Americans Idolize Fatherhood – Enough with the Pro Fatherhood Editorials or Claiming Anti Father Persecution, says writer

Americans Idolize Fatherhood – Enough with the Pro Fatherhood Editorials or Claiming Anti Father Persecution, says writer

As much as conservative Christians and secular social conservatives idolize fatherhood, they idolize motherhood a million times more.

Men don’t get anywhere near the pressure to marry and crank out babies as women do.

But in light of the fact that Father’s Day is this week (I think), here you go:

(Link): Who Are the Fatherhood Cheerleaders Arguing With? No One Is Against Devoted Dads.

    By Amanda Marcotte

    Father’s Day is Sunday, which means that it’s time for pundits and politicians to scold the American public—with special ire reserved for black members of the American public—for our supposed indifference to the wonder and awe of fatherhood.

    Jessica Lahey has a piece in the Atlantic this week called “The Case for Dedicated Dads,” in which she argues, “Mothers are very important to their children’s development, of course, but research has shown that fathers help kids grow in specific ways.” Dozens of other writers are making the same argument, pegged to Father’s Day, for a variety of local and national media sources.

    … I love a good dad story as much as the next daughter, but I can’t help wonder: Who are these writers arguing against?

    W. Bradford Wilcox, who single-handedly generates a good half of the “having a good dad is great, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!” content out there (including for Slate), intones, “Dads certainly seem dispensable in today’s world.”

    … Look, there is no “anti-fatherhood” movement in this country. Commentators who argue the “pro-fatherhood” side do so by pointing to the positive effects on kids from good dads who love their kids’ mothers and live in the same houses.

    (No one argues that crappy fathers are better than no fathers, or that high conflict marriages are better than divorce, because those are losing arguments.)

    These pieces often assume that women are rolling in offers for loving, devoted families and opting for single motherhood instead. But most single mothers aren’t in that situation because they are against the nuclear family or because they think fathers are bad for kids.

    Sometimes a dad is a good dad but not a good husband.

    Some dads are—gasp!—not good fathers at all and need to go.

    Preaching about how wonderful it is to have a loving, devoted father in the house is like going to the hospital and asking people if they ever considered not being sick.

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(Link): New father killed his five-week-old son by slamming his face into cot because he felt fatherhood meant ‘his life was over’

(Link): Un-Happy Father’s Day!

(Link): Why men are boycotting marriage, fatherhood and the American Dream (article by Matt K. Lewis)

(Link): Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother

(Link): Father Leaves 2 Month Old Son Alone in Car So He Can Go Shopping on Black Friday

(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian

(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)

(Link): The Isolating Power of Family-Centered Language (How churches exclude singles and the childless) by E A Dause

(Link): If the Family is Central Christ is Not

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