Mother Entitlement – Selfish, Self-Centered Mothers Complain that They Are Not Getting ENOUGH Mother Worship from Culture, Church, or Family on Mother’s Day and Some Moms Complain About Churches Showing Compassion to Childless Women
I remember seeing posts like this (see link below) last year at Mother’s Day – there are actually mothers out there, including Christian and Mormon ones, who feel that their churches do not do ENOUGH to honor them on Mommy’s Day.
Some mothers I’ve seen go further than that and insult or mock childless (or childfree) women in the comments of blogs that ask people to be more sensitive to the feelings of non mothers.
These bitter, hate-filled mothers spit out, on such blogs, comments such as, “Screw the childless women, what about me, I work hard as a mom all year and DESERVE some recognition.”
Yep, they are that blunt and nasty about it in their comments. (I have a real sample below, with a link to said blog, but it’s by a guy, not a lady, but it’s representative of the type of crap angry mothers who whine about being under-appreciated leave on blogs).
No, I am not exaggerating, I have indeed seen a smattering of such vitriolic comments by mothers on various blogs the last two years, even on Christian blogs by women who claim they are Christian!
Even though churches WORSHIP motherhood 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and hype it up on Mother’s Day itself even more so, these selfish mommy dolts think churches should worship mommy-hood EVEN MORE than they already do.
Meanwhile, never-married, childless, divorced, widowed, and childfree adult women get absolutely NO HOLIDAYS in THEIR honor, so why should I care if mommies don’t feel honored enough on Mother’s Day?
Some mothers are the most selfish, hateful people on the face of the planet.
Some mothers expect and demand everyone around them in their families and at church to make a big fuss over them.
I thought motherhood was supposed to be its own reward?
If motherhood is so lofty, so noble, so high and mighty, and it supposedly makes a woman totally content, and you buy into Christian swill about mom-hood being a woman’s only, or most, godly role in life, why do you, little Ms. Entitled Mommy, need or want others to validate the position for you, by throwing you parties and handing you carnations in church services?
I thought Christians said parenthood automatically makes a person more godly and giving than being single and child-free, or it works out that way over a period of years?
That is not so, because I see many mothers online whining like little children that they don’t get enough attention and presents from their spouses or preachers on the holiday.
I cannot believe how self absorbed and self centered some mothers are.
Here is a link to a blog page by a Mormon woman –
Note that while this woman is a Mormon but her points sound about identical to the average Baptist, Reformed, or Evangelical women I see online; just swap out “Mormon” with the word “Christian” and it reads the same:
(Link): Taking Mom Out of Mother’s Day – Have We Gone Too Far?
Excerpts:
- In a desire to be sensitive toward women who are unable to have children I’m concerned that, perhaps, on Mother’s Day, we may be going a bit too far. Not that we can ever be too compassionate in acknowledging the pain that surely accompanies the inability to have children, but at the same time we shouldn’t need to pull back in giving the much needed praise, encouragement and recognition of Moms’, who are actually raising, or have raised, children — and all that that entails.
- …In order to be politically sensitive, in all circumstances, where the issue of how women fulfill their role as mothers comes into play, it is my observation that we are becoming increasingly comfortable with relegating actual Moms’ to the back of the bus — even on Mother’s Day. And frankly, that kind of bothers me.
Here was the comment I left on her page (but it did not show up last I checked):
- Never-married and childless women such as myself get ZERO holidays for us. None. There are no cards for us. No cakes, no brunches.
- Churches never have a “recognize and celebrate mature, celibate, never married, childless women” type of service, so I have a very hard time feeling sorry for mothers who feel their churches or communities are not doing enough to honor motherhood.
- If anyone ever comes up with a nationally recognized “Adult Single and Celibate / Childless” holiday, and churches celebrate the holiday one Sunday service a year, then we can talk.
- (I am having problems posting to your blog. I’ve tried sending this three times, but each time, I get error messages. I have no idea if my posts are going through or not)
Another person left this sensible comment on the same page:
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- by Motion DeSmiths
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June 1, 2012 at 7:18 PM
- I have to echo some of the comments here. I’m also uncomfortable with celebrating mothers at an institutional level.
- It’s so problematic for so many people–not just those who are struggling with infertility, but for people who experienced abuse or had completely absent mothers.
- Mother’s day is a time for families to celebrate their own mother and the sacrifices she has made.
- The church need not spend an entire sacrament meeting devoted to mothers, because aside from it being problematic, like was said above, mothers get 100% affirmation from the church every. single. day.
- Not so for the single women, the women who can’t have kids, or the women who chose a different path because of her own personal revelation.
- And I’m truly uncomfortable idea that we imperfect beings can divine whether a woman is a “good” woman who wanted to have kids but just can’t right now vs. one of those selfish women who got education or a career. None of us can possibly know the hearts of our sisters.
- And if we could, why would it matter? Let’s just love one another, no matter what.
- That said, I would enjoy a mother’s day where the talks are about Mother in Heaven or the women in the scriptures we seldom see.
Un-married women and the childless are insulted or marginalized YEAR ROUND but mothers like that – with motherhood being slobbered over the entire year with a national holiday to boot – still expect and demand to be put on a pedestal?
Un- freaking- believable. Mothers are already worshipped and demand yet MORE worship, while single and childless women get NADA NOTHING. Talk about ENTITLEMENT.
And again, I am not picking on that Mormon lady solely, I’ve seen this same exact attitude (and ten times more abrasive – Mormon Lady was at least stating her totally odious position in polite terms) on Christian blogs by so-called Christian mothers.
Here’s a comment from a man named Bill (it’s usually married women who make these types of snotty comments, but this time, it’s courtesy a male dude), from
(Link): Let’s Be Sensitive on Mother’s and Father’s Day
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- from Bill
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- on June 15, 2010 at 11:30 am said:
- Sometimes I think these people just need to get over it, trust the Lord, and move on. Why should others hold back their celebration because some can’t cope.
F-ck you, Bill, and every one like you, and these mothers whining they don’t get enough kudos and bravos already and just for being mommies, something the vast majority of them chose to do.
This isn’t bitterness – this is fury. (With side dishes of amazement and incredulity.)
I toss that explanation out there because invariably, some idiot always accuses impassioned rhetoric by childless single adults as being based on “bitterness.” No, it’s rage, rage over injustices against singles and childless women. Don’t mistake the two.
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Related posts this blog:
(Link): Facebook’s motherhood challenge makes me want to punch my computer screen by F. Everett
(Link): Mother’s Day Ain’t A Happy Holiday For Some
(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family / Marriage) (article)
(Link): Happy Mother’s Day From the Moms on Whisper Who Hate Their Kids
(Link): Un Happy Mother’s Day – universal church continues to worship parenthood, family
(Link): Sorry, but being a mother is not the most important job in the world by Catherine Deveny
(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison
(Link): Don’t Judge Me, I’m Childless (from Today’s Christian Woman)
(Link): 26, Unmarried, and Childless – by A. Mast
(Link): The Fruitful Callings of the Childless By Choice (editorial)
(Link): Bearden: Staying childless right decision for many women
(Link): In terms of childlessness, US ranks near the top worldwide
