Church to Members: We Honor Only Mothers With Biological, Not Adopted, Children (via Ask Amy)

Church to Members: We Honor Only Mothers With Biological, Not Adopted, Children

I don’t know what’s more frightening and sad, that Christians marginalize singles and the childless and childfree or exclude mothers of adopted children, or the Non-Christians (and some Christians too) who DENY these things even happen, or they express shock that it might.

I saw some people leaving comments at an Ask Amy page expressing doubt that a church would or could be so callous towards certain types of mothers.

I have no reason to doubt it. I would actually be surprised if this sort of thing did not happen. Evangelical, Baptist, and other churches/denominations, regularly ignore singles and childfree people, or mothers who don’t fit their particular criteria of what it means to them to be a good or “godly” mother.

If they’re not ignoring these groups, they outright insult them or imply they are selfish or weird, or lacking in some other way.

Here’s the letter to “Ask Amy” (link):

    Dear Amy:
    In the course of the worship service at our church on Mother’s Day, particular recognition was given to some distinct mothers — the oldest present, a single with the most youngsters, a single with most kids present, and so on.

    But this recognition was specified biological mothers only, so this excluded a number of in the congregation who had mothered adopted children.

    I’d like your comment on this restriction.
    — A Bio and Adoptive Mother

    Dear Mother: I’m appalled.

I do not doubt the veracity of this story for a moment. Some churches or denominations can and often are that insensitive.

At least Amy was appalled by this.

In regards to other letters, Amy was catty about women who are over the age of 40 (link to that). Amy also thinks guys over 50 who befriend 22 year old college students are closet pedophiles (link to that).

Churches should stop holding Mother’s Day celebrations. There is no place in Scripture that instructs churches to hold church-wide services in dedication to mothers or fathers. None. It’s a secular holiday carried over into churches, and churches should be spending more time preaching about Jesus, and less about the so-called nobility of motherhood.
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