Meagan Good Tells Single Women Why They Should Stop Having Sex
I’ve never heard of her before – Megan Good.
At least she isn’t running around promoting use of terms or concepts that annoy me to no end, such as “born again virgin” or “spiritual virgin” (see this link for more).
I’ve not started having sex yet myself, so I find it funny that a portion of this headline reads, “why you should stop having sex”.
It’s sad how even this 30-something actress seems to assume that all unmarried women are boinking outside of marriage. Not all of us are.
There is no acknowledgement among Christians (and Non) that there are any virgins over the age of 25 or 30.
Christians continually assume all singles past a certain age are fornicating. I find this continual assumption unfair and possibly discouraging to adults who have stayed the course on biblical sexual ethics, Christians who are virgins over the age of 25 or 30 and beyond.
I’m not having an easy time following this story I am linking to below.
Based on what I’ve read before, it sounds to me (and yes, I could have this totally wrong), is that she was NOT a virgin before she married.
It sounds as though she was fornicating (with other men), but when she got engaged, she and her honey pie (who she eventually married, or will marry) decided to stay celibate with each other until they married. Maybe I have that wrong, but that’s what it sounds like to me.
Anyway, here is the link.
(I have a few more comments below this long excerpt):
- “Minority Report” actress Meagan Good is speaking out about the importance of encouraging young women to abstain from sex in a way that’s seemingly not religious.
- “I speak to young women because I think a lot of the images that are out there now teach women that they need to be a certain kind of way in order to get attention or be considered valuable. … I do encourage them to wait but I’m not preachy or religious,” Good, 34, said in a Philly.com. report.
- …According to Philly.com, Good will be releasing a new book about abstinence called The Wait just after Valentine’s Day in 2016. The actress previously appeared on “Jimmy Kimmel Live” where she spoke about the upcoming book, which she’s co-authoring with husband DeVon Franklin.
- “We’re writing a book; it’s called The Wait,” she told host Jimmy Kimmel. “I’d been in a couple relationships and I was like, ‘You know, this isn’t really working for me.’ I wanted to do something different.”
- …The Christian actress then explained why she later decided to stay abstinent before marriage.
- …Franklin and Good married in 2012 after a highly publicized romance. However, she admitted that celibacy was a part of both she and her husband’s commitment to one another.
- …”It was very different and it’s been amazing,” Good told Kimmel. “He had been celibate for almost 11 years because he’s a minister. He didn’t want to get up on the pulpit and do his thing and not be doing what he was saying.”
- …Although some might think it’s easy wait until after marriage to engage in intercourse, Good insisted that is not the case.
- “You’d be surprised. Obviously, we all know that it’s tough, but there were tricks that we learned that actually helped,” she said. “One of them was parting ways, when its time to part ways. If you feel like it’s getting too hot and heavy, you just have to go [away].”
- …Good and her husband previously advised young men and women via Franklin’s brother’s Web series, “Let’s Pray!” on Hope channel, in which they advised women against premarital sex so that they could avoid the wrong relationships.
Regarding this bit:
- Good and her husband previously advised young men and women via Franklin’s brother’s Web series, “Let’s Pray!” on Hope channel, in which they advised women against premarital sex so that they could avoid the wrong relationships.
I was dating a guy in my late 20s, engaged in my early to mid 30s. The problem with this view Good is promoting is it seems to assume you will marry eventually, especially if you just remain sexually pure (stay a virgin or go celibate). That is not true.
I appreciate what Good is trying to do – steer women, especially, away from having a lot of casual pre-marital sex, because that can hurt them physically and/or emotionally – but to imply that staying celibate is a relationship cure-all and a promise of getting a “Mr. Right” at some stage, is a false hope.
I’m in my early 40s, still a virgin, and no (marital) prospects in my immediate future. I may die never having married.
Staying celibate or being a virgin is not a promise you are going to get married, and at that, get married by a certain age.
You can follow all the rules in life, follow biblical teachings on morality, and still end up single and alone. And Christians seldom acknowledge this.
The Bible itself does mention this situation, however, especially in the book of Psalms.
The Bible itself does mention that a Christian can follow all the rules to the best of her ability and still end up hosed, short changed, and hurt in life.
Jesus Christ is probably the ultimate example of this phenomenon – despite the fact he was good, kind, and completely sinless, he was nailed to the cross and died a very painful death.
Off the top of my head, I cannot recall every last biblical passage that addresses this issue, but here are one or two I do remember (you can find more yourself by going through the book of Psalm):
(Link): Psalm 37
- Do not fret because of those who are evil
or be envious of those who do wrong;
2 for like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.
- 3 Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
- 5 Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
your vindication like the noonday sun.
- 7 Be still before the Lord
and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when people succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.
- 8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath;
do not fret—it leads only to evil.
9 For those who are evil will be destroyed,
but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.
- 10 A little while, and the wicked will be no more;
though you look for them, they will not be found.
11 But the meek will inherit the land
and enjoy peace and prosperity.
- For I envied the arrogant
when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.
- 4 They have no struggles;
their bodies are healthy and strong.
- 5 They are free from common human burdens;
they are not plagued by human ills.
- …This is what the wicked are like—
always free of care, they go on amassing wealth.
13 Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure
and have washed my hands in innocence.
14 All day long I have been afflicted,
and every morning brings new punishments.