Stop Pretending Sex Never Hurts, By D.C. McAllister
This is the sort of editorial that would be mocked at Stuff Christian Culture Likes group (you can read my review of that group here).
But I agree with some aspects of it. (Please see March 2019 update below.)
(Link): Stop Pretending Sex Never Hurts
Every day we hear about something that is harmful to us, something the government needs to regulate or outlaw, something for which an avalanche of public service announcements must be unleashed on the American people as they drive home from work, watch television, or scan their favorite websites.
Don’t eat sugar. You’ll get diabetes and die.
….Meanwhile there’s not a peep about one of the most dangerous activities people engage in all the time—premarital sex. Or extramarital sex.
Or, dare I say the word—fornication?
Or does that make me sound too judgmental? Probably, but the word fits because sex is loaded with moral implications: The possibility of dysfunctional relationships, of sexually transmitted diseases, of an unwanted pregnancy or abortion.
The possibility of guilt, shame, depression, and suicide.
… When I hear people talk about sex as if it’s no big deal, as if it’s no different than eating a steak or going for a drive on the freeway, when I see ads comparing voting to losing your virginity, or when I hear social conservatives slapped down when they voice their objections to a licentious culture, my heart grieves.
That’s because I’m picturing the girl walking home alone after having sex on the beer-drenched floor of a fraternity house with a guy too drunk to remember her name. The tears on her cheeks. The tightness in her chest, the sick feeling deep inside, and the already-hardening effect of knowing she will do it again.
…The Stats Are No Joke
An estimated 8,300 young people between 13 and 24 reported to the Centers for Disease Control in 2009 that they had been diagnosed with the HIV infection.
From 2008 through 2011, among adult and adolescent males, the annual number of diagnosed HIV infections attributed to male-to-male sexual contact increased. At the end of 2010, nearly 873,000 people reported having HIV.
…Women who abort are four times more likely to die within a year than women who don’t get an abortion.
Women who aborted in the year before their death were 60 percent more likely to die of natural causes, seven times more likely to die of suicide, and 14 times more likely to die from homicide.
Abortion is linked to smoking, drug abuse, suicide, violent behavior, and eating disorders.
….People Have a Right to Know
Yes, a woman has a right to do what she wants with her body. Yes, men and women can engage in all kinds of sexual behavior if they want to.
But does that mean we should ignore the consequences? Remain silent to the costs? Refuse to issue warnings because we’re afraid we’ll be called judgmental or worse?
…If we’re going to warn people of the perils of Big Gulps and French fries, shouldn’t we warn them of the dangers of sex?
March 2019 update:
Please note: I agree with this McAllister person on some topics, but not all. She was recently fired from one or two outlets that she wrote for.
McAllister was unnecessarily rude to a homosexual journalist because he made an innocuous comment on one of her tweets which made her angry, and I don’t agree with her reaction.
Additionally, I don’t support McAllister’s views on marriage, in which she seems to believe that the only acceptable alternative to secular, liberal feminism is for all women to be subservient to men, especially within a marriage context.
I was raised in such an environment but rejected it a long time ago (see link here for more on that if you choose).
So, where McAllister defends more traditional mores regarding sexual behavior and criticizes a hedonistic view of sexuality that exists in culture, I am in agreement, but I’m not with her in her attitudes of women acting as doormats to husbands, or in her cussing out and insulting a homosexual journalist for politely commenting on one of her Tweets.
More on her firing here:
(Link): The Myth of Safe Sex by D. Foley
(Link): Stop Rewarding People For Their Failure – Christians Speaking Out of Both Sides of Their Mouths About Sexual Sin – Choices and Actions and How You Teach This Stuff Has Consequences – Allowing Sinners To Re-Define Biblical Terms and Standards