Churches No Longer Teaching that Pre-Marital Sex is a Sin

Churches No Longer Teaching that Pre-Marital Sex is a Sin

Here is a page by an author who says that he never heard until later in life, when serving with some ministry, that pre-marital sex is a sin.

I’m not sure what to make of this.

When I was growing up in the 1980s, and a college student in the 1990s, the “sex before marriage = sin” was common knowledge. It was not foreign to me as a kid growing up. Not only did I read that in Christian magazines and hear it on television on Christian programs, but I saw for myself that the Bible forbids sex outside of marriage.

A couple of years ago, though, I read a Christian book that says sometime around 2000 or 2005, churches – at least some denominations or the seeker friendly type of churches – stopped educating their youth and singles that sex prior to marriage is a sin, so that there is a lot of fornication going on, even among adult singles who attend Sunday School regularly.

I do not see how anyone growing up in the 1980s or 90s could be ignorant of what the Bible teaches about sex, since “sex before marriage is sin” was widely taught.

If there is one topic that is OVER discussed among Christians these days, especially from the pulpit, it is marital sex. Preachers never shut up about how married sex is hot.

(Link):  The ‘Biblical’ Sex Talk: What the Church Should Be Doing


  • June 1, 2015
  • By Ashby Neterer , CP Guest Columnist
  • If young adults do not hear about sex and sexuality in the church, they will hear about it somewhere. The worst thing that the church can do is to ignore the topic.

    …Sadly, in spite of my Christian upbringing, no one ever told me what was wrong with the hook up culture. In fact, sex before marriage was encouraged by much of my Christian family and by the unanimous agreement of my Christian friends, who both mentioned preventing unwanted pregnancies, but never voiced the option of abstinence.

    What is worse, I never heard about the topic of sex in church. It was not until my involvement with a Christian campus ministry that I heard someone speak against premarital sex using biblical teaching.

    …The reasons that I have found for church leaders and families avoiding “the (biblical) sex talk” are two: (1) condemnation for preaching something different from what they practiced, and (2) awkwardness and uncertainty of where to begin.

    …The second reason for avoiding the topic is remedied by looking at what scripture has to say about sex. It is most clear that sexual relations are relegated to the covenant of marriage in Genesis 2:24: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” (NIV, emphasis added).

    Another passage notes “since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2 NIV, emphasis added). Because people are so apt to have sexual relations, even in the improper context, Paul encourages us to have them instead in the proper context—marriage. (See other verses on this topic: 1 Cor 6:18, 1 Thes 4:3–7, Matt 5:27–28, Eph 5:5, Hebrew 13:4, et. al.)

    The Church is often branded as legalistic and puritanical with regards to this topic. I have heard it joked about, in sermons that do discuss the biblical context of sex, that the old church motto on the topic went as follows: “Sex is filthy. Save it for your husband.”

    It is this misrepresentation that leads newlyweds acclimated to church culture to feel guilt for having sex in marriage—yes, in marriage—and leads others to spurn marriage as an institution for the morally lax.

    (click here to read the rest)

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