Christian Mingle Movie – Woman Fakes Faith To Get Spouse – Another Depressing Christian Message that Shames Single Women Who Want Marriage, Tells Single Women They Should Only Find All Contentment in Jesus, Jesus is Their Boyfriend
This woman “fakes faith” to get a Christian spouse? I had sincere faith for many years, and it didn’t get me a spouse, Christian or no (though I was engaged at one time). What a lame concept for a movie.
Just based off the headline, this sounds kind of insensitive. And as I’ve not actually seen the movie but have only read some reviews, etc, it’s possible I’ve gotten some things wrong. If my understanding is correct, however….
I was a Christian from a very young age up until the last year or two, where my faith started to take a dive (though I have not totally abandoned it).
This is most definitely a problem among Baptist, Reformed, and evangelicals: lots of Christian ladies over 30 and 40 who remained single, despite wanting marriage.
These single women did all the standard things one is told to do when Christian and wanting marriage. That is, at least, if you are not shamed for wanting marriage to begin with, because some Christians will tell you that you are selfish for even wanting or pursuing marriage.
If not that message, you will be told to pray, wait, have faith, and God will send you a spouse. And/or you will be told by other Christians to “serve,” and this is how you will meet “Mr. Right.” All of this has turned out to be ineffective advice for a lot of single ladies.
Here is an excerpt from the article:
- “Gwyneth Hayden is a 30-something marketing executive with a top-notch career, killer wardrobe, dream apartment and great friends. She thinks the only thing missing is a man.
In a moment of inspired desperation, she fills out a profile on the dating website ChristianMingle.com hoping to find Mr. Right,” noted a synopsis of the film on the movie’s website.
“However, Gwyneth’s attempts at impressing her dream guy end in disaster when he calls her out on her ‘faux faith.’ In an honest realization, she sees her superficial life for what it really is, and she’s driven to create a personal relationship with God. In the end, He delivers on the true desires of her heart: ‘life-changing’ love,” the description ended.
I don’t have any interest in clicking the embedded video they have on the page and watching it, but… I am assuming by this,
- He delivers on the true desires of her heart: ‘life-changing’ love,” the description ended.
They refer to the fact that the woman comes to salvation in Jesus christ, and Jesus becomes her “boyfriend.” Gag, barf.
My “gag, barf” there is not against the idea of faith, Jesus, or salvation, or a woman choosing to believe in Jesus, but that Christians continually shame any unmarried woman who wants to marry an actual flesh and blood guy, or, they try to pass off this concept of “Jesus as boyfriend.”
As wonderful a person as Jesus is, he doesn’t take me out on dinner dates or hold my hand on romantic walks on the beach. Not that I would want that sort of relationship with Jesus (trust me, I (Link): really would not, ew), but my point being that a woman knowing Jesus is not the same thing as having a husband. It doesn’t scratch that particular itch.
I’ve written on this situation before (or included content by others who’ve discussed it), in posts such as,
- (Link): Dating Jesus / Oh No I’m Single! (videos) – for single unmarried Christians
(Link): Don’t Give Up On Your Dreams
(Link): Desire for Marriage is Idolatry?
This applies to marriage, too:
(Link): Hypocrisy in Christian Culture – Those who idolize parenting chide infertiles for trying to have kids
Can I just say the reverse must be true: back when I was 100% Christian and on dating sites looking only for Christian men to date, I noticed that the self professing believers had vile or vulgar jokes or comments in their dating site profiles. Some of the ones who contacted me would tell me up front about their favorite sexual positions and other inappropriate first date type commentary.
I don’t know if these were atheists pretending to be Xtians (Christians) to get a Xtian woman, or if they were actual Xtians. I assumed the were actual Xtians.
Anyway, Christian single women do not need yet another message telling them their one and only satisfaction will be found in God and God alone.
That sounds so pious and biblical, but “knowing God” ultimately does not bring one comfort or companionship here in this life, (not in the sense of erasing longing for an actual spouse), why else do Christians think someone came up with the expression about Christians that “we are God’s hands; we are God’s eyes?”
I haven’t seen the movie, so I don’t know if the female main character ends up with a flesh and blood husband or not.
I guess I should be happy or grateful that Christian film-makers are at least acknowledging the existence of older singles, but it’s hard for me to cheer their films on completely when they seem to be re-hased Christian propaganda and cliches’ singles have been hearing at church for decades.