Stop Putting Pressure on Women to Have Kids Before They’re 30 by A. Chandler

Stop putting pressure on women to have kids before they’re 30 by A Chandler

I bet anything if LifeNews (pro life group I follow on Twitter, I think they follow me back) gets a drift of this link, they will probably retweet it to condemn it, or write an editorial condemning it (read more about that site’s tendency to demonize Childfree adults (Link): here – see also: this Link).

I am pro-life on the abortion topic myself, but I loathe how the Catholic pro-life sites equate being childfree to infanticide.

I don’t see anything wrong with people choosing not to have children, and I think it’s vile to condemn or shame women (or men) who choose not to have children.

The shaming that goes on against women who choose to forgo children in effect, on some level, shames and diminishes female celibacy.

It’s as though these Catholic and Protestant sites that condemn abortion and also condemn the childfree also think poorly of adult, celibate, single adults. The Bible simply does not command people to marry and/or have children, but they behave as though it does.

(Link): Stop putting pressure on women to have kids before they’re 30

Excerpts

by A Chandler

  • Aug 1, 2015
  • Today is International Childfree Day, AKA the day when those of us who don’t have kids can revel in all the things parents can’t do – like having a lie in, reading a book, getting out of the house in under 10 minutes or locking the bathroom door when we go to the toilet.
  • One thing that dumps all over this carefree happiness, though, is people like Professor Geeta Nargund insisting that (Link): women have kids before 30.
  • Back in May she wrote an open letter to Education Secretary Nicky Morgan, suggesting that teenagers should be taught about the dangers of delaying parenthood when they’re at school. She reasons that women are leaving it too late to conceive and burdening the NHS with high IVF costs.
  • Frankly, any woman who is surprised to be told at 40 that conceiving will be difficult has obviously been living in a cave for their whole life, because women are constantly bombarded with messages about their declining fertility.

  • Whether it’s relatives making comments about ‘ticking biological clocks’ or my doctor cheerfully telling me that the pill is infinitely more effective at the age of 29 than it was at 17 because I am ‘vastly less fertile now’, I am well aware of the biologically ideal time to have children.
  • It’s just a shame it’s not the right time from an emotional, financial and practical standpoint.
  • …There are so many things that a woman needs to consider before having a child. Her age is just one component of that. Having a child before you’re emotionally and financially ready is just as risky as having a child when you’re over the ideal age for it.

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Related Posts:

(Link):  A Woman’s Fertility is Her Own Business, not Everyone Else’s by L. Bates

(Link): More Criticisms of the Pope’s Anti Childless Anti Childfree Comments

(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian

(Link):  270 Reasons Women Choose Not To Have Children

(Link):   Pro-Life, Yet Anti-Celibacy, Anti-Childless Christian Site Tweets Story about Mother Who Slit New Born Infant Son’s Throat to Save Her Sex Life

(Link):  Infertility/ Kids/ The Male Biological Clock

(Link): College Women, Don’t Listen to Marriage Concern Trolls

(Link): The best age to marry is when you meet the right person – editorial responding to study that says if you marry past 30 your marriage is doomed

(Link):  Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother

(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison

(Link): Check your ‘cat-lady’ preconceptions about childless women

(Link): I’m Childless, Not Child-Incompetent (editorial by G. Dalfonzo) – The Christian Tendency to Worship Family, Motherhood, and Children

(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman

(Link): Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage (and “family”) by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists

(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible

(Link): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin)

(Link):  “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site

(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings

(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t

(Link):  The Rise of the Lone She-Wolf by Charlotte Alter

Link): Totally Obnoxious Parent: Childless Couple Who Donates to Childrens Charities Lambasted by Snotty Adult Sister for Not Showering Her Kids with Christmas Presents – Parents Who Discriminate Against the Childless or Childfree

(Link): Prejudiced Writer Stupidly Blames Slutty Halloween Costumes and Societal Ills on Childless the Childfree, and Unmarried Adults – but Married people and parents are not perfect either

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