Dude Vows Abstinence for a Year, Finds Out It’s Not That Difficult

Dude Vows Abstinence for a Year, Finds Out It’s Not That Difficult

My take on being celibate (I’m a virgin and over 40 years of age): yes, it is difficult at times but not freaking impossible. I resent the pastors who say, “Oh, if you’re single past 40 and celibate, God gifted you with celibacy, so that God must have removed your sex drive, so that you find it easy peasy going without sex.” ~ WRONG.

But then you have 99% of other people, Christian and Non, who think “OMG, it is IMPOSSIBLE to go without sex for two days! It is a super human feat!! Nobody can live without sex.” ~ WRONG.

Both extremes are wrong, wrong, wrong.

I offer you that intro because the title of one of the pages I am linking you to below says that the guy who tried celibacy for a year “didn’t find it difficult.”

I’m sure at times he missed having sex, but found out that abstaining as not IMPOSSIBLE a thing that only asexuals or supermen can achieve.

Having said that, here are the links:

(Link): WHAT I LEARNED AFTER GIVING UP SEX FOR A YEAR

    Peter Lynagh learned that no matter how hard chastity can get, it pays off in the end.

    By James Joiner on July 22, 2014

    34-year-old Peter Lynagh did the unthinkable – he gave up sex, and all sexual contact short of kissing, for a year on a wager with his roommate.

    No, that’s not the plot of a romantic comedy… Okay, actually, it kind of is. But this is real life, and he did it, ultimately, for a good cause – his self-sacrifice raised over $50,000, and counting, for Free To Shine, a non-profit that works to provide alternatives to sex slavery for Cambodian girls. Here, he weighs in on what it was like, and how it has left him a changed man.

    … A lot of girls, they knew about it, so they were trying to break me. That wasn’t easy, I was out a few nights with the boys and they had to pull me away. Everything goes hand-in-hand. Drinking, going out, it’s all part of it. I was really the most healthy I’ve ever been last year.

    I started dating this girl. Don’t ask me why. She didn’t want a piece of me the year before, I think it was because I was trying to get in her knickers, and then this year because I couldn’t she was more interested. It was just so frustrating, because kissing just leads to… You know how it is. I nearly did break it with her, I was like, “I don’t give a fck about the charity!” I was like a man possessed; physiology and biology just took over. But I’m so glad she stopped me.

    Ultimately I went through a spiritual consciousness shift. A bit of an awakening, you might call it. I want to help more. I want to set up my own social enterprise or charity… Transcendental meditation has changed my life. I saw a quote from the Dalai Lama that said if every 8-year-old learned how to meditate, world peace would happen in just one generation, so that’s given me a bit of inspiration.

    …It was actually a chick who followed my year; she was stunning. I couldn’t have scripted it any better, it was really romantic and it lasted longer than either of us thought it was gonna last. It was great. Then we dated for a few months, but it didn’t work out. And yeah, I’ve had another couple, but definitely not anything like it was the year before the chastity.

    I’m seeing a girl now, and it’s different. I had to deal with a lot of demons from my past, which was the reason I was chasing so many girls. I really had to build that relationship with myself. And now I have a whole different viewpoint. It’s taken that fantasy of what I thought it was supposed to be like away, and I’m a bit more of a realist. I have a bit more connection and depth to my relationships.

(Link): Dude Vows Abstinence for a Year, Finds Out It’s Not That Difficult

    Peter Lynagh gave up sex for a year to raise money for charity. And despite what you saw in 40 Days and 40 Nights, it was not thatttttt hard.

    Lynagh told his story to Esquire, where he revealed that a lot of women attempted to “break” him. Overall, he actually found the whole year really healthy for him; he stopped drinking as much and, now that he’s back to vag, has developed more meaningful relationships with women:

    I’m seeing a girl now, and it’s different. I had to deal with a lot of demons from my past, which was the reason I was chasing so many girls. I really had to build that relationship with myself. And now I have a whole different viewpoint. It’s taken that fantasy of what I thought it was supposed to be like away, and I’m a bit more of a realist. I have a bit more connection and depth to my relationships.

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(Link): Typical Erroneous Teaching About Adult Celibacy Rears Its Head Again: To Paraphrase Speaker at Ethics and Public Policy Center: Lifelong Celibacy is “heroic ethical standard that is not expected of heteros, so it should not be expected of homosexuals”

(Link): No Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity – Christians Attack and Criticize Virginity Sexual Purity Celibacy / Virginity Sexual Purity Not An Idol

(Link): The “Problem” with Being Single (also discusses celibacy) by Heather Pillette

(Link): Virgins and Celibates are Sexual – Not Asexual and Androgynous – You don’t have to have sex to possess sexuality

(Link): Christians Selling Out Hetero Celibacy By Defending Homosexual Behavior – Re: Jars of Clay Controversy

(Link): I Shouldn’t Need An Excuse To Be A Virgin – (Secular Editorial Defends Virginity – More Rare Than a Unicorn Sighting)

(Link): Why So Much Fornication – Because Christians Have No Expectation of Sexual Purity

(Link): Christian World Vision Charity Okay and Dandy With Homosexual Marriage But Not Okay With Singles Fornicating