her own goals.
“I was so depressed with it all,” he adds.
Gold diggers are such a problem in NYC, one woman has set up an agency that proclaims it will weed them out.
Upper East Side matchmaker Janis Spindel founded Club J-Love in 1993 — and since then claims to have 1,008 marriages under her belt. Her specialty? Helping men like K.G. avoid heartbreak — and the loss of hard-earned money — by sussing out a woman’s true motives.
….For Robin Kassner, a 30-something CEO of her own firm, Haute PR, her future husband’s wallet, like his heart, can never be too big.
“As a successful woman, I’m looking for someone of my caliber — not some schlump off the street, but someone as successful as me — or more.”
The flaxen-haired vixen is heaving with desire, and has the décolletage-baring dresses to prove it.
“I want to go from a First Avenue princess to a Park Avenue princess,” says the UES singleton, who is unequivocal about her choosy checklist. “I’m looking for a perfect 10 — someone who’s 5 on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank.”
She earns in the top 1 percent, but she’s not interested in a parasite who’s not earning his own keep.
“Some people may call me a gold digger, but I call myself a goal digger — I’m goal-oriented, I have a really nice lifestyle, but I need a husband who can move me into the next tax bracket, together. There’s no shame in my game.”
“There are definitely some women who are clearly gold diggers — very focused on wanting to live a certain type of life that they don’t think they can accomplish on their own or don’t want to accomplish on their own — and finding these men is the answer,” says Manhattan-based relationship therapist Rachel Sussman.
“There are other women who do have careers and ambition, but they have that fantasy of dating someone who works on Wall Street or makes more money than they do, and [that this] will give them a more interesting life. I wouldn’t necessarily call that girl a gold digger.”
…Sussman even hears gripes from doctors and lawyers lamenting that they don’t rake in enough dough.
According to Sussman, it’s not a woman’s earnings (or lack thereof) that predict “gold digger” status — but rather a sense of entitlement: She never reaches for her wallet and insists on the best of everything.
“There’s a level of financial expectation.”