Why It’s Completely OK if You Don’t Like Babies – Is A Baby the Ultimate Buzzkill? by M. Ruiz

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  • By Michelle Ruiz
  • A dirty little secret is out — some women think babies are tiny life-ruiners.
  • Never mind their adorable giggles … or the way they perpetuate the circle of life. Babies have become the enemies of ambitious, adventurous women who believe that infants steal your freedom, derail your career, and mess up your relationship. In short, “They ruin your life,” says Kate Thompson, 30, an account executive from Washington, D.C. “They’re the most selfish beings on the planet.” A baby seems like a puking, pooping menace to Thompson’s sexy, new marriage. She loves spontaneous dinners and relaxing beach vacations with her husband, Will. A baby, they agree, would be the ultimate buzzkill.
  • Babies are taking a backseat as women become more highly educated and arguably more focused on their careers than ever before. There are fewer babies being born in the U.S., and more women are waiting longer to have them.
  • …. Some women enjoy babies but simply don’t want to have children. But others are becoming more blunt about their baby hate — and their disdain for in-your-face parents who allow their babies to disturb the peace at restaurants and on airplanes. “I can’t stand a baby, and unfortunately, they’re at every turn,” says Leiby, who claims babies are lording over her Instagram feed and drooling all over her favorite brunch spots. Aggressive parents make it worse, she says. “I feel like people are showing off, ‘We have this baby and we have this life! Look, it’s working!’ But you’re ruining my breakfast. It’s not working at all. Everyone hates you.”
  • Admitting to hating babies in the era of attachment parenting — think Alicia Silverstone passing food from her mouth to her son’s — remains socially taboo. “Women always have to say, ‘I love kids, I just don’t want them.’ You can’t ever just be like, ‘I don’t like them,'” says Chanel Dubofsky, 35, a writer and graduate student in Brooklyn. “There’s this idea out there that you have to become a parent, and if you don’t, you’re not a woman. It’s so annoying.”
  • ….Baby haters may be in the minority, but they’re proof that happily-ever-after doesn’t have to include a freshly swaddled baby.
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