Apparent Inconsistency at SCCL Group – They’re Repulsed by Sexualization of Some Relationships But Not All
Sometimes, I enjoy and agree with some of the views as expressed by S. Drury’s SCCL (“Stuff Christian Culture Likes”) Facebook group, but not always.
Folks who frequent the SCCL group generally despise Christian sexual purity teachings.
My position is that the church needs to start upholding sexual purity teachings more, rather than the SCCL group’s preferred option of backing off or halting.
Very few churches and Christians today condemn sexual sin, nor do many Christians support virginity or sexual purity, something I have blogged about on a recurring basis (see links at the bottom of this post for more).
One of the things that caught my attention were a couple of posts at the SCCL group this week.
In one, the SCCL group mocked and was grossed out by another Christian proposal of the “Daddy Daughter” date. I agree, Christians can be borderline creepy in their “Daddy Daughter” date stuff.
Here is a link to that discussion at the SCCL group:
(Link): Daddy Daughter Date discussion (Re: “A Husband is About to Go on 1 of the Most Important Dates of His Life, But it’s Not With His Wife”)
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A Husband is About to Go on 1 of the Most Important Dates of His Life, But it’s Not With His Wife
You can see that the majority of commentators in that discussion thread were grossed out by the incestous tone of the “Daddy Daughter” date Christian created video.
Most of the commentators in that thread think it’s sad, pathetic, or wrong that Christians sexualize father-daughter relationships. M’kay, I can agree with them on that, at least to a point.
Here is where the SCCL folks got a little hypocritical.
In a story posted to SCCL Facebook group the following day:
(Link): Men Who Love Men (Re: Gospel Coalition blog: I’M SOUTHERN BAPTIST, AND I LOVE A MAN)
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I’m Southern Baptist, And I Love A Man
Many of the commentators in that thread were upset by the page.
The Gospel Coalition page, “I’m Baptist and I Love a Man” is by a guy who talks about having a platonic, deep friendship with another man.
The page’s author ends on this note (the very last paragraph which I find a little odd, but meh):
- by Chad Ashby
… Satan has stolen David-and-Jonathan relationships from us, brothers in Christ. What will you do about it? To love another man as your own soul (1 Sam. 18:1) is not homosexual love; it is the love of Christ. It is a true willingness to lay down your life for your brothers (1 John 3:16). We must build these kinds of relationships with one another: men who truly love other men.
Brothers, if we display the love of Christ for one another, we may begin to establish credibility with the gay community. They don’t believe we can love other men. Let’s prove them wrong. Perhaps then, after seeing the true light of the gospel love of Jesus, they will be drawn from the darkness where Satan holds them captive and into the marvelous light of Christ’s self-sacrificial love.
In other words, this author is arguing that not all male-male relationships have to be sexual. And that is very true.
American culture sexualizes just about everything and everyone, supports the fallacy that (hetero) men and women can’t be “just friends,” and I’m pretty damn tired of it.
How can this SCCL group mock or criticize a group for sexualizing dad-daughter relationships but then mock and criticize a Christian author calling for the de-sexualization of male-male relationships (which they did)?
Some of the readership felt it was wrong for the Christian author to show that men can be friends with each other and there be no sexual overtones or motivations to it.
I am not sure I totally understand why the SCCLs group is fine with sexualization in one context but not in another.
There are Christian homosexual celibates (see other links on my site about this) who also tire of culture sexualizing everything and having an “anything goes” view towards sexual activity.
Related posts this blog:
(Link): Topics: Friendship is Possible / Sexualization By Culture Of All Relationships
(Link): General Observations Or Concerns About Stuff Christian Culture Likes Group and Blog
(Link): Christians Are Not Called to Have Amazing Sex by R Pietka – via Relevant Magazine, and the SCCL Push-Back
(Link): Trans Activists and Leftists Are Now Also Harassing “Cis” (Biological) Men Who Are Homosexual, in Addition to Harassing Biological Hetero or Lesbian Women
(Link): Regarding Tacky or Inappropriate Christian Themed Jokes, Signs, or Art by Christians or By Non-Christians
(Link): Too Cool for School: The Ex, Quasi, or Liberal Christians (and Atheists) Who Think Their Snarkiness Against Christians Makes Them Clever (But It Doesn’t)
(Link): No Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity – Christians Attack and Criticize Virginity Sexual Purity Celibacy / Virginity Sexual Purity Not An Idol
(Link): Christian TV Show Host Pat Robertson Disrespects Virginity – Says Pre-Marital Sex Is “Not A Bad Thing”
(Link): Feminists at Jezebel: Okay for Adult Women to Ridicule A Baby’s Appearance but Not Okay for Adult Men to Do Same to Grown Women
(Link): Secular Feminists: It Is Okay To Be A Slut But Not Dress Slutty For Halloween or for Companies to Sell Slutty Costumes -huh? Also: Wrong for men to objectify women but okay for women to objectify men -say what?
(Link): Christians Who Attack Virginity Celibacy and Sexual Purity – and specifically Russell D. Moore and James M. Kushiner
(Link): How the Sexual Revolution Ruined Friendship – Also: If Christians Truly Believed in Celibacy and Virginity, they would stop adhering to certain sexual and gender stereotypes that work against both
(Link): Researchers measure increasing sexualization of images in magazines
(Link): Christian World Vision Charity Okay and Dandy With Homosexual Marriage But Not Okay With Singles Fornicating (Double Standard)
(Link): Why Do Christians Ask if Homosexuals Can Change Their Orientation – Why Not Explain that Celibacy is an Option?
(Link): Celibate Shaming from an Anti- Slut Shaming Secular Feminist Site (Hypocrisy) Feminists Do Not Support All Choices
(Link): Christian Preacher Admits He Won’t Preach About Sexuality For Fear It May Offend Sexual Sinners
(Link): Straight women benefit from having a Homosexual Best Friend Study Says (article) – What happens when everyone sexualizes everything
(Link): Typical Erroneous Teaching About Adult Celibacy Rears Its Head Again: To Paraphrase Speaker at Ethics and Public Policy Center: Lifelong Celibacy is “heroic ethical standard that is not expected of heteros, so it should not be expected of homosexuals”
(Link): The New Homophiles: A Closer Look (article) Re: Christian Homosexual Celibates and Christian Homosexual Virgins
(Link): Southern Baptists open to reaching out to LGBT – but still don’t give a flying leap about HETERO CELIBATE UNMARRIED ADULTS
(Link): Virgin – and Celibate – Shaming : Christian Double Standards – Homosexuals Vs Hetero Singles – Concerning Thabiti Anyabwile and Gag Reflexes
(Link): Christians Selling Out Hetero Celibacy By Defending Homosexual Behavior – Re: Jars of Clay Controversy
(Link): The Sexualization of God and Jesus
(Link): A Female’s Virginity Belongs To Her – Not Her Father or Husband – Re: Christian Purity Balls
(Link): After Pastor’s Son Comes Out as Homosexual, Southern Baptist Church Breaks With Denomination on Homosexuality – Once More Christians Allow Their Feelings To Cancel Out What God Says In The Bible on Sexual Morality – Christians worship feelings now, not God
(Link): Kirk Cameron (Christian actor): ‘Fornicators and adulterers’ worse than homosexual marriage.