Drunken Married Couple Has Threesome With Drunk Friend (Ask Amy column)

Drunken Married Couple Has Threesome With Drunk Friend (Ask Amy column)

I’ve said it before and will unfortunately will probably have to point this out again in the future, but Christians need to stop associating sexual purity and celibacy (and/or chastity) with only unmarried people, teens, and young 20 somethings, because there are still an awful lot of MARRIED COUPLES who are engaging in sexual sin.

This was in today’s Ask Amy. As if I needed another example that shows married couples are NOT more godly, mature, or responsible than single adults (which conservative Christians often like to claim):

  • DEAR AMY: My best friend came to my house last weekend after her breakup with her boyfriend. She brought a bottle of scotch.
  • My husband joined us and we kept drinking and things started to get cozy among the three of us. My husband had sex with my friend and me in succession. I encouraged this at the time.
  • The next morning, she left our house without saying a word. She texted me that she’ll never see me again as long as I’m married to my husband. I feel totally terrible. I tried to talk about it and my husband said it was the best sex experience of his life. He shows no remorse. He even said he would like to do it again!
  • As I was also involved, there was no case of cheating, right? I honestly don’t remember much.
  • Did he cheat on me? Can I hold him responsible? It was my friend who bought the alcohol and I persuaded my husband to join the party.
  • — Upset
  • DEAR UPSET: The way I read this is that your friend now refuses to be around your husband — or you as long as you are with him. It seems possible (likely, really) that she didn’t find this sexual experience consensual.
  • People who are drunk cannot give legal consent. She had just been through a breakup and was emotionally vulnerable and inebriated.
  • This was a horrible idea all around. I don’t know how you can accuse your husband of “cheating” when you were present, encouraged this, and (according to you) invited him to participate.
  • Do not blame your friend for bringing the bottle.Your husband might feel this was an awesome experience, but if he coerced (or forced) your friend (and/or you) to have sex with him while you were blackout drunk, then he is worse than a cheater, he is a rapist.
  • Things to worry about are: Possible pregnancies, and the police knocking on the door. Your friendship with this other woman is damaged, perhaps beyond repair.

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Related posts:

(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages

(Link): Christian Swingers: Body-building Christian Couple Advocates and Practices Wife Swapping – and the wife calls this lifestyle “pure”

(Link): Long Time Married Lady Wants to Know If She Can Have Affair Because Husband Has Not Been Spending Much Time With Her – Another example of why Christians need to teach that sexual purity is for all not just young singles

(Link): There is No Such Thing as a Gift of Singleness or Gift of Celibacy or A Calling To Either One

(Link): When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

(Link): Why So Much Fornication – Because Christians Have No Expectation of Sexual Purity

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One thought on “Drunken Married Couple Has Threesome With Drunk Friend (Ask Amy column)”

  1. hi from Sharon: I read this and was amazed. There is so much hypocrisy in the institutional church. Many marrieds in the church are a bunch of hypocrites, looking down at us singles. Many times, married people are more immoral than single people are.

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