Married Woman Says She’s Lonely Because Her Husband Works All The Time
It’s true. Being married doesn’t necessarily mean your loneliness will go away.
I was engaged for a few years. The guy I was engaged to was too wrapped up in himself, took no interest in me or my life or goals. The consequence is that I would sit alone with him in a room and still feel all alone. I didn’t really matter to him, but he expected him to matter to me (he had a double standard going on).
I just read in the paper the other day that movie stars Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are getting divorced after ten years. So marriages don’t always end up with a “happily ever after,” either.
If you do marry, one day your spouse will die, and perhaps before you do, which will leave you alone again.
If you are a single person who feels lonely or disappointed that you don’t have a spouse, just keep in mind that marriage is not always a magical elixir.
Here’s a letter to Dear Abby from a married woman:
- Dear Abby:
- I’m 19 and I got married six months ago to the love of my life. We have a great relationship despite how young we are.
- There’s one problem though: my husband’s job. His shift is 11 a.m. to 7:30 p.m. six days a week, and when he is not working, he’s sleeping, so he has no time for me at all and it’s killing our marriage.
- We spend maybe eight hours together a week.
- I’m feeling extremely alone.
- I know it’s not his fault because he has to keep this job to support us, but the very thing that is supporting us is tearing us apart. What do I do? Please help.
- Lonely Married Woman
And there you have it. In spite of having a spouse, this person feels all alone.
I’ve also seen blog posts by women in their 50s who have been married for X number of decades who say they feel lonely because their husband stop paying them attention years before. They share the same bed, sit in the same den together, but feel as though they don’t matter to their spouse.
(Link): Love Couldn’t Save Me From Loneliness By M. Puniewska