Posts By A. Marcotte Re Various Topics E.G.: Pre-Marital Sex, Virginity, Modesty Teachings, Marriage, Divorce, Childfree, Birth Control, Early Marriage, Gender Roles, Female Libido, etc

Posts By A. Marcotte Re Various Topics E.G.: Pre-Marital Sex, Virginity, Modesty Teachings, Marriage, Divorce, Childfree, Birth Control, Early Marriage, Gender Roles, Sexual Harassment, Female Libido, etc

Please remember that I am right wing and respect people remaining virgins until marriage, but this woman, Marcotte, is left wing, and in at least one of her posts, she slightly mocked the concept of virginity (see, left wing feminists will defend any and all sexual choices to the hilt except for voluntary virginity / celibacy), but, I do agree with her in part in some other areas.

Posts by By Amanda Marcotte:

(Link): Where Are the Men in Child-Free Trend Pieces?

(Link): The Case Against Marrying Young

(Link): “Slut Pills” Would Work Best for Women Who Don’t Have Lots of Sex

(Link): Family-Friendly Workplaces Are Great, Unless You Don’t Have Kids

(Link): Where Are the Men in Trend Stories About Women?

(Link): Men Are From Mars and Women Are From … Mars [Men and Women Are Not That Different]

(Link): Women Don’t Talk More Than Men, So Why Do People Believe That They Do?

(Link): America Is Doomed Unless Women Start Having More Babies. How Convenient.

(Link): If You Don’t Want Girls Judged by Their Hemlines, Stop Judging Them by Their Hemlines

(Link): Should a Woman in a Bikini Expect to Be “Taken Seriously”? (Yes.)

(I’m not going to argue the content of this next link to death, but, liberals and some Non Christians are ALSO very SEX OBSESSED, only in the opposite direction from conservative Christians, and some liberal and Non Christian views about sex are just as wrong and damaging to women and society):
(Link): Conservative Sex Obsession Hurts Both Boys and Girls

(Link): Women Struggle with Monogamy More Than Men

(Link): New Research Shows That Men Feel Insecure When Their Partners Succeed, But Women Don’t

(Link): Who Is to Blame When a Man Cheats? According to a Revenge Website, Only the Woman He Cheats With.

(Link): Most Women Work Because They Have To

(Link): American Families Are Getting More Complicated. Embrace the Chaos.

(Link): WSJ Writer Blames the Rise of “Fatherless” Children on Women

(Link): Arizona Bill Could Make It Legal for Businesses to Discriminate Against Unmarried Women

This is one of her essays where I’m not in total agreement. I do think there is some merit to the conservative “why buy the cow when the milk is free” sex argument, but she spends part of this mocking that concept:
(Link): Are Men Getting Away With Too Much Sex? A New Austin Think Tank Says Yes.

This is about marriage:
(Link): New Study Reveals Secret to Romantic Success, and It Doesn’t Sound So Hard to Achieve

I’m not fine with this next story. My understanding of marriage and divorce is not as strict as that of other Christians – if your marriage is not working out, you’re unhappy, or your spouse is abusing you (mentally, physically or financially), you have a right to divorce the bum, and I wish my fellow conservatives would stop thinking making divorce laws tougher will necessarily equate to strong, happy marriages:
(Link): Republicans Are Quietly Trying to Kill No-Fault Divorce

(Link): Paul Ryan and Jeb Bush Keep Pushing the Line That Marriage Cures Poverty

(Link): Female CEO Shares Story of Being Sexually Harassed By Potential Hires

(Link): You Know What Turns an Unstable Relationship into a Stable One? Not a Wedding Ring.
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Excerpts from a few of the pages:

(Link): Men Are From Mars and Women Are From … Mars [Men and Women Are Not That Different]

    Anna North at BuzzFeed reported Tuesday on a study by psychological researchers Bobbi Carothers and Harry Reis, which demonstrates that, on a series of personality traits that are typically understood as gender-specific, men and women overlap far more than many people and most network TV shows would like to believe.

    There were some gender differences—there are more assertive men than women, for instance—but the significant overlap was such that, contrary to public opinion, one could not predict a person’s gender very well based on their personality traits.

(Link): America Is Doomed Unless Women Start Having More Babies. How Convenient.

    Ever since it became less socially acceptable to argue openly that women—at least white, middle-class women—owe it to men to curtail our professional ambitions in favor of a life as our husbands’ support staff, conservatives started to panic about declining birth rates.

    If women don’t start making more babies, they dimly warn, the country is headed for catastrophe as the workplace empties out of workers and retirees suck up all the money and people stop caring about the future. (Because we can’t care about the children we do have unless we have more of them, for some reason.)

    To save America, women, especially those aforementioned pesky middle-class, white women, are going to have to start having more babies at a younger age, the argument goes. That this demand means that women will end up curtailing their ambitions and moving into the support-staff role is simply a coincidence, of course. Nothing to see here.

    …. I’d argue instead that if the system is set up so that it fails if women don’t start popping out more kids, then it’s a broken system and should be reworked to account for the reality of America today.

    If women don’t want to have more children, then instead of abandoning women’s equality as a goal, we should rework our economic system so it doesn’t rely on a steadily growing population to function. After all, the point of society is to serve the people in it, not to reduce us to cogs in a machine that serves no one at all.

(Link): Arizona Bill Could Make It Legal for Businesses to Discriminate Against Unmarried Women

    Arizona state Sen. Steve Yarbrough has introduced a bill that would allow businesses that are sued for discrimination to claim an exemption from anti-discrimination law based on their religious beliefs.

    Or, put more simply, if a business owner decides not to serve you, he or she can say it’s because your presence offends Jesus and can, if this bill becomes law, get away with that. In fact, the bill may even give employers the right to deny you a job because they think God doesn’t approve of you.

    Howard Fischer, interviewing Yarbrough for the Sierra Vista Herald, asked Yarbrough how far-reaching this legislation could get:

    But Yarbrough said his legislation could also be interpreted broader than that, allowing motel operators with vacant rooms to refuse to rent to gays.

    Potentially more significant, Yarbrough acknowledged there may be individuals [who] have religious beliefs about unmarried women, or even employing people who do not share their same beliefs.

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Related posts this blog:

(Link): Celibate Shaming from an Anti- Slut Shaming Secular Feminist Site (Hypocrisy) Feminists Do Not Support All Choices

(Link): The Nauseating Push by Evangelicals for Early Marriage

(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings

(Link): Inconsistency on Feminist Site – Choices Have Consequences

(Link): Modesty: A Female-Only Virtue? – Christian Double Standards – Hypocrisy

(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming

(Link): Christian Stereotypes About Female Sexuality : All Unmarried Women Are Supposedly Hyper Sexed Harlots – But All Married Ones are Supposedly Frigid or Totally Uninterested in Sex

(Link): Stop Rewarding People For Their Failure – Christians Speaking Out of Both Sides of Their Mouths About Sexual Sin – Choices and Actions and How You Teach This Stuff Has Consequences – Allowing Sinners To Re-Define Biblical Terms and Standards

(Link): Typical Erroneous Teaching About Adult Celibacy Rears Its Head Again: To Paraphrase Speaker at Ethics and Public Policy Center: Lifelong Celibacy is “heroic ethical standard that is not expected of heteros, so it should not be expected of homosexuals”

(Link): Virgin – and Celibate – Shaming : Christian Double Standards – Homosexuals Vs Hetero Singles – Concerning Thabiti Anyabwile and Gag Reflexes

(Link): Rush to early marriage feeds Utah’s higher-than-average divorce rate (article)

(Link): Christian Early Marriage Position Advocates A Low View of Celibacy and Virginity and Adult Singleness – another example: Justin Deeter Blog about Early Marriage