Here’s What All Women In Sexless Marriages Need To Know
As you know if you’ve been to my blog before, one topic I repeatedly remind readers of is how Christians will entice people to stay virgins until they marry by promising if they will only wait, that the sex will be regular and/or “mind blowing.”
What happens in some marriages, however, is that one partner may not be interested in having sex for whatever reason (and sometimes it’s the WIFE who goes without sex, contra usual Christian stereotypes that men are horn dogs and women don’t want sex).
(Link): Here’s What All Women In Sexless Marriages Need To Know by B. Wong
Excerpts:
Stuck in a sexless marriage? You’re not alone. According to data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, the top-searched marriage (Link): complaint on Google is “sexless marriage.” (What’s more, searches for “sexless marriage” are three and a half times more common than “unhappy marriage” and eight times more common than “loveless marriage.”)
(Link): Many of those searching for answers are women struggling to understand why their spouses aren’t reciprocating their desire for sex. We reached out to marriage therapists and sex experts to share the advice they give women stuck in sexually unsatisfying
marriages. Read what they had to say below.
- 1. KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE
- “Many women are the ones with a higher sex drive in their marriages but women commonly don’t discuss this dynamic openly with friends. Also, the media portrayal of relationships makes women think that males have a constant high level of sexual desire.
- On the contrary, many women struggle in sexless marriages. Outside of therapy, I’d say that finding a support system can be invaluable. There are forums online where women share their experiences, such as the (Link): Dead Bedrooms forum on Reddit.” — Samantha Rodmanpsychologist and couples’ counselor
- 2. DONT BLAME YOURSELF
- “It may not be you, so stop beating yourself up. It is no indicator of how sexy you are as a woman if he is initiating or not. Many times men stop initiating sex because they are stressed or they are experiencing some kind of erectile dysfunction and they’re too afraid to tell you.
- Men define their sexuality by their ability to perform and if they cannot achieve an erection upon demand they may withdraw.
- Keep being affectionate and let him know there is no pressure to get to the ‘finish line.’ Let him know you still want to cuddle and be close and then if you still want a ‘happy ending,’ well, frankly, you can take care of it yourself.
- If he wants to participate, he might find himself more turned on than he thought himself capable. Don’t wait for him to take charge. It is OK as the woman to be the driving force of your sex life.” — Tammy Nelson, certified sexologist and sex therapist and the author of Getting the Sex You Want
You can visit their page to see the rest of their tips.
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Related Posts:
(Link): Why Doesn’t Your Husband Want to Have Sex? by E. Bernstein
(Link): Married Woman Signing off as “Looking Ahead” Admits to Being in Sexless Marriage for TEN YEARS
(Link): Wife Writes to Ask Amy About Her Sexless Marriage October 2013
(Link): Her Marriage is Sexless While She Cares For Sick Elderly Father
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