Why Singles Are ‘Invisible’ in Many Churches; Two Megachurches That Have Thriving Singles Ministries
- BY MICHAEL GRYBOSKI , CHRISTIAN POST REPORTER
- The head of a North Carolina-based organization that aids ministries for singles has said that too many churches consider the unmarried to be “invisible.”
Kris Swiatocho, director of (Link): The Singles Network Ministries, told The Christian Post that “for most churches single adults are invisible. Mainly because most pastors, secretaries, deacons/elders are married with children. When they are in the pulpit they typically preach and identify with those that are like themselves.”
“I have actually spoken with churches who are not sure they have any singles there mainly because they view singleness has a particular age-range vs. someone who isn’t married from 18 to the grave.”
Swiatocho also told CP that there are multiple factors leading to this state of invisibility, including competition from other ministries, a lack of funds, “high turnover” for members, and a lack of demand from many congregations.
- …Georgina Agyekum of the multisite Maryland-based First Baptist Church of Glenarden, noted that her church’s singles ministry was about 20 years old and included about 300 to 400 singles in its ranks.
- “I believe the church is starting to do a better job reaching out to singles because of the realization that healthy singles lead to healthier marriages, families and communities,” said Agyekum. “Singles in general contribute significantly to the church body as a whole in service and even financially when taught how to lead positive and fulfilling lives in Christ.”
To build a strong singles ministry, Agyekum told CP that churches should look at “how to develop relatable programming that will meet singles where they are and guide them to where they desire to be as it aligns with the word of God.”
- …. While believing that not every church needed a singles ministry, Swiatocho of The Singles Network Ministries told CP that congregations need to reach out and give singles participation in church life.
- “I believe with my whole heart it really comes down to Spiritual warfare….we are in a battle. What better way to destroy the family then to destroy the single?” said Swiatocho.
“If we keep the single from church, from a Bible study, from friends then they stay home or seek relationships in the wrong places with the wrong people and the horrible sinful cycle goes on.”