Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer
These are just excerpts, so you’ll have to visit the link here to read the page in full:
(Link): Bible Scandals (Ineligible Bachelor) by David Instone-Brewer
Commenting on what it was like to be single in the time and culture of Jesus:
- …. Girls were mostly married by the age of twelve, and if a man wasn’t married by the age of twenty the gossips started comparing notes and looking for a reason.
- …. So why was Jesus still single at the age of thirty? It was clear to all who knew him. No-one would let his daughter marry someone of questionable parentage since, if there was any irregularity in their birth, it could cast doubt on the legitimacy of their children for ten generations. And Jesus’ birth, as everyone knew, was very irregular.
- …. Jesus not only shared the stigma of being single – he also tried to do something to alleviate it for other single people. Jewish law excused eunuchs from the command to marry, because they couldn’t physically fulfil the duty to have children.
- Eunuchs were classified into two groups – those who were born as eunuchs (ie. ‘made eunuchs by God’) and those who had become eunuchs ‘by man’ (eg. by an injury).
- Jesus introduced a third category, pointing out that God did not require everyone to get married and attempt to have children. He said that one could choose voluntarily to live like a eunuch for the sake of the Kingdom (Matthew 19:12).
- … Paradoxically, some churches today still tend to stigmatize singleness by focussing on marriage and children.
- … Living in a world where ‘virgin’ is an abusive or comic label can be a heavy burden for many single Christians. For most of them, of course, the ‘stigma’ is far less of an issue than the desire for the love and intimacy of a marriage. Jesus suffered alongside them as a single person every day.
(Link): Ever Notice That Christians Don’t Care About or Value Singleness, Unless Jesus Christ’s Singleness and Celibacy is Doubted or Called Into Question by Scholars?
(Link): Do You Feel Shame About Being Single? By John Amodeo, PhD
(Link): Blogger Guy John Morgan Who Accused Me Of Being Untrustworthy Finds My Blog Trustworthy Enough to Use as Resource
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site
(Link): No, Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity or Sexual Purity or Modesty
(Link): (Left Wing, Feminist) Salon Author Amanda Marcotte Thinks Media Shouldn’t Judge Women’s Sexuality But She Has Mocked Women Over Their Sexual Choices Before (To Remain Virgins)
(Link): Christians Who Attack Virginity Celibacy and Sexual Purity – and specifically Russell D. Moore and James M. Kushiner
(Link): The Isolating Power of Family-Centered Language
(Link): Are Single People the Lepers of Today’s Church? by Gina Dalfonzo
(Link): Stop Telling Adult Singles and Adult Virgins That Their Virginity and Singleness is “For God’s Glory” – just stop it already
(Link): Southern Baptists Pushing Early Marriage, Baby Making – Iranians Pushing Mandatory Motherhood – When Christians Sound Like Muslims
(Link): Singles Shaming at The Vintage church in Raleigh – Singlehood Shaming / Celibate and Virgin Shaming
(Link): The Bible Does Not Teach Christians to “Focus On The Family” – The Idolization of Family by American Christians (article)
(Link): “Because I was single I felt second class.”-by Chandin, former Mars Hill member & single, on Mars Hill church
(Link): Statistics Show Single Adults Now Outnumber Married Adults in the United States (2014)
(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)
(Link): Why Christians Need To Stress Spiritual Family Over the Nuclear Family – People with no flesh and blood relations including Muslims who Convert to Christianity – Also: First World, White, Rich People Problems
(Link): Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother
(Link) Have we made an idol of families? by A. Stirrup (copy)
(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison
(Link): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin)
(Link): A Response to the Hemingway Editorial ‘Fecundophobia’ – conservatives and Christians continue to idolize children, marriage – which is unbiblical
(Link): Misapplication of Biblical Verses About Fertility (also mentions early marriage) – a paper by J. McKeown
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t
(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian
(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society?
(Link): Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles?
(Link): Why Singles Belong in Church Leadership by L. Ferguson
(Link): Are Christian Singles The New Second Class Christian? by Duke Taber
(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings
(Link): Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage (and “family”) by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists
(Link): Misuse of Terms Such As “Traditional Families” by Christians – Re: Kirk Cameron, Homosexual Marriage, and the 2014 Grammys