Another Gross Article Suggesting Affairs Are Good For A Marriage
As I said in a previous post, Christians need to stop thinking of celibacy and chastity in terms of teenaged kids. A lot of married people, or some marriage counselors, have this idea that affairs are okay.
I wonder if the two dirt bags in this article bother telling the people they are sleeping with they are already married? At one point, the wife says the husband takes off his wedding band so women won’t know he’s married, so I guess they sometimes lie and pretend to be single. That is even more disgusting.
The lady does say farther down in the article that she does tell most or all the guys she’s with she is already married, and they don’t care.
Notice that while a lot of Christians depict UN-married women as being harlots, here we have a MARRIED women porking around all over the place.
- By Anonymous, as told to Anna Davies, Redbook Magazine
updated 3:05 PM EDT, Tue May 20, 2014
Notice that I didn’t say we’re in an open marriage — we’re not. An open marriage is transparent, with agreed-upon rules and an understanding of what both parties will and will not do with others.
My marriage is opaque. I recognize what Frank and Claire Underwood have in “House of Cards,” although I like to think my husband and I aren’t as soulless as their characters.
But there are similarities: We know the other has secrets, but we don’t care to find out more. It’s an attitude people think of as very French — the idea that you can have an affair and a healthy marriage. Quite honestly, it works. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
… We yelled about cheating — he’d do it, I’d do it, we’d be furious with each other. But eventually, I realized this dynamic wouldn’t change. One of us would always act out if cheating was against the rules.
But what if it wasn’t? What if we both admitted that, yes, we were sometimes tempted, and that sometimes we acted on that temptation? I think I was the one who brought it up over dinner one night, just after we’d moved in together.
I told him that I’d no longer ask questions, that I didn’t want to know. He said he’d do the same.
We reaffirmed that we loved each other, and that wouldn’t change. And then, without drawing up any official rules, we embarked on our anything-but-traditional relationship.
… A few months after our son was born, I quickly got into a relationship with a former co-worker. It wasn’t great — I really would have rather been at home with my son, and I felt I was punishing myself for my husband’s behavior during my pregnancy.
I liked my co-worker, but I know I pushed us into romantic territory fast because I wanted to feel desired.
My husband and I had some huge fights during that time, and we both uttered the word “divorce.” But deep down, neither of us wanted that. We love each other. We also seriously like other people.
I ended my affair, and for the next six months or so, my husband and I recommitted to our marriage and our family. And once we settled into a comfortable rhythm of life with a baby, we both began relaxing into our old routines. He came home late. I flirted with men when I went out with my single girlfriends. And little by little, we reached the point we’re at now, where both of us occasionally have affairs on the side but always come home to each other.
Normally, the guys I have affairs with are men I meet through my job — I travel a lot — as an event coordinator, at parties, through friends of friends, or even old flames I’ve reconnected with on Facebook. I’ve always been the type of person who gets physical fast, and being married hasn’t changed that. I don’t keep my marriage a secret from the guys I date — I don’t take off my rings and I mention my husband and kids in front of them — but I also don’t make it an issue. Often, they’re cheating as well, and I feel there’s an unspoken code about what we do and don’t discuss.
Right now, I’m 40 and my husband is 38, and I do wonder how long we can keep this up. I don’t want to actively seek out affairs. I feel like my work, thanks to all those business trips, has made it easy to fall into them without doing much damage to my everyday life.
That is gross. I feel like I need to go soak my eyeballs and brain in bleach after having read that.
(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages