Sexed-Up Culture Ruined Healthy Male-Female Work Relationships

Sexed-Up Culture Ruined Healthy Male-Female Work Relationships

(Link): Sexed-Up Culture Ruined Healthy Male-Female Work Relationships by Halee Gray Scott

Excerpts.

  • … As a researcher who focuses on female Christian leaders, I hear it over and over.
  • The first female vice president of a Christian organization confessed she missed out on opportunities to advance her projects because the president made businesses decisions over lunch, and he promised his wife he wouldn’t eat lunch alone with women. It was enough to make her want to quit.
  • A female pastor in Minnesota told me about being overlooked for staff development opportunities, while the lead pastor invested in her male coworkers. A female seminary professor shared the too-familiar struggle of trying to find a mentor among her all-male colleagues.
  • But it’s a tension the gospel demands we work through. In Ephesians 4, we see God’s intention for ministry is a productive, collaborative environment between men and women.

  • The source of ministry lies in the giftedness of anthropoi, humankind, both men and women (Eph. 4:8). Robust, successful ministry occurs when “the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part.”
  • Paul presents a vision of ministry where each flourishes in his or her giftedness. When tensions between the genders keep us from exercising our God-given talents, we need to address the root issues to find a healthy way forward.
  • …The sexual objectification of women and men in Western culture is (Link): extensive and (Link): well documented.
  • The rise in porn usage among men and women, the prolificacy of embedded sexual content in movies and television, and (Link): exposure to unwanted sexual content on the Internet go on to influence how we see real-life men and women in other settings.
  • Culture is something one can’t escape, for it seeps into us unseen, like the oxygen we breathe, affecting the way we perceive the world, the way we (Link): think about ourselves, and the way (Link): we relate to one another.
  • …An honest acknowledgment of the way we tend to sexualize others is the first step. From there, we have to commit to cease doing so in order to forge wholesome, mixed-gender alliances to advance God’s work in the world.
  • The way forward lies in a commitment to building relationships as prescribed by the Scriptures.

    The solution isn’t to try and build mixed-gender working relationships with anthropological naiveté, free of boundaries, as if the broader, sexualized culture does not matter and has no influence.

  • This love-starved, porn culture is the world in which we must strive to model genuine partnerships between men and women. We can pioneer a middle way, acknowledging the surrounding culture but refusing to segregate ourselves according to gender.

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