Don’t Be Pat Robertson: Learn That, Yes, Abusive Jerks Masquerade As Nice Guys Until They Marry the Woman Then They Abuse Her – Pat Blames A Woman Again For Marrying A Jerk

Don’t Be Pat Robertson: Learn That, Yes, Abusive Jerks Masquerade As Nice Guys Until They Marry the Woman Then They Abuse Her – Pat Blames A Woman Again For Marrying A Jerk

Christian Host Pat Robertson Blames Another Christian Woman For Marrying A Louse, Though It’s Not Her Fault

Why the hell does Robertson always do this? Why does he blame women who write his show for advice about their troubled marriages?

Even when it’s clear the husband is a bum, he blames the woman for marrying the bum.

See for instance, this:

(Link): Christian Host Pat Robertson Tells Christian Woman Who Married Christian Man Who Turned Out to Be Totally Unethical That She has Discernment of a Slug – Single Women: toss Be Equally Yoked teaching in the trash can

A few days after responding to this woman’s question above (where Robertson called the woman crazy, blind, and a slug), Robertson got a similar question during another “Bring It On” session, where he once again insulted the lady who wrote the question.

The lady said her husband claimed to be a Christian but was into all sorts of un-ethical behavior.

Robertson again insulted her, and all women, by saying something like, “What is it with you women picking these dead beets?”

At least the female co-host jumped it to clarify something like, “sometimes men present themselves as being a “good guy” but once married to the lady, they let their true colors show through.”

MARRIAGE -CONTRARY TO CHRISTIAN TEACHINGS -DOES NOT MAKE PEOPLE MORE MATURE, GODLY, LOVING OR SEXUALLY PURE

Note also that this is a MARRIED couple who are CHRISTIAN, but that the husband is having affairs and watching PORN.

Christians: stop preaching that marriage automatically “sanctifies” a person and makes them godly, mature, and that marriage makes people immune from sexual sin, because it sure as hell does not.

You Christians depict marriage as being a holier state than adult singleness – it is not. Adult Singles such as me are CELIBATE. I’m not running about looking at porn and screwing people. So take your anti-singles prejudices and stereotypes and cram it.

CHRISTIAN SINGLE WOMEN WHO WANT MARRIAGE: STOP LIMITING YOUR SHOT AT MARRIAGE BASED ON THE BE EQUALLY YOKED TEACHING

Also, that this husband described in the woman’s letter was said to have accepted Jesus as his savior “X” years into the marriage but is trolling for other babes on dating sites, and looking at porn, goes to show it doesn’t matter if a woman follows the “equally yoked” teaching.

Why? Because a Christian man is no more likely to treat a woman any better than a Non Christian one, so ladies, if you are unmarried and Christian I’d advise you to scrap “be equally yoked.”

Ignore the mountains (and there is indeed a mountain of it) of Christian marriage, dating, and relationship advice books and blogs online that tell you how horrible or wrong it is for a Christian to marry a Non Christian.

Christians who write dating and marriage advice books and blogs and sermons frequently neglect to mention that marrying a Christian man can also be horrible.

Some Christian men are verbally or physically abusive, or are lazy dogs who won’t get a job to help you pay the bills, or they get hooked on porn, or have many affairs.

BE WARY OF DATING SITES

Let this also be a warning that Dating Sites are not a cure all for singles who desire romantic relationships or marriage – so Christians, stop telling your single friends to “just try eHarmony, it worked for my best pal Sandy, it’s how she met her spouse!”

Yes, well, it doesn’t work for all, and there are a lot of MARRIED MEN pretending to be single on these dating sites, like the guy above was apparently doing.

See also:

    • (Link):

Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.

(Link): Beware of Rapists on Christian Dating Sites

(Link): Police urge caution when using dating websites / Murderers on Dating Sites

(Link): Beware of HIV / AIDS Infected Christian Male Preachers On Dating Sites

Christian Host Pat Robertson Blames Another Christian Woman For Marrying A Louse, Though It’s Not Her Fault

I believe I have found the episode:
(Link): View the video (“Tithing and the Poor”), partial transcript of the video:

Wendy [700 Club co-host says]: ARLENE
WRITES,

“MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST SIX YEARS, BUT WE’VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 10 YEARS.

AFTER HE GAVE HIS LIFE TO JESUS AND WAS BAPTIZED, OUR LIFE HAS BEEN HELL BECAUSE HE HASN’T FULLY GIVEN HIS LIFE OVER TO JESUS, AND HE
WATCHES PORN AND GOES ON DATING SITES.

I DON’T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM BECAUSE OF ALL OF THIS. WHAT SHOULD I DO?”

Pat Robertson says: HER HUSBAND WATCHES PORN?

Pat: AND GOES ON DATING SITES. YOU MARRIED A RASCAL.

WHAT DID YOU THINK YOU WERE GETTING? DON’T YOU MAKE ANY EFFORT TO DISCERN WHAT YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE THINKS, WHAT HE IS? I DON’T KNOW.

Wendy: SOME GUYS DO A GOOD JOB OF FAKING IT UNTIL THEY WALK DOWN THE AISLE.

Pat: YOU THINK THAT?

Wendy: I’VE HEARD THAT. I’VE NEVER WALKED DOWN THE
AISLE.

Pat: IN THIS CASE, I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU DO. MAYBE A TRIAL SEPARATION.

IT SOUNDS LIKE HE NEEDS COUNSELLING. HE NEEDS HELP.WHAT IS WITH THE PORN SITES?

WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM? HE OBVIOUSLY HASN’T COME TO
JESUS.

I think Robertson is the naive one, though he acts as though the women who write him about their lousy marriages are naive.

Robertson acted as though he’s never heard of a man lying about himself, his beliefs, and his morals to trap a woman into marriage, when I personally have read or seen many such testimonies over my life.

ABUSIVE MEN

Robertson is terribly ignorant about abusive men, or con artists and manipulators.

Don’t be Pat Robertson.

I invite anyone here to read the book (Link): Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft.

Bancroft explains in the book that, yes indeed, a lot of abusive men “hide” their abusive, controlling natures, or that their abusive nature does not spring into action, until the abusive man regards the woman as “their property,” and for most men, that line of demarcation is marriage, while for some abusive men, it’s the first time after they have sex with the woman.

(The exact “on switch” where the man views the woman as “his property,” to do with as he pleases, or to take advantage of her, varies from man to man).

And when I say “abusive,” I don’t just mean physically abusive, and neither does Lundy – any relationship where a man consistently treats a woman like dirt is abusive, and that could involve emotional abuse, verbal abuse, refusing to get a job to help her pay the bills, not helping her do the housework (ie, a man who is lazy and mooches off the woman – a man taking total advantage of a woman), or it could be a combination of any and all of those things.

But the point is, yes, a lot of men do not become abusive jerks, or don’t let their abusive natures run amok, until after they marry the woman.

The people who run The 700 Club should not allow Robertson to field any more questions from women who are in marriages where the man is abusive or negligent.
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