10 Worst Sex and Romance Tips from the Christian Right
I take it that this is a left wing site (I’m right wing). But some of their points are right on the money, at least on this page. Some of the points it touches on are the “equally yoked” belief among Christians, but I didn’t include the “equally yoked” parts of the list..
(Link): 10 Worst Sex and Romance Tips from the Christian Right by Katie Halper
Here are a few excerpts from the page, with a few comments be me far below all this:
- 3. Understand That Men Have This Thing Called Sex Drive
- Another gem from Focus on the Family is the Jill Slattery essay (Link): “Sex Is a Physical Need,” which should really be called “Sex Is a Physical Need for Men.”
- She explains to her female readers, “One of the biggest differences between you and your husband is the fact that he experiences sex as a legitimate physical need. Just as your body tells you when you’re hungry, thirsty, or tired, your husband’s body tells him when he needs a sexual release. Your husband’s sexual desire is impacted by what’s around him but is determined by biological factors, specifically the presence of testosterone in his body.”
- So, imagine if your vagina were hungry. That’s what it would feel like.
- 4. Try to Imagine What Sexual Pleasure Feels Like, Though You Obviously Have Never Experienced It
- Slattery explains that, “Immediately after sexual release, men are physically satisfied.” Get it, women? There’s this thing that happens during sex which men find enjoyable. You probably can’t even begin to understand what that means. Because you don’t build sperm (see below).
- 5. Blue Balls Is Real, Painful and a Lot Like Breastfeeding
- Slattery continues explaining the biology behind the uniquely male sex drive: “as their sexual clock ticks on, [I have no idea what this means], sexual thoughts become more prevalent, and they are more easily aroused. The physical need for sexual release intensifies as sperm builds in the testicles. The body continues to produce and store sperm, although sperm production fluctuates based on levels of testosterone and the frequency of sexual release.”
- When a woman denies her husband an outlet, she is not only thwarting a biological need, but inflicting pain.
- Testicular pain. Slattery explains this in the only terms a woman can ever hope to understand: “The best way for a woman to understand this dynamic is to relate it to another physiological need. If you’ve had a baby, you may relate to the experience of milk building up in your breasts a few days after giving birth. The buildup of breast milk becomes annoying (and even painful) until the milk is expressed. You may have even had the embarrassing experience of leaking breast milk when it was not expressed. A male’s semen buildup is sometimes released through nocturnal emissions if it is not otherwise relieved. Just as with breast milk, sperm production tends to ‘keep up with demand.’ The more often a man has sex, the more semen his body is likely to produce.”
- Here Slattery seems to be sending a mixed message.
- Are women supposed to receive their husbands’ expression, lest he emit at night, embarrass himself or experience sperm buildup pain?
- Or are women supposed to dampen their husbands’ drives by interrupting the feedback cycle of semen-based supply and demand?
- Jill, if you’re reading this, please clarify.
- 6. Submit, Resist Your Natural Desire to Manipulate and…Submit Some More!
- Pastor John Hagee has tons of advice when it comes to marriage. And he should know because this rapture-ready Christian Zionist has been married twice.
- His second wife, Diana, is the co-author of one of Hagee’s most insightful books, What Every Man Wants in a Woman. Woman’s most important and god-given job is submission. “Remember that your husband has a God-given role as leader of your home.
- Allow the Holy Spirit to help you willingly submit to his loving, godly leadership. Avoid the natural desire to manipulate his leadership and dominate in situations that arise in your family’s life.” Let the holy spirit guide you into a prostrate position.
- Hey fellas! Here are some tips for you, you poor and patient sufferers of testicular pressure and pain.
Even secular relationship advice authors will tell you that there is no such thing as “blue balls” and that men can survive just fine without sex, going without sex does NOT damage the male body, so I’ve no idea why any Christian group would be doing telling women the contrary.
Quite odd also that a “family values” type organization would actually advise women that “sex is a need” because the Bible teaches no such thing.
Jesus and Paul were celibates. Neither one had sex, both had male bodies – and the Bible teaches that all believers are capable of self-control.
Having sex is not a need, not like drinking water or eating food. Any Christian organization teaching people that “men need sex” is not only in grave error, upholding gender stereotypes (since they often deny that sex is a need for women as well), but they are in biblical error.